How to be a great top?

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 02, 2013 6:57 AM GMT
    I realized I can't be a bottom; it's too vulnerable and the thought of going there feels like a guy would be getting more than what he deserves. So there are plenty of how to be a bottom or will my first time hurt threads etc.

    NOW let's start a thread with what makes a great top, preferably from an experienced pitcher.

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 02, 2013 7:07 AM GMT
    Listen to your bottom, his ass his rules, and try and feed off his body language. Some guys like it deep with short stroke, some guys like long full strokes, don't be afraid if foreplay and learn to love eating ass ;) it will get you far
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 02, 2013 7:25 AM GMT
    Behemothboi saidListen to your bottom, his ass his rules, and try and feed off his body language. Some guys like it deep with short stroke, some guys like long full strokes, don't be afraid if foreplay and learn to love eating ass ;) it will get you far
    uh you beast <3 rrr
    Communication is also important, the guy above me is a caveman but if you wanna be a great top you need to penetrate a guys mind and body, try listening to him and dont let him finsh last, it gets weird when top finishes first and the bottom last....the top will lose interest in the sex...so make sure he feels good and is mind and body feeling you ;)
  • LilScottie41

    Posts: 14

    Dec 02, 2013 7:41 AM GMT
    It's kinda like... "You want people skills? Be a person!"

    Excepts this is... "be a bottom!"
    The golden rule isn't called golden because it's easy to find. If you just get considerate and give what you'd love to take as a bottom, the rest is self explanatory.

    #1 is talk: people don't talk in sex a lot of the time but you definitely have to talk to your bottom. This isn't just about pleasure after all, anal can hurt a person and the quicker you can work out the kinks the quicker you can JUST worry about enjoyment. I'd masturbate anally to gain an appreciation for what your bottom's dealing with and trying to make work.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 02, 2013 4:36 PM GMT
    Bang them often, so the first few times you are banging away, you figure it out. Everyone is different, so the idea of some sort of perfect top/bottom is silly. The first time I had sex with my current LTR I just plowed the hell out of him, he said he hated it, I kind of thought it was great. Someday maybe I will pay more attention to his needs, until then, I like banging the hell out of him and he does keep showing up.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 02, 2013 4:39 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidBang them often, so the first few times you are banging away, you figure it out. Everyone is different, so the idea of some sort of perfect top/bottom is silly. The first time I had sex with my current LTR I just plowed the hell out of him, he said he hated it, I kind of thought it was great. Someday maybe I will pay more attention to his needs, until then, I like banging the hell out of him and he does keep showing up.
    this made me laugh lol
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 02, 2013 11:17 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidBang them often, so the first few times you are banging away, you figure it out. Everyone is different, so the idea of some sort of perfect top/bottom is silly. The first time I had sex with my current LTR I just plowed the hell out of him, he said he hated it, I kind of thought it was great. Someday maybe I will pay more attention to his needs, until then, I like banging the hell out of him and he does keep showing up.
    oh come on lol thats not nice x_X
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 02, 2013 11:32 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidBang them often, so the first few times you are banging away, you figure it out. Everyone is different, so the idea of some sort of perfect top/bottom is silly. The first time I had sex with my current LTR I just plowed the hell out of him, he said he hated it, I kind of thought it was great. Someday maybe I will pay more attention to his needs, until then, I like banging the hell out of him and he does keep showing up.


    Hi.icon_biggrin.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 02, 2013 11:39 PM GMT
    As the Tri-State Bottoming Champion 3 years in a row (2007-2009) I feel I have the proper education to comment on this topic. icon_biggrin.gif

    Let me tell you a secret, deep down (no pun intended) every true power bottom likes to be dominated. And while this is true, don't forget at the end of the day the bottom is still in control of the sexual relationship. If a bottom isn't feeling it, then there is no sex.

    So while you should be aggressive and in control of your bottom, never ever forget that ultimately it's the bottom who will determine if you get your nut off. So don't go too overboard.

    While you are fucking your man, it's always nice to every now and then check on how he is doing. If he gives you the thumbs up, continue on going to pound town. If he looks like hes in pain, ease up a bit.

    For me, I like a little lite chocking and slapping from my top. Some dirty talk is nice too.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2013 1:43 AM GMT
    I topped cute guys in the past before! Lol you just have to do it! I learn it by watching porn! Basically, just lube up the butt real well, put on a rubber then start f***** him! Lol be careful of his comfort zone and if you're going too hard/fast!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2013 2:07 AM GMT
    MedgenC said
    smartmoney saidBang them often, so the first few times you are banging away, you figure it out. Everyone is different, so the idea of some sort of perfect top/bottom is silly. The first time I had sex with my current LTR I just plowed the hell out of him, he said he hated it, I kind of thought it was great. Someday maybe I will pay more attention to his needs, until then, I like banging the hell out of him and he does keep showing up.
    oh come on lol thats not nice x_X


    He's a fucking "blocked and ignored" asshole, but he's right. The proof is in the return visit. Selfish angry bastards sometimes make the most satisfying tops. He used the verb "Bang". As in "bang him like a screen door in a hurricane". It's not a warm, cuddly verb. It's nasty, raunchy and to the fact, which is sometimes for what bottoms ache to experience.

