Let me know if/when you want to meet again

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    Dec 06, 2013 6:01 PM GMT
    What do think of this message after a first date? The full message was "It was nice to meet you too. Let me know if/when you want to meet again."
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    Dec 06, 2013 11:20 PM GMT
    Doesn't sound like he was blown away. How did the date go?
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    Dec 06, 2013 11:24 PM GMT
    Sounds like he is unsure if you like him.
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    Dec 07, 2013 12:16 AM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidDoesn't sound like he was blown away. How did the date go?


    Sorry I should have specified - it was me that sent the message. I thought it was better than acting clingy, but probably was too far the other way.

    The date was mixed as well - as soon as he came up to me in the pub he stood quite close to me and had a big smile on his face, but we ended up talking about finance and politics. He said "keep in touch" and we hugged at the end. I thought he was attractive but I think we both prefer to be the one who is less keen - doesn't really work!
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    Dec 07, 2013 12:42 AM GMT
    You're making it obvious that you're trying not to be clingy. If YOU (and base this ONLY on what YOU want - not your perception of what he wants) want to see him again, then YOU say you would like to see him again like this:

    "Hey - I had a really great time! I'd really like to see you again."

    Thats it. If he wants to, he'll reciprocate. If not, then he'll either delay (hence blowing you off) or hopefully just say no.

    And you honestly didn't seem that...crazy about your time with him. It was very business like and plain.
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    Dec 07, 2013 12:49 AM GMT
    Bone him, and own him.

    After this. You will know.
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    Dec 07, 2013 1:14 AM GMT
    IceBuckets saidYou're making it obvious that you're trying not to be clingy. If YOU (and base this ONLY on what YOU want - not your perception of what he wants) want to see him again, then YOU say you would like to see him again like this:

    "Hey - I had a really great time! I'd really like to see you again."

    Thats it. If he wants to, he'll reciprocate. If not, then he'll either delay (hence blowing you off) or hopefully just say no.

    And you honestly didn't seem that...crazy about your time with him. It was very business like and plain.


    I agree with this. Your message wasn't bad (I've said similar in the past), but the suggestion of IceBuckets is better because you come across as assertive and clearly interested, without going overboard.
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    Dec 09, 2013 10:30 AM GMT
    Lol the last guy I hung out on a date said this to me at the end of the date! more like **It was nice to meet you, let's hang out/meet again soon, maybe going to a sunday brunch or something! lol

    I think he was unsure if I'm sending back interested-vibes! But yeah I decided to not get romantically involved based on other reasons and not because of this phrase! Urg, if you're curious, call him and find out, more closure that way.


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    Dec 09, 2013 11:26 AM GMT
    Passive aggressive, move on, there is no cure for this sort of sadness.
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    Dec 09, 2013 12:38 PM GMT
    It sounds like you're just leaving the ball in his court and not trying to go after what you want. I think it'd be better to just be straight forward and tell him how you felt about meeting him.

    Telling him that you had a good time and asking him out is not clingy - it's sexy when a guy is confident about what he wants
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    Dec 09, 2013 1:12 PM GMT
    madfacts saidPassive aggressive, move on, there is no cure for this sort of sadness.


    Ha it was me that sent it so he is the one that should move on! I guess the best thing is to move on though, if one of us was seriously interested then more would have happened since.
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    Dec 09, 2013 1:31 PM GMT
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    madfacts saidPassive aggressive, move on, there is no cure for this sort of sadness.


    Ha it was me that sent it so he is the one that should move on! I guess the best thing is to move on though, if one of us was seriously interested then more would have happened since.


    It doesn't appear that he was seriously interested either but yeah, moving on is the best thing to do!
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    Dec 09, 2013 4:21 PM GMT
    Ohno saidWhat do think of this message after a first date? The full message was "It was nice to meet you too. Let me know if/when you want to meet again."


    lol, it was just fine.
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    Dec 09, 2013 4:42 PM GMT
    I've sent a "let me know when you're free" text once to a guy who cancelled at the last minute and was subsequently hard to nail down for an alternative date. I didn't sense he's that interested so I sent the message to leave the ball in his court. The context of your text is different from mine but if I were to receive such a text, I would feel that the other party is interested but not interested enough to put in the effort for a second date. Also, I always have a bad feeling when someone says "keep in touch". It seems to be something people say but never do. But maybe it's just me being cynical and over-sensitive.
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    Dec 09, 2013 5:06 PM GMT
    It's a good way of leaving a door open without being too pushy.