Broncosfan88 saidwe could try condoms
TRY condoms? Your sex should never be WITHOUT condoms.
As for waiting to have sex, I never wait. I have it the first night.
That way I know right away if we have any future together. We either click or we don't. And either way I have some good sex.
I know, sounds slutty. But I don't follow the straight model, where sex with a woman is a big deal, either for me or for her. Sex with other gay men is usually pretty guilt-free in my experience, unless you're hung up on straight conventions.
Gay sex is a physical experience. It can lead to more, as it has for me. But not always, not every time. You can just have sex for the fun of it, nothing wrong with that.
I used to view sex like a "test drive" of a new car. Enjoyed the spin, didn't always buy the car. Sometimes we get too serious about sex, when it's really just an enjoyable try-out.
I actually think it's better to have lots of (safe) sex, because it makes you smarter when deciding who's a keeper, and who's not. And you have so much fun in the process!