An erotic dream and not sure what it means (a bit explicit & personal, so be forewarned)

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    Dec 07, 2013 2:32 PM GMT
    Last night I had the strangest erotic dream, very rare for me. In fact, I never had any erotic dreams at all until after I came out in my mid-40s. And never once in my life about women, which used to make me wonder why I didn't, when I'd hear the other guys talking, or read how common they are for straight men.

    This one concerned some guys I already know and had met earlier IRL that evening at a gay men's chorus holiday concert. Aristoshark also attended (in fact he rode there with us) but he can relax, he wasn't in my dream, not going to embarrass him here, just myself. icon_redface.gif

    We were in a remote vacation cabin in the woods, and all the guys got into bed together for a romp, about 6 of us. One guy started rubbing my balls, so I reciprocated and he was moaning loudly in ecstasy. I was loving it. Though oddly I couldn't see his face very well, I merely thought I knew which friend it was.

    But all of a sudden I realized my husband was missing, and that I was already technically cheating on him with this other guy we know, even though no actual sex had happened yet, just "petting" as it used to be called. And I wanted so badly for him to be there, to be rubbing HIS balls, not this other guy's, and doing much more with him.

    So I went to look for him, not sure I explained my sudden departure to the others in bed. Then I was magically transported back to our own bed at home, where we did begin to have sex as the dream continued. But I was so bothered, so guilty, that I very soon woke up, like from a nightmare or other unpleasant dream.

    So today I'm wondering if I might subconsciously want to actually cheat on my husband. A hidden desire that only appears in my dreams.

    Do you guys ever have dreams where you're cheating? Or only about having sex with your BF/partner? Whenever I've been romantically involved with one guy my erotic dreams have been about him exclusively. They were only about others when I was single.

    Finding myself in bed with another guy kinda shook me up, even if the other guy initiated the touching. After all, it was MY dream, the author myself.
  • Fable

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    Dec 07, 2013 2:49 PM GMT
    Was this a lemon party?
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    Dec 07, 2013 3:05 PM GMT
    fable saidWas this a lemon party?

    Does that help you to answer my question about cheating dreams?
  • jo2hotbod

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    Dec 07, 2013 3:32 PM GMT
    It could mean a lot of things and doesn't necessarily mean you want to cheat. Did you see a hot guy that turned you on recently? Do you want to go on a vacation? Were you recently somewhere without your husband when you wished he was there? Any of these could play a part in the dream you had. Dreams are often a combination of random experiences and thoughts which occurred at different times.
  • Fable

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    Dec 07, 2013 3:32 PM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    fable saidWas this a lemon party?

    Does that help you to answer my question about cheating dreams?



    Yes.
  • MikeW

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    Dec 07, 2013 3:55 PM GMT
    I agree with jo2. Putting on my Dr. Freud accent, I'm more concerned that you *vonder* vether or not this dream "means" you subconsciously vant to chat on your husband!
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    Dec 07, 2013 4:00 PM GMT
    I've never bought into the dreams being a representation of subconscious desire.

    I find it interesting you felt like you were cheating.

    I've had sex with all sorts of different people in my dreams both male and female and some of those were folks I would find extremely unattractive in real life - like this one woman that was my boss for a while. Ughh! icon_eek.gificon_lol.gif

    So to answer your question, I dream about all kinds of strange things and have never really worried about it.
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    Dec 07, 2013 4:02 PM GMT
    MikeW saidI agree with jo2. Putting on my Dr. Freud accent, I'm more concerned that you *vonder* vether or not this dream "means" you subconsciously vant to chat on your husband!


    That is an interesting take. Yeah - maybe not so much the dream but the fact that Art wonders if it means he wants to cheat is something to explore. Of course, this is coming from someone with absolutely no psychological background other than a few undergrad classes 20 plus years ago!