Do we look for drama in our lives?

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    Dec 01, 2013 4:25 AM GMT
    I never understood what people refer to as "drama." But I was exchanging texts with a friend and he said, "…you chase around drama in your life." I'm now starting to think it's true.

    How do we stop this vicious cycle? How do we identify it before we get overly engaged with it? What are everyone's coping mechanism for this?
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    Dec 01, 2013 4:41 AM GMT
    Define drama lol. One of my friends told me that on Grindr, "drama-free" is code for "don't judge me for having a bf/husband/etc, and I won't judge u either" or something like that icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 01, 2013 11:00 PM GMT
    Making a big deal of a rather simple situation : drama.

    Calling drama a complicated situation : laziness, lack of empathy
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    Dec 01, 2013 11:44 PM GMT
    all the post above: drama dribble
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    Dec 01, 2013 11:47 PM GMT
    I usually find myself in drama when a potential BF or current BF is indecisive about me, or wants something I am unwilling to yield. The moment I realize that an excessive amount of emotional energy is going into one of these guys, I cut the cord. Time to break up and move on.

    I'm willing to work really hard at a relationship, but if the same issue keeps cropping up, with little resolve - the "drama" becomes a basic incompatibility. Either you can BOTH let it go as inconsequential to your lives together, or the relationship must end.
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    Dec 02, 2013 12:00 AM GMT
    Aristoshark saidPeople love to throw that word "drama" around as a way of putting down the emotional issues in someone else's life. They never call their own issues "drama". Nope, those are just the normal healthy responses to stimuli that are completely normal. But yours----yours are drama.

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    Dec 02, 2013 2:18 AM GMT
    Life is drama, everything we do is drama. Life choices, decisions decisions! I don't think you can stop the cycle or try to avoid it at all cost. I mean there are certain people that I put up with their drama/shit, there are certain people I don't care about! The biggest drama I had was a couple years ago involving some family members and friends. But the results came out were we all became better people!
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    Dec 02, 2013 3:02 AM GMT
    i dont think people chase drama in life. I think they react to life dramatically and then say their life is full of drama. really, THEY are full of drama.
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    Dec 02, 2013 3:31 AM GMT
    Drama is good. Drama is what makes life fun.
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    Dec 02, 2013 4:26 AM GMT
    thebearerofbadnews said
    GrumpyKat saidDrama is good. Drama is what makes life fun.


    you obviously haven't been in any drama if you're saying that. drama is fun to watch BUT not fun to get involved with.


    He gets a pass because he's 18yo. When he gets older, he'll discover that drama is never-ending and it sucks!
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    Dec 02, 2013 4:30 AM GMT
    I live a stress free life.

    Drama is for those who seek it.
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    Dec 02, 2013 4:54 AM GMT
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    Dec 02, 2013 6:34 AM GMT
    Aristoshark saidPeople love to throw that word "drama" around as a way of putting down the emotional issues in someone else's life. They never call their own issues "drama". Nope, those are just the normal healthy responses to stimuli that are completely normal. But yours----yours are drama.

    Like most opinions, it's worth precisely what you paid for it.


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    Dec 02, 2013 7:19 AM GMT
    marcobruno1978 saidI never understood what people refer to as "drama." But I was exchanging texts with a friend and he said, "…you chase around drama in your life." I'm now starting to think it's true.

    How do we stop this vicious cycle? How do we identify it before we get overly engaged with it? What are everyone's coping mechanism for this?
    There is no coping mechanism, drama comes because there are some difficult moments due to difficult relationships, money problems, family, health etc....its normal....and besides we gay men have a affinity for being dramaticicon_smile.gif
    I one just paint when i feel cornered by shit, and i paint a lot
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    Dec 02, 2013 7:31 AM GMT
    IRFire66 saidi dont think people chase drama in life. I think they react to life dramatically and then say their life is full of drama. really, THEY are full of drama.



    THIS.
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    Dec 02, 2013 7:33 AM GMT
    secondstartotheright saiddrama.gif?w=652



    OMG What episode is this?! icon_eek.gif
    I missed so many episodes from that show!
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    Dec 02, 2013 7:37 AM GMT
    I certainly don't! Avoid it at all costs. Life is much to short to be dealing with that crap. I have had enough and wish for no more.
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    Dec 02, 2013 9:56 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said
    secondstartotheright saiddrama.gif?w=652



    OMG What episode is this?! icon_eek.gif
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    looks like the first season
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    Dec 02, 2013 1:50 PM GMT
    I said of myself in my rj profile: "Nice guy. No drama." By this I meant that I consider myself to be fairly rational and level headed. I tend not to have extreme mood swings. And I try to be kind to myself and empathetic to others. I try not to overreact to small stresses in life. I try to be a peacemaker in relationships with others without sweeping real issues under the rug. And I try to be self-reflective enough to catch myself when I stray too far from these ideals.

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    Dec 02, 2013 2:17 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidPeople love to throw that word "drama" around as a way of putting down the emotional issues in someone else's life. They never call their own issues "drama". Nope, those are just the normal healthy responses to stimuli that are completely normal. But yours----yours are drama.

    Like most opinions, it's worth precisely what you paid for it.


    Love this.
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    Dec 02, 2013 3:09 PM GMT
    Yes... I think some people do more than others. Some seem to thrive on it.
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    Dec 02, 2013 3:21 PM GMT
    “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation." -Thoreau

    I suspect some people actively seek drama as a way of giving their life some excitement and meaning. However, I think when gay guys say "no drama" they mean: I will stand by you in good times but as soon as things get a bit rocky or uncomfortable for me I'm outta there. I steer clear of that type. Life is full of ups and downs, and yes, drama we didn't actively seek. I want someone who will stand by me through the bad times (read drama by some gays) as well as the good times.
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    Dec 04, 2013 4:27 AM GMT
    I get the impression that calm and laid back people are often given a bad rep which sucks for me icon_sad.gif

    but I think no matter how bothersome drama could be(even petty drama) people will somewhat tolerate it because at least they somewhat know where those people stand.. but someone who's unfazed by it get's looked at with suspicion because they appear unapproachable.


    Just an observation but I do find that to be very ironic lol
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    Dec 11, 2013 8:17 PM GMT
    thebearerofbadnews said
    GrumpyKat saidDrama is good. Drama is what makes life fun.


    you obviously haven't been in any drama if you're saying that. drama is fun to watch BUT not fun to get involved with.


    No, I've been in a lot of drama. Even though at that moment it may suck, but on hindsight I enjoyed it. It makes me feel alive, I guess.
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    Dec 11, 2013 11:08 PM GMT
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    thebearerofbadnews said
    GrumpyKat saidDrama is good. Drama is what makes life fun.


    you obviously haven't been in any drama if you're saying that. drama is fun to watch BUT not fun to get involved with.


    No, I've been in a lot of drama. Even though at that moment it may suck, but on hindsight I enjoyed it. It makes me feel alive, I guess.


    well, then. the drama you've been in obviously isn't anything serious where you had something or someone you love at stake.


    I love how you just assumed that.