    66968_zps99e8db10.gif
  • Apparition

    Posts: 3525

    Dec 03, 2013 4:09 AM GMT
    hookups want to be dominated, ltr's want communication.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 03, 2013 4:30 AM GMT
    socalx10 saidBasically, just lube up the butt real well, put on a rubber then start f***** him! !


    Wow what an instructive eye opening tip! One learns something new everyday here :p
  • takashi

    Posts: 192

    Dec 04, 2013 7:20 PM GMT
    Well, tops are not so talkative. In my experience, if I wanted to change positions, I slowly shifted my body and we would change positions. If a guy was banging me too hard in doggy, which can be the most painful position in my experience, I put my hand on my guy's thighs or body and gently push him and indicate for him to slow down. My threshold for pain is pretty high but sometimes, OMG, it can get painful.

    Usually, I do the talking telling him, that I like what he is doing to me. Whether he likes it or not, I like talking and/or moaning while having sex.

    The top has to do most of the work. He has to have a cock that works, a hard cock that can penetrate.
    If the top is not going to communicate then let the bottom do the guiding. For the top, be sensual, not just wham-bam thank you boy, go slow and make it sexy.

    For young guys it can be a power or physical thing. The top may want to just plow the bottom and if the bottom is OK with that then that is how its gonna go. Just have fun.

    I am a mature bottom, my tops are mature men. We take things slower. This leads to long love making sessions, alot of body contact, kissing and most of all being connected. My men no longer cum two or three times a session, so we try to make that one time count!
  • spacemountain

    Posts: 23

    Dec 06, 2013 9:22 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidAs the Tri-State Bottoming Champion 3 years in a row (2007-2009) I feel I have the proper education to comment on this topic. icon_biggrin.gif

    Let me tell you a secret, deep down (no pun intended) every true power bottom likes to be dominated. And while this is true, don't forget at the end of the day the bottom is still in control of the sexual relationship. If a bottom isn't feeling it, then there is no sex.

    So while you should be aggressive and in control of your bottom, never ever forget that ultimately it's the bottom who will determine if you get your nut off. So don't go too overboard.

    While you are fucking your man, it's always nice to every now and then check on how he is doing. If he gives you the thumbs up, continue on going to pound town. If he looks like hes in pain, ease up a bit.

    For me, I like a little lite chocking and slapping from my top. Some dirty talk is nice too.


    this, a million times! wow great way to sum it up.

    edit: dont forget guys you are in "sex and adult" not "dating and relationships"
  • Noreaster

    Posts: 8

    Dec 08, 2013 5:41 AM GMT
    Some of these responses are a little iffy. I'll give you some magic advice.

    This is how I drive a bottom completely wild. This has never not worked for me and not had a bottom not moaning for more:

    When you start making out in bed, have the bottom lay on his back and you propped up next to him. You want to constantly emphasize positions that make your chest and shoulders and manly traits prominent. put your arm under the small of his back and grab his face and kiss him very deeply. Kiss his neck for a while. Then part his legs and crawl on top of him, in between his legs. Remember to consistently have your chest elevated over him, and then dry hump him with you in between his legs. let him put his hands on your shoulders and chest, you want him to be somewhat crushed under you, but admiring your strong body. Don't put your hands on his chest like you're bracing yourself on him, and don't grip his shoulders while you're on top of him. You also want to stay between his legs, because if you sit on his stomach it starts to get bottomy for you.

    After a while, start stripping him. The more clothes you can take off for the both of you the more you exert control. In between taking things off, bend down and kiss him here and there. remember, you always want him in a passive, compromising position, even when taking off clothes. So once you're completely naked, sit up and have him suck you a little, don't be too forceful, but stay up and elevated and have him lower, sucking your dick. While he's sucking your dick, reach down and play with his ass. Don't forget to moan while you're getting sucked. It feels good and you want him to hear it.

    After he's sucked you for a while, put him on his back. Don't suck him. A lot of bottoms really don't want to get sucked if this is going to be a fuck session. put your condom on, lube up and then finger his asshole for a while, still hovering over him, while he lays on his back and moans. Then you push his legs up and slide your dick in. Fuck him in missionary position for a while, and if you can, hold his wrists above his head intermittently. Crush him with your body. and put your chest right in his face. After you've fucked in missionary a while, tell him "I want you to sit on it". YOu lay on your back and have him do cowboy, where he sits on your dick but is facing you. Don't let him bounce up and down too long, you want to maintain control, so spred your legs wide while he's sitting on you, pull him very close to you and then fuck him hard so you can feel and hear your balls slapping against ass.

    WHen you've done this awhile, you can move into doggy if you want, but always cum on his stomach.


    Cheers.