How long should you wait to have sex when your a in relationship?

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    Dec 06, 2013 2:29 AM GMT
    Me and my boyfriend have been kinda seeing each other since september we havent had intercourse because my bfriend wants us to get tested together so were waiting... but weve done other things like oral and mutual masturbation. I want the moment to be right and I want to be patient but at the same time I want him and want to be intimate with him how long should I wait I like the guy alot
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    Dec 06, 2013 2:39 AM GMT
    we both want it I mean its not like were virgins but I want him but I respect his willinginess to wait and to make sure were clean and on the same page which I dont think we have anything to worry about but I guess rather be safe then sorry
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    Dec 06, 2013 2:43 AM GMT
    we could try condoms
  • Apparition

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    Dec 06, 2013 2:43 AM GMT
    the fast hiv test is mostly good after 34 days, you could have been having him for a couple of months already.
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    Dec 06, 2013 3:05 AM GMT
    I feel like your man testing is best together but yes condoms work.. just don't rush to sex.. it can ruin a relationship as in the sense making it only about the sex icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 06, 2013 3:09 AM GMT
    It's worth the wait icon_wink.gif

    Your bf sounds like me lol
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    Dec 06, 2013 3:20 AM GMT
    Jaggal saidTill you are both 100% comfortable, i.e, up to you to know, not RJ members.
    You will responses of the two classes:
    1: YOU DIRTY SLUT DON'T DO IT UNTIL MARRIAGE.
    2: YOU SHOULD HAVE FUCKED HIM THE MOMENT YOU LAID EYES ON HIM YOU FUCKING PRUDE, CHURCH LADY BITCH.


    Wait till marriage? Lol I don't know when anyone has uttered that word here icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 06, 2013 3:28 AM GMT
    Broncosfan88 saidwe could try condoms

    Duh, you should use them anyway for the first couple of months... Standard belt + suspenders rule is to get tested after 3 months and then retested 3 months later.

    And if condom less sex has been the rule for one or both of you in the past, I would probably insist on condoms until at least the 6 month test.

    It will also feel great to stop using them after all that time.
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    Dec 06, 2013 3:31 AM GMT
    ReeBad19 saidI feel like your man testing is best together but yes condoms work.. just don't rush to sex.. it can ruin a relationship as in the sense making it only about the sex icon_rolleyes.gif


    Im not trying to make it all about sex Im willing to be patient weve gone on many dates though Im safe and want to have that special moment with him I like us both being tested together I dont mean to sound impatient
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    Dec 06, 2013 3:40 AM GMT
    Broncosfan88 said
    ReeBad19 saidI feel like your man testing is best together but yes condoms work.. just don't rush to sex.. it can ruin a relationship as in the sense making it only about the sex icon_rolleyes.gif


    Im not trying to make it all about sex Im willing to be patient weve gone on many dates though Im safe and want to have that special moment with him I like us both being tested together I dont mean to sound impatient


    I wasn't implying you would do it..

    Also if he has excuses then he is clearly just not ready to do it.. when he is he will tell you.. you can suggest it from time to time to make sure he doesn't forget it but he will not.. don't impose it on him either, that will get tiring Real Fast
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    Dec 06, 2013 3:51 AM GMT
    Jaggal saidTill you are both 100% comfortable, i.e, up to you to know, not RJ members.
    You will responses of the two classes:
    1: YOU DIRTY SLUT DON'T DO IT UNTIL MARRIAGE.
    2: YOU SHOULD HAVE FUCKED HIM THE MOMENT YOU LAID EYES ON HIM YOU FUCKING PRUDE, CHURCH LADY BITCH.


    This is the best answer you will get as the decision is only up to you and your beau. Also, you should have fucked him the moment you laid eyes on him you fucking prude, church lady bitch.
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    Dec 06, 2013 4:07 AM GMT
    To answer the question in general I don't think there is a rule. Of course it's up to you both.

    Personally speaking I wouldn't go past cuddling until we wait the 3 months and get tested.

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    Dec 06, 2013 4:15 AM GMT
    Broncosfan88 saidwe could try condoms

    TRY condoms? Your sex should never be WITHOUT condoms.

    As for waiting to have sex, I never wait. I have it the first night.

    That way I know right away if we have any future together. We either click or we don't. And either way I have some good sex.

    I know, sounds slutty. But I don't follow the straight model, where sex with a woman is a big deal, either for me or for her. Sex with other gay men is usually pretty guilt-free in my experience, unless you're hung up on straight conventions.

    Gay sex is a physical experience. It can lead to more, as it has for me. But not always, not every time. You can just have sex for the fun of it, nothing wrong with that.

    I used to view sex like a "test drive" of a new car. Enjoyed the spin, didn't always buy the car. Sometimes we get too serious about sex, when it's really just an enjoyable try-out.

