Already Christmased-out... are you?

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    Dec 07, 2008 5:21 PM GMT
    We went to a private Christmas dinner party Friday night at one of my in-laws. But we had to arrive there 5 hours early to decorate the house, inside and out, because there'd been a medical emergency with another family member earlier in the week, complicating preparations (things are OK now).

    We did fair, but not anywhere near as impressive a job as professionals would have done, had that been possible this year.

    So by 7 PM we're exhausted as the (all gay) guests arrive. But a lovely evening, with 5 opera singers among them, who took turns at the grand piano for some thrilling entertainment.

    Most amazing to me was a duet from Handel's Judas Maccabaeus, transcribed for male voices. And one man was a native of Thailand, and the other from Malaysia (though of 3rd-generation Chinese decent, as he pointed out). And I thought what wonderful music is Handel, to survive centuries, and transcend cultures. Not to mention the remarkable talents of the singers themselves, just glorious.

    So last night (Sat) is another Christmas gay dinner party, this time no audience participation required. Just struggling with my envy at a house and 2 trees decorated better than I ever could, breathtakingly stunning. As I said to our host, misquoting Rudyard Kipling: "You're a better gay than I am, Gunga Din."

    So today I'm back to decorating our own place, a week-long project, and my partner is getting in a better mood as he sees the clutter of storage tubs disappear as the decorations go up. Hopefully no more drama from him until after Christmas.

    But then I get a phone call from our chorus director. "Tom, is it too late to ask you to be our MC & narrator for the Christmas performance this Wednesday? I can email you the script, and we have rehearsals Monday & Tuesday night." I agree, can't be the Grinch, but damn, I got so much on my plate already.

    [BTW, one of the things I just displayed is a "Dickens Village Set" of Victorian homes, church, stores, animated skaters on a pond, etc. And it looks more New England Currier & Ives to me than Dickens. Shouldn't Dickens be the ruined mansion of Great Expectations, the workhouse of Oliver Twist, the impoverished home of Bob Crachit in A Christmas Carol, maybe even the guillotine of A Tale of Two Cities? Just a thought...]

    So tomorrow and Tuesday I have rehearsals now, still finishing the house, because on Wednesday, besides the performance (gawd, my costume!), I have to take someone to the airport, while our guest from Amsterdam arrives there later, staying with us until after Christmas.

    And there are no less than 7 major parties I know about, that we're supposed to attend, a couple of fundraisers, and several shows, all before Christmas. And still entertain our guest from Europe, do our shopping, etc, etc.

    Whose idea was Christmas anyway? icon_razz.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 07, 2008 5:31 PM GMT
    Well I know Christmas is always a busy time for all. I'll be the first to say
    (with 3 Christmas trees in my house) decorating alone can be a challenge, but add in all the usual reponsibilities, gift and financial focus, social responsibilities, etc, it can be an exhausting time for all. I have at least one holiday party a season here and a set of older "church ladies" that tour my house as a part of a fund raiser.

    I also take some time to reflect and cherish the season alone for a few moments. Its important to reflect upon Christmas' past and the real reason for the season. I used to do more of that reflection (maybe I can reflect on the If you don't enjoy (I mean really enjoy) your approach, I suggest you and your partner make some incremental changes to make it
    less stressful.

    .....and on the Dickens' Village.. I'm a Dept 56 Dickens collector and yeah,
    I still have some of the buildings to get up this weekend. Have fun there.

  • VinBaltimore

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    Dec 07, 2008 5:43 PM GMT
    I'm pacing myself this year! Although it's been a lot easier since I'm not working right now. We bought the tree yesterday, but by the time he got home from tennis and we had dinner we didn't end up decorating it until about midnight. I really wanted it up today because my mom and my aunt are stopping by to drop off tickets for the Ravens-Redskins game later. So the house is DONE!

    Bought all the ingredients for cookies and I plan to start on that tomorrow. I give them out instead of Christmas cards. I'd rather bake than have to write out and mail all those damn cards!

    Only been to one party so far. Two more to go -- on is the office party for the company I used to work for. My boyfriend/partner/whatever still works there. Awkward.

    And I'm limiting myself to three hours of holiday music a day. If I go to heavy, I'll want to hurl everytime I hear "Jingle Bell Rock" by the time Christmas actually gets here.

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    Dec 07, 2008 6:09 PM GMT
    Totally Christmased OUT. That's why I'm going to Burma for Christmas, literally.
  • coolarmydude

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    Dec 07, 2008 7:41 PM GMT
    You should outsorce the work. Mind you, gay immigrants only. icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 07, 2008 7:52 PM GMT
    I'm not Christmased out at all. Since it's sunny and 80 or 90 every day here, it doesn't even feel like December, much less Christmas. Plus, the only thing that says Christmas on this island is a lone Christmas tree in front of one of the resorts. No music, no decorated stores, no cool weather, no snow, no smell of fires, etc... I can't wait to get back to Ohio for a couple of weeks over the holidays, do some shopping, wear a heavy coat, light a fire, etc...
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    Dec 07, 2008 7:58 PM GMT
    Unfortunately i am sooo over it this year. The weather has been warmer than usual and thats nice and all but the city started putting up all the decorations in the parking lots and on the light poles on the streets and freeways on Nov 1. It seems like it has been Christmas since early October in some stores around here icon_neutral.gif
  • styrgan

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    Dec 07, 2008 8:19 PM GMT
    I love decorating for Christmas. I just finished the outside of my house after like three days. I throw my Christmas party next weekend, so that's next on my agenda. I love this kind of stuff.

    If you'd pay my airfare, I'd be happy to do all your work for you!!!
  • cowboyathlete

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    Dec 07, 2008 8:45 PM GMT
    And to think it is not even Christmas Day itself yet.
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    Dec 07, 2008 9:10 PM GMT
    My partner reminded me an hour ago that we have another holiday dinner tonight, this one a gay men's social group to which we belong, that I'd forgotten all about. Damn!

    Interesting group, limited to exactly 36 members. Each man hosts a party at his expense, once each 36 months. His guests pay nothing. There's also an annual awards party, that includes a prize for best party during the previous 12 months. Locations may included homes, restaurants, ships, all kinds of places.

    The members may bring limited guests, so turnouts can be 60-70. Needless to say, the cost can run into the many thousands, with cocktail hour included. But since you only do it once every 3 years, and all the other dinners are free, it's really not so bad. Plus a nice group of guys.

    And now I gotta leave for it...
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    Dec 07, 2008 10:17 PM GMT
    yeah Im all christmased out, i work as a graphic designer for a small printers while I'm finishing my degree in graphic design,
    and I've been designing christmas raffle tickets, party invitations, and leaflets and posters for christmas events since September, it just doesn't feel right putting a snowman or Santa in his sleigh on a christmas poster when its a sunny and bright september day outside.

    And i haven't started shopping for gifts or attending parties yet. icon_eek.gif

    But everyone have a very merry Christmas. icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 08, 2008 1:01 AM GMT
    ... i don't even feel the holiday season. i see it at work, at the malls and on my neighbors' houses... but just don't feel it.
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    Dec 08, 2008 1:05 AM GMT
    Finished my shopping and just finished putting the tree up, so I am ahead of the christmas schedule this year. I skipped a party this afternoon. I have just been too rundown from work, lack of sleep and colds. icon_sad.gif
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    Dec 08, 2008 3:04 AM GMT
    I've been Christmased out since 1988, since then I don't celebrate Christmas the conventional greedy way.

    I believe in buying a decadent cake, singing Happy Birthday Jesus, cut the cake and go to bed. It's just a birthday.

    I was alienated by many since I axed the present idea.