Dating Advice - First Official Date/Texting

  • ruggged

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    Dec 04, 2013 6:42 PM GMT
    Hi, so I am new to the dating scene. I recently met a guy via OkCupid and we hungout at my place. We had great conversation and we had sex. We had sex on the first encounter.... I know it's not the best way to try to have a relationship, but it felt right and it was a mutual thing.

    So we have kept texting and we have a dinner scheduled for this Thursday. I am usually the one doing all the texting and he replies quick. Although he replies, it's short and sometimes doesn't allow for the conversation to develop more. He has agreed to go out to dinner and he keeps responding to my texts... I AM SO CONFUSED.

    Can someone tell me what I should do? Should I ask what he is looking for? He replies to my texts in a short way and they are always consistent but he doesn't ever start the conversation.

    Can someone help?
  • PR_GMR

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    Dec 04, 2013 6:46 PM GMT
    Don't have long conversations thru text. It's not the mode to have such conversations. Save your chatting for the date on Thursday. He has agreed to the date on Thursday, so don't be insecure, go on with your week, then meet him on Thursday.

    Sex on the first encounter? If the chemistry is mutual, it doesn't matter when when you have sex.. so don't berate yourself much over that.
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    Dec 04, 2013 6:50 PM GMT
    I don't think sex is bad on the first date
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    Dec 04, 2013 8:20 PM GMT
    ^^ Listen to those guys. That's about it. You have a date planned and he is still texting you after putting out on the first date so it seems good.
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    Dec 04, 2013 10:06 PM GMT
    ruggged saidHi, so I am new to the dating scene. I recently met a guy via OkCupid and we hungout at my place. We had great conversation and we had sex. We had sex on the first encounter.... I know it's not the best way to try to have a relationship, but it felt right and it was a mutual thing.

    So we have kept texting and we have a dinner scheduled for this Thursday. I am usually the one doing all the texting and he replies quick. Although he replies, it's short and sometimes doesn't allow for the conversation to develop more. He has agreed to go out to dinner and he keeps responding to my texts... I AM SO CONFUSED.

    Can someone tell me what I should do? Should I ask what he is looking for? He replies to my texts in a short way and they are always consistent but he doesn't ever start the conversation.

    Can someone help?

    Dont worry thats just how some guys are, i dated a guy for 9 months who was like that lol...you'll get used to it, and when u will meet someone new who talks more it will feel weird haha anyway just keep it up but dont be pushy ...be careful there are some guys who just wanna play...
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    Dec 04, 2013 10:43 PM GMT
    Sex on the first date? You are doing all the texting? Short responses? Put it this way, I would cook something you are happy to eat a second portion of the next day. When you find the right guy, you won't need to chase him like this.
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    Dec 05, 2013 7:13 PM GMT
    First post - no profile. Is the OP real?
  • ruggged

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    Dec 05, 2013 7:42 PM GMT
    HikerSkier saidFirst post - no profile. Is the OP real?


    I do have a profile pic and yes I am real and need the advice! I just never sought it on this site before.

    Thanks!
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    Dec 06, 2013 1:52 AM GMT
    Behemothboi saidI don't think sex is bad on the first date

    It's not really a date unless you leave with at least the possibility of some form of an STI.