Downsides to seeing a much hotter guy

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    Dec 04, 2013 5:23 AM GMT
    I started seeing a guy as of last weekend. I've noticed some looks already, but earlier while having having coffee with him outside, two village clones passing by saw our arms linked, and one muttered "he's for rent", quite loud as if wanting us to hear it. Who does that? Obviously he doesn't believe that a 23 year old needs to rent, but is rather pointing out the difference in "leagues". Fortunately my rent boy was too focused on our own conversation and missed it... I wouldn't want him to know his gay market value just yet lol.

    Has anyone dated way above or below their leagues, and gotten unwanted attention?
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    Dec 04, 2013 6:08 AM GMT
    imo leagues aren't real
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    Dec 04, 2013 7:56 AM GMT
    IRFire66 saidimo leagues aren't real


    Agreed! The OP encountered two pretentious bitches who attract drama. Has nothing to do with leagues.
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    Dec 04, 2013 1:44 PM GMT
    IRFire66 saidimo leagues aren't real

    Yes they are.
    Whenever you see a couple whose looks are notably unequal the instinctive reaction is to wonder about the relationship dynamic. That's not to say that people can't be genuinely attracted to each other for reasons other than looks. But in the vast majority of cases there will be some parity of looks in a partnership.
    And, unless he's autistic, the hotter one cannot fail to notice how often others check him out.
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    Dec 04, 2013 2:34 PM GMT
    hotness is pretty relative. People are attracted to all sorts of differnt looks, shapes, features, builds, etc. There is also a lot more going on than just physical appearance. Personality, attitude, confidence, all matter. I've been with way too many who seem way out of my league to still believe in that idea.

    Either that or, based on the hot guys i've had, i must be way hotter than i thought LOL. Heh, I'll stick to leagues arent real.
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    Dec 05, 2013 1:06 AM GMT
    IMO hotness has both subjective and objective measures, otherwise the term "universally hot" wouldn't exist. That's why it's common to see a slight disparity in attractiveness among couples, but not night-and-day differences.

    I remember back when I was closeted and was playing the "show your face pic first" game with this guy online, I was asking him to rate himself out of ten, and he protested, citing for example "well I think Brad Pitt is a 2/10". He was trying to make a point, because guess what, he turned out to be ugly lol.
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    Dec 06, 2013 3:43 PM GMT
    The last thing you should care about is what others care about. Just ignore 'em icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 06, 2013 6:18 PM GMT
    They may not be "rent boys" at all.

    If a couple seems mismatched it may be your perception. If I see an obvious Hot One with someone more subtle, I wonder what the other guy 'has', maybe a smokin body, a big dick, a PHD in animal husbandry? Everyone has value, it may not be on the surface. Age differences are often daddy/son mentor relationships.

    On a image level I think we all jump to conclusions to hotness. If I see 2 guys....I automatically pick one!! And if 2 of us are picking it may not be the same one, so it's not universal. May times after I've met and gotten to know a couple that perception changes. It seems to balance out.

    Leagues are real. Only because we make them so. Of course there are the bar/club cliques where the stud buds gravitate towards one another. And they seem unapproachable. But alone they are more real.
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    Dec 06, 2013 6:49 PM GMT
    I think there is some truth to the 'league', the problem is determining where one belongs and finding a happy medium,
    I think we can all tell that Ricky Martin would never date Jesse Ferguson

    during my brief time with central casting, the assistant director told our class when directors pick extras, they are picking people based on the scene required, for example, the show Sons of Anarchy, attractive men are not cast at all, no matter who applies for the scene, the AD will only look for guys who look and fit the show, which in this case was average to below average in looks, the opposite is true for a show like Entourage, hip, office type who are average to above in looks

    hollywood is expert in the 'determining looks department', I think the entertainment 'biz' helps stereotype our culture, the show Modern Family, the two gay characters who are 'partners' are not attractive at all, at least in my opinion, or maybe not my type, the two gay character couple in Brother and Sisters were very attractive, but it does show mainstream america that gays can and are average people just like their straight counterparts

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    Dec 07, 2013 4:49 AM GMT
    Do we really need to point out so directly , just how shallow, superficial and vapid the majority of gay society is?
    If Quasimodo and Prince Charming are in a happy relationship....why is it important what some provincial, neanderthal feels compelled to say? Just another type of bully.....needs to grow up, shut up and stop living vicariously through their jealousy of what others have earned.icon_cool.gif
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    Dec 07, 2013 3:23 PM GMT
    There was a study that men and women attract each other within a two point difference. Highly attractive people tend to find someone within their level of attractiveness.

    So when I imagine leagues, I simply think that he is most likely trying to find somebody within his own realm. That is not to say that you shouldn't try someone who seems very attractive, just don't solely aim for them.
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    Dec 07, 2013 4:56 PM GMT
    Whenever a "pretty boi" hits on me my first (perhaps cynical, unworthy) thought is "what does he want from me?"





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    Dec 08, 2013 6:53 PM GMT
    Fivealive saidThere was a study that men and women attract each other within a two point difference. Highly attractive people tend to find someone within their level of attractiveness.


    Even 2 points is huge in the gay community. I'm probably a 7/10 on a good day. The other guy is a 9. But apparently that's enough for my friends to be like "nice work!", and for the village gays to heckle at.
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    Dec 10, 2013 6:39 PM GMT
    Me and my boyfriend are a mismatch couple (appearance, race, height, etc)
    I rate myself a 4 (on my bad day) and a 6 (on my good day), i rate him at least 8-9/10. Maybe to other people he has lower rate, but regardless i always feel a bit insecure once in a while. He has so many attractive guys around and he chose me. At first i thought 'what is his intention?' But eventually i know his feeling for me is real because we have a lot in common.
    But, as i said, i still feel a bit uneasy. I dont know what his friends say about me, but my friends always tell me: 'nice catch'
    It is nice and hurtful at the same time :/