First time gay sex

  • Limerick18

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    Dec 10, 2013 1:40 PM GMT
    Right so im 18 and a virgin and ive been chatting to this local guy on Grindr and were meeting up on friday night. Hes 22. We said wed just chat and see where things go but i know that it probably will end up in sex. Im the bottom and hes the top- hes fucked before, I havent. I know its going to be sore- but how sore? Is it more uncomfortable than physically painful? Also in relation to oral sex, should i swallow? Thanks guys, any genuine feedback is much appreciated. icon_smile.gif
  • Limerick18

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    Dec 10, 2013 1:43 PM GMT
    Also is there anything we could do to ease entry? Hea already told me hes nearly 8 inches big!
  • Fable

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    Dec 10, 2013 2:03 PM GMT
  • Fable

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    Dec 10, 2013 2:08 PM GMT
    take a dump before3 you shower before you go over.

    not that sore, just use loadsa lube, tell him to take his time. it's probably gonna be an alien feeling itll feel like you're in the middle of a dump for a bit, just relax.

    Dont swallow if you dont want to.



    USE A CONDOM
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    Dec 10, 2013 2:09 PM GMT
    find an older guy with a smaller cock or get a dildo and practice.
  • Fable

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    Dec 10, 2013 2:28 PM GMT
    sean_zuri saidfind an older guy with a smaller cock or get a dildo and practice.



    yes, please lead him to being exploited.

    herrr derrr derrr
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    Dec 10, 2013 2:37 PM GMT
    fable said
    sean_zuri saidfind an older guy with a smaller cock or get a dildo and practice.



    yes, please lead him to being exploited.

    herrr derrr derrr


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  • MikeW

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    Dec 10, 2013 3:41 PM GMT
    If he is indeed 8" it *is* going to be painful unless you've been practicing with a dildo or cucumber or *something* to learn to relax your sphincter muscles.

    Lube has been invented.

    What I don't get is why anyone would want to have their first anal sex with a total stranger.

    Whateves, play safe for god's sake.
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    Dec 10, 2013 3:48 PM GMT
    Bring condoms and lube.
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    Dec 10, 2013 5:52 PM GMT
    Limerick18 saidAlso is there anything we could do to ease entry? Hea already told me hes nearly 8 inches big!

    Go out with him on a date and tell him that you're not having sex just to have sex. Enjoy him, get to know him. You're feeling like you have to 'join' the gay community by getting plowed, you don't. If you date this guy for a while, then consider it and have the memories of your first fuck that you can always look back on and smile, not look back on and say…why did I ever do that? There's nothing wrong with NOT having sex on a date. This is a hookup, turn it into a date. If he's not willing then he's not worth having his dick up your ass!
  • Limerick18

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    Dec 10, 2013 7:00 PM GMT
    Cheers men, i have been "practicing" a bit so maybe it wont be that bad. And with regards the stranger comment I guess by definition he is but turns out he lives about 20 mins away so, in ireland, that makes us nearly acquaintences! Also he seems decent as weve talked alot and i dont feel that if anything happens ill regret it- I actually think im falling for him! :/

    Whats the best positon to try given our circumstances?
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    Dec 10, 2013 9:19 PM GMT
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    Limerick18 saidAlso is there anything we could do to ease entry? Hea already told me hes nearly 8 inches big!

    Go out with him on a date and tell him that you're not having sex just to have sex. Enjoy him, get to know him. You're feeling like you have to 'join' the gay community by getting plowed, you don't. If you date this guy for a while, then consider it and have the memories of your first fuck that you can always look back on and smile, not look back on and say…why did I ever do that? There's nothing wrong with NOT having sex on a date. This is a hookup, turn it into a date. If he's not willing then he's not worth having his dick up your ass!

    Eb925 guy is right on. Take this under consideration.
    1. Just because you are going to lose your virginity, doesn't mean you have to be fucked on your first time. There are lots of other things to do in bed that don't require fucking. I say this, because your first time getting fucked will probably not be a pleasurable experience, unless you have spent quite a bit of time practicing with a dildo or vibrator first. It definitely gets better with experience.
    2. Like fable said, take a dump first, use a condom, and plenty of lube. Also, try douching your ass first. You don't need gallons of water - 1-1/2 to 2 oz at a time, multiple times, until it comes out clear. Nothing like getting that brown stuff all over, to ruin the atmosphere.
    3. If he is willing, get him to rim you first - to get you all excited, like 18 year old Charlie Hunnam experienced in the first episode of Queer as Folk. (See below - first minute.)
    4. There have been lots of posts on here on "bottoming: Do a search, and read them. Read what Gamrican has had to say on the subject.
    5. It might hurt, it might not. If it does, don't hesitate to call a halt and go back to doing something else.
    6. Best Position - Since he is good sized, you might try both of you lying on your sides, with him behind you. You will have most control of the operation, how slowly he enters you, and how deep he goes in, if you are sitting on top of him.

