At the bar with straight friends

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    Dec 03, 2013 10:14 AM GMT
    Anyone else ever been out to the bar with straight guy friends, say for a sports game, and you thought for a second about RJ and you hope that you don't somehow let that piece of information slip?
  • Fable

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    Dec 03, 2013 10:15 AM GMT
    no.
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 03, 2013 5:17 PM GMT
    That is the pain of being closeted. You're constantly evaluating your actions to suit others. It becomes kind of a mental illness.
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    Dec 03, 2013 5:22 PM GMT
    No, because all of my straight friends know I'm gay and we talk about any topic that comes to mind.
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    Dec 03, 2013 5:24 PM GMT
    I got tired of dancing around pronouns, so I just came out. Life is so much simpler and easier.....and real!
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    Dec 03, 2013 5:52 PM GMT
    Consider this: Guys are used to seeing other guys paired up with and boning women. They know instinctively who IS and who ISN'T getting laid, or going out with women. Your friends are going to realize sooner or later that you're not with any women. You're secret is no secret. Might as well tell them you're not into women and that you like guys. They'll respect you for having guts to just be yourself.
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    Dec 03, 2013 5:53 PM GMT
    unckabasa saidI got tired of dancing around pronouns, so I just came out. Life is so much simpler and easier.....and real!




    I don't "shout it from the rafters"....but I don't hide it anymore.


    Life IS so much simpler and easier this way.



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    Dec 03, 2013 5:58 PM GMT
    thebearerofbadnews said
    Jockbod48 saidConsider this: Guys are used to seeing other guys paired up with and boning girls. They know instinctively who IS and who ISN'T getting laid, or going out with women. Your friends are going to realize sooner or later that you're not with any women. You're secret is no secret. Might as well tell them you're not into women and that you like guys. They'll respect you for having guts to just be yourself.


    sorry but this is not true. not every straight guy flaunts around their heterosexuality like that. dunno why you're stereotyping all straight guys for being manwhores.



    Not what I said. Nobody said a straight guy flaunts his heterosexuality. Nobody said a straight guy is a manwhore. Learn to read and when you're quoting someone, do this accurately. As you said in your own profile:

    "hello. i'm that dude that posts here daily and doesn't know when to shut the fuck up."
  • LJay

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    Dec 03, 2013 6:00 PM GMT
    Uh, sure. There are some things that influence the situation these days, though. First, I don't go out anymore. Really no crowd to mix with. Secondly, the topic just does not come up because the few friends that I do have simply do not care. As far as I am concerned, if they have problems with people around them being gay then the problems are theirs, not mine.

    Another thing. As you get older you find that you have the power to simply reject unfriendly or rude people for whatever reason. Be your own man. You will find that others look up to you for it.
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    Dec 03, 2013 6:12 PM GMT
    ^^^^^Quit following me around through the threads trying to pick arguments. Go back and get some education, some experience in life, learn some grammatical skills, take some classes in a junior college - - - and then come back and tell someone like me where to get off.

    And keep in mind that quote of yours from your own profile:

    "hello. i'm that dude that posts here daily and doesn't know when to shut the fuck up."
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    Dec 03, 2013 6:34 PM GMT
    ^^^^^ Pazzy, you write ignominiously, like a person who isn't in command of his facilities. Are you possibly upset because your little Anus friend got kicked off this site once again? You've defended him and made yourself appear foolish. Your 'argument' is without merit. Go back, get some experience, finish high school, take some remedial reading and writing courses somewhere, and you'll be better for it. Good luck with making some headway there.
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    Dec 03, 2013 6:50 PM GMT
    No the guy i was with knew i was gay. we were just going out to enjoy the night and b/c i had a bad week.
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    Dec 03, 2013 6:56 PM GMT
    No because I'm not a closet case and beer is fucking delicious.
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    Dec 03, 2013 7:24 PM GMT
    No, because I have no straight friends. Straights are banal, pedestrian, and boring. Not to mention they are aways pushing their lifestyle on me with their PDAs.
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    Dec 03, 2013 7:30 PM GMT
    Come out. Don't be a dick.
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    Dec 03, 2013 9:53 PM GMT
    TrevorMark saidNo because I'm not a closet case and beer is fucking delicious.


    +1

    Seriously, why are people wasting time with the few stubborn holdouts who don't accept gays? You can do better.

    Back when I used grindr, I told straight friends about it and they were some combination of amused and envious...
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    Dec 03, 2013 10:29 PM GMT
    thebearerofbadnews said
    Jockbod48 saidConsider this: Guys are used to seeing other guys paired up with and boning girls. They know instinctively who IS and who ISN'T getting laid, or going out with women. Your friends are going to realize sooner or later that you're not with any women. You're secret is no secret. Might as well tell them you're not into women and that you like guys. They'll respect you for having guts to just be yourself.


    sorry but this is not true. not every straight guy flaunts around their heterosexuality like that. dunno why you're stereotyping all straight guys for being manwhores. there are plenty of shy straight guys that aren't hooking up, have a hard time asking females on a date, have trouble getting laid, go about checking every female out, announcing how they love pussy and etc.


    This is 100% true but there are also some guys who are attractive, fit, intelligent, funny and outgoing who never even pay any attention to women. These guys are usually rumbled at some point. There are also guys who pine pathetically after their best looking friend but let's not get into that...
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    Dec 04, 2013 2:34 AM GMT
    ButterQuest saidAnyone else ever been out to the bar with straight guy friends, say for a sports game, and you thought for a second about RJ and you hope that you don't somehow let that piece of information slip?


    Buddy, you're in higher education in Boston. There really are very few scenarios in this land that are more conducive to coming out of the closet without incident. Nobody cares, and youre wastin valuable mental energy getting your stories straight. Take advantage of this time... The longer you wait, the sillier you tend to look.

    Not criticizing you. I'm in your area, I can refer you to people your age that can help you. Take care.
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    Dec 04, 2013 3:38 AM GMT
    They know I'm gay. Sorry I should have clarified that. I just thought maybe there was some other guys out there who could relate to keeping this a secret. If you don't though I'm interested to know why, because I feel like it would be TMI
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    Dec 04, 2013 3:42 AM GMT
    lol no but I have thought of other gay things ith straight people and had to catch myself before I let it slip out
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    Dec 04, 2013 3:51 AM GMT
    Erik101 saidNo, because all of my straight friends know I'm gay and we talk about any topic that comes to mind.

    Seriously? How boring are you? You should be educating them on the housewives of some bitchy place! icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 04, 2013 3:54 AM GMT
    I go to bars with my straight friends about 99% of the times that I go out...never thought of RJ though
  • MikeW

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    Dec 04, 2013 4:09 AM GMT
    Ok so if you're out to them what's the big deal about RJ? Why do you feel you have to keep it secret? Dirty pleasures? icon_eek.gif
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    Dec 04, 2013 8:09 AM GMT
    ButterQuest saidAnyone else ever been out to the bar with straight guy friends, say for a sports game, and you thought for a second about RJ and you hope that you don't somehow let that piece of information slip?


    It's the only way I'm in a bar.
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    Dec 04, 2013 8:13 AM GMT
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    Erik101 saidNo, because all of my straight friends know I'm gay and we talk about any topic that comes to mind.

    Seriously? How boring are you? You should be educating them on the housewives of some bitchy place! icon_smile.gif


    What makes you think I haven't already? icon_biggrin.gif