How can I get the hang of gay dating?

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    Dec 08, 2013 10:18 PM GMT
    Back in late-September, I've gained an interest in a friend of mine, and from there we've gotten to know each other. From there, we hung at my house and watched a movie and played video games. After that, he had to leave, but I did kiss him (which to be sweet and adorable) and walked him to his car. Later that evening, we've talked and he told me that he wasn't ready for a relationship, but wanted to hang out more. I apologized if I made him uncomfortable but he said otherwise and stated I was a gentleman. Shortly after we hung out, we chatted one night and I confessed, since I felt I couldn't pass up the opportunity since we didn't see each other much at school. Though he was glad I was honest, he stated that his past two relationships had hurt him too much, and just doesn't have in him to be enter another relationship. At that, he said it was better to be just friends, but again wanted to hang out more. After that, we started to see each other more, when I confessed, I stated that I understood his situation, appreciated our friendship, and wanted to get it off of my chest. Our conversations were through texting, so since he was busy and I had work it was hard to confess in person since I rarely saw him. Oddly, he clarified to me one night that he wasn't in a relationship on Facebook (his friend hacked it), because he didn't want me to think he was an asshole.

    I still feel a bit for him, even though I'm not as interested as before and have been focusing on myself and school. Hopefully, we can hang out, and I felt he teased me a bit with the idea of playing a strip game. Though I was advised to move on, some also said to give him time and keep him around, but talk to other people. We're still good friends, but why am I still so caught up? This is the second guy I sorta failed with (though others said I didn't), but I'm glad I'm finally taking the initiative in dating. Throughout this year, it has helped me grow as a person.
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    Dec 08, 2013 10:30 PM GMT
    A good friend is a good friend..

    .. Clean up your agenda..
    To me it sounds like you tossed him on the back burner because he was not interested in you romantically.

    "Keep him around"..???

    Focus on what you have.. A seemingly great bud.

    It's not fair to toss a friend at bay just because he's not interested.
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    Dec 08, 2013 10:48 PM GMT
    Gay dating is like a box of chocolates.
    (No... wait... that's gay sex.)
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    Dec 08, 2013 10:50 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidA good friend is a good friend..

    .. Clean up your agenda..
    To me it sounds like you tossed him on the back burner because he was not interested in you romantically.

    "Keep him around"..???

    Focus on what you have.. A seemingly great bud.

    It's not fair to toss a friend at bay just because he's not interested.


    Oh, no that's definitely not my intention. I'm actually still interested, but he is still my friend.
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    Dec 08, 2013 10:58 PM GMT
    ^ ^ ^ ^
    Maybe that's all he should be..

    Gay dating is awful.. won't sugar coat it..

    Good friends make things so much easier when your'e single..