    Hope you have a great time - sex or not.

  • carew28

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    Dec 10, 2013 9:33 PM GMT
    You'd be better off going out with him a few times first, and getting to know him, before you go right into full-fledged sex. And for sure, use a condom.

    Actually, you'd be better off just giving each other a nice full-body massage, jacking each other off, or frotting (rubbing against each other to orgasm), if you're going to get physical on your first meeting. Good Luck.
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    Dec 10, 2013 9:49 PM GMT
    Limerick18 saidCheers men, i have been "practicing" a bit so maybe it wont be that bad. And with regards the stranger comment I guess by definition he is but turns out he lives about 20 mins away so, in ireland, that makes us nearly acquaintences! Also he seems decent as weve talked alot and i dont feel that if anything happens ill regret it- I actually think im falling for him! :/

    Whats the best positon to try given our circumstances?


    1. clean your anus/rectum very well to increase your confidence. i like using a shower enema a couple hours before intercourse. 2. use lots of lube and condoms. 3. get on top of him, control his cock going in and tell him not to move. go at your own pace. 4. RELAX, Relax, relax.

    like i said before, an older (between 30-40) guy may be better at first. they usually know what they're doing and are better at preparing you compared to the younger ones, at least from my experience.
  • Suetonius

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    Dec 10, 2013 11:55 PM GMT
    HikerSkier said
    eb925guy said
    Limerick18 saidAlso is there anything we could do to ease entry? Hea already told me hes nearly 8 inches big!

    Go out with him on a date and tell him that you're not having sex just to have sex. Enjoy him, get to know him. You're feeling like you have to 'join' the gay community by getting plowed, you don't. If you date this guy for a while, then consider it and have the memories of your first fuck that you can always look back on and smile, not look back on and say…why did I ever do that? There's nothing wrong with NOT having sex on a date. This is a hookup, turn it into a date. If he's not willing then he's not worth having his dick up your ass!

    Eb925 guy is right on. Take this under consideration.
    1. Just because you are going to lose your virginity, doesn't mean you have to be fucked on your first time. There are lots of other things to do in bed that don't require fucking. I say this, because your first time getting fucked will probably not be a pleasurable experience, unless you have spent quite a bit of time practicing with a dildo or vibrator first. It definitely gets better with experience.
    2. Like fable said, take a dump first, use a condom, and plenty of lube. Also, try douching your ass first. You don't need gallons of water - 1-1/2 to 2 oz at a time, multiple times, until it comes out clear. Nothing like getting that brown stuff all over, to ruin the atmosphere.
    3. If he is willing, get him to rim you first - to get you all excited, like 18 year old Charlie Hunnam experienced in the first episode of Queer as Folk. (See below - first minute.)
    4. There have been lots of posts on here on "bottoming: Do a search, and read them. Read what Gamrican has had to say on the subject.
    5. It might hurt, it might not. If it does, don't hesitate to call a halt and go back to doing something else.
    6. Best Position - Since he is good sized, you might try both of you lying on your sides, with him behind you. You will have most control of the operation, how slowly he enters you, and how deep he goes in, if you are sitting on top of him.

    Hope you have a great time - sex or not.



    You should definitely douche before - preferably half an hour or so before, so that if there was any water left hiding in there, it has time to get released before you start in.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Dec 11, 2013 2:50 AM GMT
    Go slow and have fun
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    Dec 12, 2013 11:09 AM GMT
    Let us know how it goes Limerick!
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    Dec 12, 2013 1:06 PM GMT
    NEVER, EVER bottom for some dude the first time you meet him. Make out, a little oral sex fine - definitely no anal sex. If he likes you, and you like him, he'll be back.

    If this is just some mission to loose your virginity, think twice.
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    Dec 14, 2013 10:36 AM GMT
    OK it was last night....awaiting report Limerick!
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    Dec 14, 2013 12:16 PM GMT
    NJDewd saidOK it was last night....awaiting report Limerick!

    hey it's weekend. They might still be doing it. Give the lad sometime.

