Bullying social experiment video(would you get involved or walk away?)

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    Dec 05, 2013 2:43 AM GMT
    I will be the first to say that this experiment is skewed

    HOWEVER I do believe these scenarios are all too common. I see many people here are very expressive and are against bullying so have you ever been in a situation where you stepped in when it counted as in real life situations? Online doesn't count lol.

    As for myself

    1. Stepped in when I saw this big mixed guy grab this skinny asian by the neck and slammed him into the wall.I separated the two and stayed with the guy until it was safe.

    2.Stopped these teenagers from pegging a disabled woman with batteries

    3. Defended a friend from 6 guys trying to jump him





    The girl at 2:20 was impressive
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    Dec 05, 2013 2:54 AM GMT
    When i was 12 someone tried to brake into my parents car with me in it by myself at a store, I started screaming and crying and no one around me did anything. At the time i didnt know weather the guy was trying to kidnap me or what, but he jerk on the car door and numerous people saw me inside and did nothing. Luckily he gave up and ran away, but i always remembered how no one did anything for me.


    But the video, if i were there i might not have touched the guy for fear of being shot, but i would have called the police on my cell immediately, i wouldnt have ignored it
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    Dec 05, 2013 3:12 AM GMT
    Why do you think the experiment is skewed ?
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    Dec 05, 2013 3:14 AM GMT
    CopperDevil saidWhen i was 12 someone tried to brake into my parents car with me in it by myself at a store, I started screaming and crying and no one around me did anything. At the time i didnt know weather the guy was trying to kidnap me or what, but he jerk on the car door and numerous people saw me inside and did nothing. Luckily he gave up and ran away, but i always remembered how no one did anything for me.


    But the video, if i were there i might not have touched the guy for fear of being shot, but i would have called the police on my cell immediately, i wouldnt have ignored it



    That's a pretty traumatic experience. I also think that some people who go through similar situations end up less likely to help because they remember that they weren't helped.

    Maybe it was your self defense training and other life experience that changed your mindset? i'm only asking cuz I believe you have a pair of sais lol
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    Dec 05, 2013 3:15 AM GMT
    CopperDevil saidWhy do you think the experiment is skewed ?


    appears to be a prestigious school. I think this would've been more powerful if it was done in a more urban area.
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    Dec 05, 2013 3:21 AM GMT
    Bystander effect!?
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    Dec 05, 2013 3:23 AM GMT
    Harry7785 saidBystander effect!?


    Definitely!!!!!!!!! icon_sad.gif
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    Dec 05, 2013 3:31 AM GMT
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    CopperDevil saidWhy do you think the experiment is skewed ?


    appears to be a prestigious school. I think this would've been more powerful if it was done in a more urban area.


    Do you think that means that more prestigious/successful people are less sensitive ?
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    Dec 05, 2013 3:40 AM GMT
    CopperDevil said
    tmac said
    CopperDevil saidWhy do you think the experiment is skewed ?


    appears to be a prestigious school. I think this would've been more powerful if it was done in a more urban area.


    Do you think that means that more prestigious/successful people are less sensitive ?


    I don't believe they're less sensitive, but I don't think those settings are prone to many confrontations.. at least not compared to urban schools. That's why I figured i'd be surprised if even one person intervened
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    Dec 05, 2013 3:47 AM GMT
    CopperDevil said
    tmac said
    CopperDevil saidWhy do you think the experiment is skewed ?


    appears to be a prestigious school. I think this would've been more powerful if it was done in a more urban area.


    Do you think that means that more prestigious/successful people are less sensitive ?


    im guessing he meant that in a urban ="poorer area" people have a lot less to lose so extremes are more likely to occur.
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    Dec 05, 2013 3:48 AM GMT
    it would be more interesting if any of the people weighed more than 100 pounds
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    Dec 05, 2013 4:00 AM GMT
    Apparition saidit would be more interesting if any of the people weighed more than 100 pounds



    perhaps. Please share with us your experience. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 05, 2013 1:28 PM GMT
    i've seen a few of these clips and they all seem to just confirm what we already know - people are afraid of confrontation/getting involved. or are they???

    abc did a bunch of similar social experiments in their tv show, 'what would you do.' i think the below two-part segment was the most shocking.




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    Dec 05, 2013 2:38 PM GMT
    Harry7785 saidBystander effect!?


    I think bystander effect works only when there is a group of people rather than just one person being approached by a situation that calls for help. The idea is that people are less likely to help when they are surrounded by others because they expect other people to be the one to offer the helping hand. A lot of the people captured on here were tested in an isolated setting, with no one around to make one think that immediate help can come from elsewhere. I am glad to see that not every single person walked away or decidedly ignored the act of bullying though.
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    Dec 05, 2013 7:48 PM GMT
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    Harry7785 saidBystander effect!?


    I think bystander effect works only when there is a group of people rather than just one person being approached by a situation that calls for help. The idea is that people are less likely to help when they are surrounded by others because they expect other people to be the one to offer the helping hand. A lot of the people captured on here were tested in an isolated setting, with no one around to make one think that immediate help can come from elsewhere. I am glad to see that not every single person walked away or decidedly ignored the act of bullying though.


    Yeah.I was very impressed with the young lady
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    Dec 05, 2013 8:21 PM GMT
    I've seen the show "What would you do?" a few times and I'm shocked at the number of people who won't do anything when soneone is being abused, even at a 10 to 1 ratio.
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    Dec 05, 2013 8:45 PM GMT
    A few years ago, while walking down the hallway at the high-school where I work, I stepped in between a big student, who'd just punched a smaller student and knocked him to the floor. I put my hands on the bigger student, kept him from advancing, and asked him to calm down, which he did after a few minutes. I was acquainted with the big student, who was basically a decent guy, but who I knew from previous experience had a very quick temper, and was quick to take offense. The smaller student was later treated for a broken nose.

