Matthew Dempsey, Gay Psychotherapist on Youtube

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    Dec 01, 2013 7:43 PM GMT
    Has anybody seen or watched this guy and his videos? Very informative and a bit validating, but also a bit...well, I mean, he's kinda distracting if you know what I mean. icon_redface.gif



    His "Compare and Despair" video, while meaning well in its message, might not have been delivered as well as possible. Not his fault, it's just that he's so physically good-looking that you wouldn't believe he could actually empathize or relate to that despairing experience.

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    Dec 01, 2013 8:04 PM GMT
    Yes, and
    YES!
    a couple years now.
    http://www.matthewjdempsey.com/blog/
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    Dec 02, 2013 2:37 AM GMT
    wow he is hot might have to watch more often
  • Nayro

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    Dec 02, 2013 2:43 AM GMT
    I would like to work for him icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 02, 2013 5:30 AM GMT
    So if he wasn't attractive would we still listen to what he has to say. Today someone was so upset an actor died, because "he was so handsome". Our priorities are so on point!

    I used the wrong [are] and no one corrected me! icon_evil.gif
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    Dec 02, 2013 5:57 AM GMT
    I feel like I would comprehend more if he was shirtless.
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    Dec 02, 2013 6:49 AM GMT
    TheQuest saidI feel like I would comprehend more if he was shirtless.


    Out of all the men I wouldn't expect this from you!
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    Dec 02, 2013 6:51 AM GMT
    Scotticvs said
    His "Compare and Despair" video, while meaning well in its message, might not have been delivered as well as possible. Not his fault, it's just that he's so physically good-looking that you wouldn't believe he could actually empathize or relate to that despairing experience.


    Why wouldn't you believe that? Good looking people compare themselves to other people all the time and they are not immune from getting into depressive states. His "Compare and Despair" theory do not strictly apply to average or ugly people.

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    Dec 02, 2013 8:28 AM GMT
    Erik101 said
    Scotticvs said
    His "Compare and Despair" video, while meaning well in its message, might not have been delivered as well as possible. Not his fault, it's just that he's so physically good-looking that you wouldn't believe he could actually empathize or relate to that despairing experience.


    Why wouldn't you believe that? Good looking people compare themselves to other people all the time and they are not immune from getting into depressive states. His "Compare and Despair" theory do not strictly apply to average or ugly people.



    But it's not like we can know they're comparing themselves to other people. We can't read other people's minds. We are more inclined to trust him if he were less attractive and we could see him receiving negative feedback in his attempts to put himself out there. But he doesn't. He gets a lot of positive feedback. That's bound to build self-esteem and confidence.
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    Dec 02, 2013 10:31 AM GMT
    AnOriginal said
    TheQuest saidI feel like I would comprehend more if he was shirtless.


    Out of all the men I wouldn't expect this from you!


    I was kidding. I do have a sense of humor.
  • killercliche

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    Dec 02, 2013 10:38 AM GMT
    He looks attractive, but he doesn't sound very attractive on any level.


    He sounds more like a guidance counselor than an education psychotherapist.
  • 6packabs

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    Dec 02, 2013 12:19 PM GMT
    I totally agree with him about the drugs and alcohol. Who needs or wants those crutches? Sex itself is a magnificent drug, connecting with another man in a fun and physical way. Male on male sexuality brings such a big smile to my face when I see it portrayed in an uplifting way between two attractive and consenting men who are into each other and celebrating sex rather than degrading one another through the act.
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    Dec 02, 2013 12:26 PM GMT
    killercliche saidHe looks attractive, but he doesn't sound very attractive on any level.


    He sounds more like a guidance counselor than an education psychotherapist.


    That's because he is. His website states he is a counselor.
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    Dec 02, 2013 7:09 PM GMT
    6packabs saidI totally agree with him about the drugs and alcohol. Who needs or wants those crutches? Sex itself is a magnificent drug, connecting with another man in a fun and physical way. Male on male sexuality brings such a big smile to my face when I see it portrayed in an uplifting way between two attractive and consenting men who are into each other and celebrating sex rather than degrading one another through the act.


    +1 SEX IS A 'DRUG'; A natural and healthy high
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    Dec 02, 2013 7:53 PM GMT
    Oh my god, I would never seek this guy out for advice. Sure, he's cute, but jeebus...he even blinks slow. That growl at the end of "...otherwaaaaz [otherwise]..." killed it for me.
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    Dec 02, 2013 7:54 PM GMT
    So what exactly did he say? I can't play the video very well. My Google Chrome is rubbishy. What does he say?
  • killercliche

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    Dec 02, 2013 9:16 PM GMT
    Erik101 said
    killercliche saidHe looks attractive, but he doesn't sound very attractive on any level.


    He sounds more like a guidance counselor than an education psychotherapist.


    That's because he is. His website states he is a counselor.


    Sorry, didn't get that far. This is what it states under the video:

    "Psychotherapist Matthew J. Dempsey talks about common issues with sex and goes on to describe how it can specifically play out in the gay male community."



    But I can see how he could be helpful to very young gay kids, but pretty much everything he says is a bunch of generalizations and half-thinking person could figure out on their own.
  • ASHDOD

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    Dec 02, 2013 9:25 PM GMT
    it might be unfair, but i agree that he is too handsome to understand men who are not handsome as he.
  • ASHDOD

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    Dec 02, 2013 9:40 PM GMT
    i didnt mean distracting, he could be a dentist or a teacher, but i dont think he could relate to a gay man who for example have insecurities about their looks[and there are lots of us who are like that]
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    Dec 02, 2013 10:56 PM GMT
    He could be looking for a side job as one of those "resident experts" on TV news shows and such. Youtube is an easy way to develop a presence.
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    Dec 02, 2013 11:59 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    Ashdod saidit might be unfair, but i agree that he is too handsome to understand men who are not handsome as he.

    Really? He's not bad looking, but not exactly distracting.


    Taking into account that half of his face is his forehead I'm sure he's qualified enough to talk about insecurities.