    Still we are awaiting for the full report.
  • Limerick18

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    Dec 14, 2013 1:26 PM GMT
    Thanks guys for caring how it went!
    Where to start? Wow.

    So we met in the city and went walking an talking for a while, then we drove in his car to the nearest shopping centre car park and sat there talking for ages. We weren't just talking about sex and stuff- we were having a proper flowing convo!
    We went for a McD's drive thru and after our milkshake we shifted (I dunno what ye say in America? French kiss?). It was great, feeling his stubble against mine and a relief! Such a relief! My life had been waiting for that first kiss with a guy! It was great!! icon_biggrin.gif

    SO I eventually persuaded him to come into my house instead of driving home cos it was 10.30pm and it would have taken 3 hours to drive home! He was a little shy but myself and my housemates made him feel comfortable (they don't know I'm gay). We lay on my bed and watched Insidious 2, laying his head on my shoulder and whatnot... When it (eventually) finished we just naturally got into it. Started shifting again and feeling and slowly undressing each other. My body was quivering at his touch- no one had EVER touched me like he did. I was extremely nervous at first and my heart was doing 90! (beating really fast- Irish slang :p)So shifting and groping for a while (we couldnt make too much noise cos my hmate's room was above mine!) We were naked, him on top of me and the contact felt great- but so weird for me! he went down on me and gave me a bj- You guys, aren't they savage?! I was trying to keep myself from moaning out and that added to the pleasure! He stopped after 5 minutes and after a while I went down on him- he said I was class at giving and was sure I'd done it before- I hadn't- but had seen it done before icon_razz.gif so we lay there, kissing, feeling- just enjoying each others presence before we jerked each other off and lay there naked, him spooning me until we awoke side-by-side today, about 5 hours ago.

    This was my first gay experience and one that I will never forget- I just cant wait for my next one, I hope its not too far away... Hope this wasn't too long-winded and that ye enjoyed my experience at least half as much as I did!

    Thanks, peace out. icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 14, 2013 4:02 PM GMT
    Limerick18 saidThanks guys for caring how it went!
    Where to start? Wow.

    So we met in the city and went walking an talking for a while, then we drove in his car to the nearest shopping centre car park and sat there talking for ages. We weren't just talking about sex and stuff- we were having a proper flowing convo!
    We went for a McD's drive thru and after our milkshake we shifted (I dunno what ye say in America? French kiss?). It was great, feeling his stubble against mine and a relief! Such a relief! My life had been waiting for that first kiss with a guy! It was great!! icon_biggrin.gif

    SO I eventually persuaded him to come into my house instead of driving home cos it was 10.30pm and it would have taken 3 hours to drive home! He was a little shy but myself and my housemates made him feel comfortable (they don't know I'm gay). We lay on my bed and watched Insidious 2, laying his head on my shoulder and whatnot... When it (eventually) finished we just naturally got into it. Started shifting again and feeling and slowly undressing each other. My body was quivering at his touch- no one had EVER touched me like he did. I was extremely nervous at first and my heart was doing 90! (beating really fast- Irish slang :p)So shifting and groping for a while (we couldnt make too much noise cos my hmate's room was above mine!) We were naked, him on top of me and the contact felt great- but so weird for me! he went down on me and gave me a bj- You guys, aren't they savage?! I was trying to keep myself from moaning out and that added to the pleasure! He stopped after 5 minutes and after a while I went down on him- he said I was class at giving and was sure I'd done it before- I hadn't- but had seen it done before icon_razz.gif so we lay there, kissing, feeling- just enjoying each others presence before we jerked each other off and lay there naked, him spooning me until we awoke side-by-side today, about 5 hours ago.

    This was my first gay experience and one that I will never forget- I just cant wait for my next one, I hope its not too far away... Hope this wasn't too long-winded and that ye enjoyed my experience at least half as much as I did!

    Thanks, peace out. icon_smile.gif

    I guess in USA it's making out or just kissing also.
    Shifting is new for me.
    Glad that it went well.
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    Dec 14, 2013 4:05 PM GMT
    I hope your next time is with him too! Sounds like a good catch. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 14, 2013 5:54 PM GMT
    @Limerick
    Glad that you had such a good time.

    Your first gay sex experience was far better than it was for most guys I've talked to (or mine, for that matter).
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    Dec 15, 2013 12:07 PM GMT
    Yes Limerick - consider yourself blessed. A lot of these first times dont turn out well as I have read on here.