    I actually think it's better to have lots of (safe) sex, because it makes you smarter when deciding who's a keeper, and who's not. And you have so much fun in the process! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 06, 2013 7:14 PM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    Broncosfan88 saidwe could try condoms

    TRY condoms? Your sex should never be WITHOUT condoms.

    As for waiting to have sex, I never wait. I have it the first night.

    That way I know right away if we have any future together. We either click or we don't. And either way I have some good sex.

    I know, sounds slutty. But I don't follow the straight model, where sex with a woman is a big deal, either for me or for her. Sex with other gay men is usually pretty guilt-free in my experience, unless you're hung up on straight conventions.

    Gay sex is a physical experience. It can lead to more, as it has for me. But not always, not every time. You can just have sex for the fun of it, nothing wrong with that.

    I used to view sex like a "test drive" of a new car. Enjoyed the spin, didn't always buy the car. Sometimes we get too serious about sex, when it's really just an enjoyable try-out.

    I actually think it's better to have lots of (safe) sex, because it makes you smarter when deciding who's a keeper, and who's not. And you have so much fun in the process! icon_biggrin.gif



    I mean call me old fashion but we went on several dates before we even did oral or anything else but alot of kissing though. Hes just been hurt before and wants it to be special, also its good to know where you stand STD and HIV wise for both parties so thats not an issue I mean we both want it.Our situation is difficult cause we both dont really have a place at the moment to have that special "moment" he lives with his homophobe brother and girl friend and me I live with my mom and a roomate so its hard to have alone time weve camped in his car before. But good news his brother is out of town for a week so he has the place to himself so maybe I'll get lucky tonight (: and of course wearing condoms is important rather be safe even though it sucks wearing them I'll wear them till we both know for sure were clean and then consider BB when were both comfortable with it.
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    Dec 08, 2013 5:08 AM GMT


    Yes I had sex with my bfriend and we used condoms
  • jo2hotbod

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    Dec 08, 2013 5:45 AM GMT
    As long as it takes both of you to be ready
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    Dec 08, 2013 5:19 PM GMT
    Broncosfan88 said
    ART_DECO said
    Broncosfan88 saidwe could try condoms

    As for waiting to have sex, I never wait. I have it the first night.

    That way I know right away if we have any future together. We either click or we don't. And either way I have some good sex.


    I actually think it's better to have lots of (safe) sex, because it makes you smarter when deciding who's a keeper, and who's not. And you have so much fun in the process! icon_biggrin.gif



    Our situation is difficult cause we both dont really have a place at the moment to have that special "moment" he lives with his homophobe brother and girl friend and me I live with my mom and a roomate so its hard to have alone time weve camped in his car before.

    I would not try the camping routine in Colorado in December. But, duh, you could rent a motel room somewhere.
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    Dec 08, 2013 5:22 PM GMT
    Broncosfan88 saidwe could try condoms



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  • lgg5819

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    Dec 08, 2013 5:23 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidI think it was way too soon for sex. You should have waited at least several years.


    this!
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    Dec 09, 2013 12:24 AM GMT
    HikerSkier said
    Broncosfan88 said
    ART_DECO said
    Broncosfan88 saidwe could try condoms

    As for waiting to have sex, I never wait. I have it the first night.

    That way I know right away if we have any future together. We either click or we don't. And either way I have some good sex.


    I actually think it's better to have lots of (safe) sex, because it makes you smarter when deciding who's a keeper, and who's not. And you have so much fun in the process! icon_biggrin.gif



    Our situation is difficult cause we both dont really have a place at the moment to have that special "moment" he lives with his homophobe brother and girl friend and me I live with my mom and a roomate so its hard to have alone time weve camped in his car before.

    I would not try the camping routine in Colorado in December. But, duh, you could rent a motel room somewhere.
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    Ya well his brother was out of the town and we got the place to ourselves and it just happened we used protection but we are going to get tested together just to be safe and ya Im not going to camp in his car in decemeber its too fricken cold but it defiantly brought us closer
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    Dec 09, 2013 12:34 AM GMT
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  • Apparition

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    Dec 09, 2013 4:36 AM GMT
    you can take your bf to a bathouse too, they are cheapish
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    Dec 10, 2013 5:12 AM GMT
    Apparition saidyou can take your bf to a bathouse too, they are cheapish

    Im good but thanks for the suggestion I think a hotel will work just fine mainly need to find the time
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    Dec 10, 2013 6:29 AM GMT
    ReeBad19 saidI feel like your man testing is best together but yes condoms work.. just don't rush to sex.. it can ruin a relationship as in the sense making it only about the sex icon_rolleyes.gif


    If the sex ruins the relationship then the sooner you find out the better.
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    Dec 10, 2013 7:35 AM GMT
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