Confused...(Good boys/Bad boys)

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    Dec 13, 2013 11:58 AM GMT
    How do you know when you made the right decision in love?
    If you had to chose from the person you really love/loved but had a difficult life with or the person who makes you smile and pushes you in becoming the person you imagine your self being but there isnt that crazy flame that made things so sexual and romantic and special, what would you chose?
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    Dec 13, 2013 4:26 PM GMT
    I hope to find something in the middle. But I'd choose the second option. I don't like drama and stress.
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    Dec 13, 2013 4:42 PM GMT
    Difficult choice. I wonder, is love a choice? Personally I don't think it is so much. We love whom we love. Now whether or not we have an on-going relationship with that man, that's another question and is more of a choice. Maybe we do, maybe we don't.

    The way I look at these things is in a way it doesn't matter which way you go, which choice you make. Every big choice we make sets us on a course of life but unfortunately there is no real way of knowing which is 'best'. We can try and anticipate all the different consequences of our decisions but when it comes right down to it, there is an element of 'luck' or 'fate' -- random accident, really -- over which we have no control. The main thing is to choose whatever you want but then agree with yourself that no matter the consequences, you'll have no regrets. That, too, is a choice.
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    Dec 13, 2013 8:55 PM GMT
    MedgenC saidHow do you know when you made the right decision in love?
    If you had to chose from the person you really love/loved but had a difficult life with or the person who makes you smile and pushes you in becoming the person you imagine your self being but there isnt that crazy flame that made things so sexual and romantic and special, what would you chose?


    it's the guy who you feel like you can be yourself with at all times. also known as the guy who doesn't play games and is honest with you and himself.
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    Dec 13, 2013 10:30 PM GMT
    Well, I don't need someone to "push me to become the person I want to be". My inspiration comes from within. I would choose the person who complements my life and I his. Why would I want someone who made my life difficult?
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    Dec 13, 2013 10:36 PM GMT
    I'd choose the guy that's I'm more romantically connected with! I don't really care if he has a bad life or if he was raised on a silver platter! I think having a connection is a main thing, having said that, I'd probably settle for a good boy, I'm a good one myself. Because I don't want him to end up fucking around and cheating on me! icon_eek.gificon_redface.gif As far as being a better person, only you can decide to improve yourself, no one can force you to do that.