Is this 'nice' rejection..

  • Onemoresummer

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    Dec 02, 2013 10:19 AM GMT
    I had dinner and drinks with this guy and we ended up at mine watched a movie and ended up making out/giving each other hand jobs.
    We sent a couple of texts back and forward a couple days later after 'the date'

    Anyways, 4 days later (today) I sent a text saying "hey man, wanna hang out another time soon or something".

    He replied with

    "yeah for sure icon_smile.gif i've got a busy week coming up..I picked up a few shifts at work. We should def go clubbing properly together sometime".

    Is that just a nice way of saying "oh maybe if we meet out we can fuck" - because i'm not really going to bother if that's the case, there's enough one night stands I can get.

    What should I reply with..
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    Dec 02, 2013 2:30 PM GMT
    I'm not seeing the rejection part.
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    Dec 02, 2013 2:34 PM GMT
    Did you really use the words: "hang out...or something"?
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    Dec 02, 2013 3:10 PM GMT
    In my ultra prude opinion, if you want to have emotional relations with a man, you should not have sexual interaction with him on the first date. Sounds like he just thinks of you as a fuck buddy now.
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    Dec 02, 2013 4:08 PM GMT
    Avsigkommen saidIn my ultra prude opinion, if you want to have emotional relations with a man, you should not have sexual interaction with him on the first date. Sounds like he just thinks of you as a fuck buddy now.


    This.

    Also what Jaggal said.

    Stop fooling around on the first date guys if you want something meaningful, not classy and makes you look whorish !!
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    Dec 02, 2013 4:13 PM GMT
    Dude your fine.. your not a Whore..and I've had pretty good relationships with guys I've actually fucked on the first date.. just hang out with him. If you don't want sex then don't sleep with him.. show him your interested in more than just fucking
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    Dec 02, 2013 4:27 PM GMT
    Behemothboi saidDude your fine.. your not a Whore..and I've had pretty good relationships with guys I've actually fucked on the first date.. just hang out with him. If you don't want sex then don't sleep with him.. show him your interested in more than just fucking


    Ps: I didn't say he is a whore, I have done this mistake myself before, but that's the impression it sends out, and guys will think you probably fool around the same with every guy you meet so they won't take you seriously.
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    Dec 02, 2013 4:29 PM GMT
    I guess I'm just lucky
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    Dec 02, 2013 4:47 PM GMT
    Onemoresummer said

    Is that just a nice way of saying "oh maybe if we meet out we can fuck" - because i'm not really going to bother if that's the case, there's enough one night stands I can get.

    What should I reply with..


    Seriously? What makes you think he wants to have a 1 night stand just because he suggested to go clubbing?
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    Dec 02, 2013 5:10 PM GMT
    Seriously, those smart phones are dumbing ya'all down. Stop connecting only by phone. Use it initially if required in today's pathetic world, but then put it the fuck away. Connect with people in person or your futures are going to be so sad, your pasts empty of personal experience. You're just going to live alone in your own heads, like some stupid fucking computer gaming which is not your own thinking, not knowing what the fuck is really happening.

    Don't make this the evolution of technology. Use it to connect, not to isolate. Life is going to do its damnedest to isolate you all on its own--deaths, betrayals, aging--don't help it along. You guys need to fight life for your lives or your smart phones are going to outsmart you.
  • PR_GMR

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    Dec 02, 2013 5:36 PM GMT
    Like JohnSpotter posted above, I don't see any rejection here. He wants to see you again. Stop worrying that it's gonna turn into a relationship and see him. It's just a second date. No more, no less.
  • PR_GMR

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    Dec 02, 2013 5:40 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidOh, I see the Church Ladies are having a shindig in here.


    This. Don't listen to Solomono or Jaggal if you don't want to get laid and want to sit there like a prissy church-lady twink until someone puts a damn ring on your finger, OP. The dude wants to see you. Go on that second date.
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 02, 2013 5:46 PM GMT
    JohnSpotter saidI'm not seeing the rejection part.

    This.
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    Dec 02, 2013 5:48 PM GMT
    PR_GMR said
    Aristoshark saidOh, I see the Church Ladies are having a shindig in here.


    This. Don't listen to Solomono or Jaggal if you don't want to get laid and want to sit there like a prissy church-lady twink until someone puts a damn ring on your finger, OP. The dude wants to see you. Go on that second date.


    Well sorry I'm not a whore getting gang banged by all sorts of people as you are.

    Neither me nor Jaggal are telling OP not to go out with the guy, but to express his intentions to him since he doesn't want one night stands. I know it's hard for you to grasp that not everyone is into slutting around, and getting tired of it.
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    Dec 02, 2013 5:55 PM GMT
    @ OP just tell him that you don't want to go clubbing if that's not what you envisioned your 2nd date to be like.

    And tell him whatever your intentions are. I don't think he has rejected you, but he might not be getting what you want. It's not late to make yourself understood, and good luck ;)
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    Dec 03, 2013 3:49 AM GMT
    PR_GMR said
    Aristoshark saidOh, I see the Church Ladies are having a shindig in here.


    This. Don't listen to Solomono or Jaggal if you don't want to get laid and want to sit there like a prissy church-lady twink until someone puts a damn ring on your finger, OP. The dude wants to see you. Go on that second date.


    It always seems like after a certain age, or a certain post count on RJ, guys give up and turn into whores.
  • kiwi_nomad

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    Dec 23, 2013 5:21 PM GMT
    is this the guy from this thread you posted earlier?

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3552860/