He's really "into me" but we hardly ever have sex... So what is he into?

  • green_guy

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    Dec 14, 2013 8:19 PM GMT
    Its been almost 2 months and I can literally count on two hands how many times we've done it. After the 1st month he wanted to be my boyfriend. The first week things were awesome and I almost thought he might be to much for me to handle sexually... But now its like we never do it and if we do I have to complain for it to happen. Ive brought it up twice and he usually has some sort of excuse and says hell make a better effort. But never really follows through. The actual relationship is decent for 2 months... But the lack of sex is frustrating. Lately it just feels like Im just wasting time time with him.

    He likes me a lot... But the problem is still there. What's the best way to get out of the relationship without being a dick?
  • rnch

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    Dec 14, 2013 8:44 PM GMT
    Not all gay friendships are expressed in sex.

    It sounds like he values you more as a close gay friend than a sex partner.

    You have to decide if this is enough for you.
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    Dec 14, 2013 9:28 PM GMT
    rnch saidNot all gay friendships are expressed in sex.

    It sounds like he values you more as a close gay friend than a sex partner.

    You have to decide if this is enough for you.

    I thought he wanted more than a friendship though, and if that's the case, and it's only two months and you are online bitching about the lack of it, move on now. At two months you should be too sore to complain about anything.
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    Dec 14, 2013 9:34 PM GMT
    He likes you, but maybe the pressure isnt too good for sex. He maybe looks for somre sentimental things rather than sex, which is awesome!
  • Apparition

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    Dec 16, 2013 9:35 PM GMT
    the job of a bf is to provide sex. he isnt doing his job properly. dump him. easier now than later.
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    Dec 16, 2013 9:43 PM GMT
    I agree with rnch; it's a friendship, not a true boyfriend relationship that involves sex. You could discuss this with him and maintain the friendship. No reason to dispose of the friendship if sex isn't part of the equation.