    This was in my own workplace. I'm not sure how I'd have reacted if I was in an unfamiliar locale, or where there was a possibility of the aggressor having a gun or knife. There was an incident 3 years ago in my hometown where a high-school student intervened in a fight between two other high school students, at a dance. One of the two fighting students (the aggressor), pulled a knife, stabbed the intervening student in the throat, then ran off. The student who'd intervened bled to death over the next half-hour or so, even though paramedics were on the scene within 10 minutes or so. There was no way to save him. You never know what can happen, and it does give one pause when you think about the possible consequences.

    About a year or so ago, there was an event in England where a couple of terrorists intentionally hit a passing soldier with a car, then attacked him, and beheaded him with a machete. (That was discussed here in the Realjock forums). It happened in a public place, and all took place within a few seconds. It was reported that several passersby immediately ran up to where the dead soldier was and tried to protect him (although he was already dead), and pleaded with the attackers to leave him alone. I'm not at all sure that I've had had the courage to intervene in that situation.
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    Dec 06, 2013 2:18 AM GMT
    JohnSpotter saidI've seen the show "What would you do?" a few times and I'm shocked at the number of people who won't do anything when soneone is being abused, even at a 10 to 1 ratio.


    please share your experienceicon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 06, 2013 2:25 AM GMT
    carew28 saidA few years ago, while walking down the hallway at the high-school where I work, I stepped in between a big student, who'd just punched a smaller student and knocked him to the floor. I put my hands on the bigger student, kept him from advancing, and asked him to calm down, which he did after a few minutes. I was acquainted with the big student, who was basically a decent guy, but who I knew from previous experience had a very quick temper, and was quick to take offense. The smaller student was later treated for a broken nose.

    This was in my own workplace. I'm not sure how I'd have reacted if I was in an unfamiliar locale, or where there was a possibility of the aggressor having a gun or knife. There was an incident 3 years ago in my hometown where a high-school student intervened in a fight between two other high school students, at a dance. One of the two fighting students (the aggressor), pulled a knife, stabbed the intervening student in the throat, then ran off. The student who'd intervened bled to death over the next half-hour or so, even though paramedics were on the scene within 10 minutes or so. There was no way to save him. You never know what can happen, and it does give one pause when you think about the possible consequences.

    About a year or so ago, there was an event in England where a couple of terrorists intentionally hit a passing soldier with a car, then attacked him, and beheaded him with a machete. (That was discussed here in the Realjock forums). It happened in a public place, and all took place within a few seconds. It was reported that several passersby immediately ran up to where the dead soldier was and tried to protect him (although he was already dead), and pleaded with the attackers to leave him alone. I'm not at all sure that I've had had the courage to intervene in that situation.



    yes I do agree it is a gamble.. I only had a sec or two to makea decision to comprehend the situation and decide on the appropriate response . so far I've been pretty lucky. I hope I remain lucky lol
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    Dec 06, 2013 3:31 AM GMT
    sean_zuri saidi've seen a few of these clips and they all seem to just confirm what we already know - people are afraid of confrontation/getting involved. or are they???

    abc did a bunch of similar social experiments in their tv show, 'what would you do.' i think the below two-part segment was the most shocking.






    not shocked at all. But it's always disappointing to see how some people really believe racism no longer exist lol
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    Dec 06, 2013 4:43 AM GMT
    And then we have sites like RJ. When bullying occurs here, lots of other people coming running over -- to join in. Here, if you intervene to stop a bully, you get called a bully.

    Of course, we have a much higher proportion of sociopaths on this site than in the general population.
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    Dec 06, 2013 5:16 AM GMT
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    sean_zuri saidi've seen a few of these clips and they all seem to just confirm what we already know - people are afraid of confrontation/getting involved. or are they???

    abc did a bunch of similar social experiments in their tv show, 'what would you do.' i think the below two-part segment was the most shocking.






    not shocked at all. But it's always disappointing to see how some people really believe racism no longer exist lol


    yes, you're right. but, the fact that people called the police on the black guys sleeping in a car and did nothing to white guys who were vandalizing a car was incomprehensible. lol.
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    Dec 06, 2013 5:24 AM GMT
    It really depends on the situation..

    If the aggressors have weapons and too many for me to handle my first instinct would be to call 911..

    But if I feel I can help the victim then I would.
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    Dec 06, 2013 5:30 AM GMT
    shortbutsweet saidAnd then we have sites like RJ. When bullying occurs here, lots of other people coming running over -- to join in. Here, if you intervene to stop a bully, you get called a bully.

    Of course, we have a much higher proportion of sociopaths on this site than in the general population.


    What we have here is the lynch mob syndrome
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    Dec 06, 2013 12:05 PM GMT
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    tmac said
    sean_zuri saidi've seen a few of these clips and they all seem to just confirm what we already know - people are afraid of confrontation/getting involved. or are they???

    abc did a bunch of similar social experiments in their tv show, 'what would you do.' i think the below two-part segment was the most shocking.






    not shocked at all. But it's always disappointing to see how some people really believe racism no longer exist lol


    yes, you're right. but, the fact that people called the police on the black guys sleeping in a car and did nothing to white guys who were vandalizing a car was incomprehensible. lol.


    yeah. That was pretty much bs but there are people who will still justify it.