Starting 'Out'

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    Dec 03, 2013 8:27 PM GMT
    The whole gay scene is relatively new to me....finally had the guts to come out last year at the age of 41. In the past year I have had a lot of personal issues to get my head around in relation to my sexuality and everything that being gay entails. I have never had any sexual experiences with another male whatsoever (nor with a female for that matter either) and, well, I guess I am a bit scared that I never will. I have huge hangups about my appearance and worry that no one will ever be attracted to me as anything more than just a friend. I am seriously overweight, but I am working on that and have lost several kilos in the past few weeks...but need to lost another 30 kilo or so...that is a lot of weight!. I guess I compare myself to other guys...including so many of you on here and read your stories and your experiences and wish that I too could have some of those positive experiences too. I don't even really know what it is I am asking exactly...maybe just that do you think it is possible for someone like me to ever be found attractive by another guy? (Which i know is a hard judgeent to make seeing as none of you know me) icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 03, 2013 8:50 PM GMT
    Aww a newbie <3

    Sex is very easy and no one is too ugly to get laid ( you look cute btw!)

    It is however harder to find guys who want something more substantial. Start out by making quality friends and see where it goes icon_smile.gif and don't get yourself caught up in the unhealthy superficiality of the gay scene ^^ just be as you always were and don't change for unworthy ones.
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    Dec 03, 2013 8:58 PM GMT
    You took the biggest step, which was coming out, so you are in a good place. When you have no experience at all, that can be a challenge, but the best thing you can do is get out there, socialize and show your personality. Really find out what type of guy you like and what type that you attract.
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    Dec 03, 2013 10:14 PM GMT
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  • jo2hotbod

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    Dec 04, 2013 1:04 AM GMT
    If you want to lose weight keep it up, maintain your vision and don't get discouraged it will take a while but it will be worth it when you achieve your goal. Do it for yourself and no one else and do it because it is healthy as well as for appearances sake (as you stated) just stay motivated.

    And yes there is someone out there for everyone, you just have to try and the worst thing that can happen is they say no. The best thing that can happen is they say yes. Either way nothing will change until you get out there and open your mouth.

    Good luck
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    Dec 04, 2013 4:14 AM GMT
    I get motivated to exercise and stay in shape when I come to this web site. I'm sure you will too. Keep on exercising. It helps not only physically but emotionally too. Hope you find buddies on here.
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    Dec 04, 2013 4:31 AM GMT
    I know very unattractive guys (and girls for that matter) who get laid all the time. Btw, I'm by no means calling you unattractive. I'm just stating the fact that if you really want it, it can happen. Just be safe and don't set your expectations too high...my first time was terrible but I got it over and done with. Your first might be better...but just get the experience first and you'll be fine.