LESS THAN POSITIVE REACTIONS: What makes you say "ick" when you look at an online profile?

  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 09, 2008 1:35 PM GMT
    The average RJ profile is probably the best I've seen. Many here say more, include more pictures and disclose more about who they really are.

    But we are all human, what gives you an immediate negative reaction? Is it a pic, lack of anything substantial?

    For me its just the way the individual comes across in his profile, or lack of it if he says nothing.
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    Dec 09, 2008 1:55 PM GMT
    Things like "Daddy for Son", "bareback only", "into piss" etc kinda make me go 'ick'. That's just a natural reaction. The other scenario is a really cute guy saying "don't be offended if I don't respond, I get loads of messages and I'm really picky". Ick.

    Photos I'm less turned off by, particularly on RJ as they do a good job of keeping them above board for the most part.

    The biggest turn off for me though is the actual conversation starting with "u lookin'?" or "what u into?" being one of the first questions. Yeah yeah, I get it that some people are after that and are entitled to get straight to the point, but it's just not for me.
  • Timbales

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    Dec 09, 2008 2:15 PM GMT
    people who pose with their dogs icon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 09, 2008 2:18 PM GMT
    Timberoo saidpeople who pose with their dogs icon_twisted.gif


    Hey I did that!!!! Why is that so terrible?
    At least it shows you have some feeling for something/someone other than yourself... which is what I find unattractive in a profile. It's rea hard to be friends with someone whose interests are "me, myself, and I... and the weight room."
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    Dec 09, 2008 2:18 PM GMT
    - Blank profiles, two or one stolen/headless pictures.

    - Anything that smacks of racism, internalized homophobia, ageism, or just plain bigotry.

    - Narcissism and overconfidence. Anyone that describe themselves as hot or good looking in their profiles (and not in a humorous way). Or the implication that certain people aren't even allowed to talk to them if they don't meet certain criteria.

    - The utter lack of humor ANYWHERE on the profile or in his pics.

    - A severe lack of signs of intelligence. Though of course, I give more leeway to non-native English speakers.

    - Profiles which are filled out in 'text-speech' (ape-talk of people who think keyboards are equivalent to cellphone keypads) and/or written all in caps. Not being nazi about it, it's okay to use 'ur' instead of 'your' or something like that in moderation. But it's friggin annoying when the profile reads like the following: HI IM N8 IM 18 N LUV 2 MEET PPL CHAT ME icon_rolleyes.gif

    - Political or religious zealotry in his profile. Both aren't bad in moderation, but foaming at the mouth types? Nuh-uh. I do tend to steer away from anyone who mentions conservative religious faith, not because they're bad, but more because we'd probably never get along (there are exceptions, of course, but they tend to be on the liberal side).

    - Profiles which are unabashedly sexual. Kinda like the things you'd find in Manhunt. Detailing fetishes, cock sizes, roles, etc. ho-hum

    NOTE: I am not here to hook-up, not even to date. The criteria above are simply stuff which gives me a bad impression of the person.

    P.S. Timberoo... didn't you morph into a dog once? icon_lol.gif
  • Timbales

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    Dec 09, 2008 2:33 PM GMT
    SAHEM62896 said
    Timberoo saidpeople who pose with their dogs icon_twisted.gif


    Hey I did that!!!! Why is that so terrible?
    At least it shows you have some feeling for something/someone other than yourself... which is what I find unattractive in a profile. It's rea hard to be friends with someone whose interests are "me, myself, and I... and the weight room."


    it was meant to be a joke icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 09, 2008 2:35 PM GMT
    Timberoo said
    SAHEM62896 said
    Timberoo saidpeople who pose with their dogs icon_twisted.gif


    Hey I did that!!!! Why is that so terrible?
    At least it shows you have some feeling for something/someone other than yourself... which is what I find unattractive in a profile. It's rea hard to be friends with someone whose interests are "me, myself, and I... and the weight room."


    it was meant to be a joke icon_wink.gif

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    Dec 09, 2008 2:44 PM GMT
    I've only uttered "Ick" once when looking at a profile. The guy went through some effort to detail how important it was for his potential partner to serve him dinner within an hour of him coming home after work. He didn't like to cook, so his partner would have to feed him "within an hour or so".

    Guys that think traditional gender roles should be transplanted into gay relationships make me go "Ick".
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    Dec 09, 2008 2:44 PM GMT
    ick = details of their sexual preferences in others

    ick = details of their own sexual lives

    ick = requirements so stringent that a man like that couldn't be custom built, much less found

    ick = men my age or older (60) who only want 20-something twinks for an LTR
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Dec 09, 2008 2:46 PM GMT
    One thing I like most about RJ is that the average profile is a class above most found on other gay sites like say gay.com or manhunt. Rarely, if ever, do you open a profile on RJ and immediately come face-to-face with someone's penis or ass. A little bit of mystery is always more attractive than basically knowing the ending before the story even starts. I find profiles that are overtly sexual and mentioning fetishes, penis size, or other things I really don't care to know right a way a turn-off and very telling about the person. Things in a profile that will turn me off immediately -- barebacking, fisting, multiple piercings, S&M, WS, group sex. I run the other direction.
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    Dec 09, 2008 2:55 PM GMT
    SciFi_TriGuy saidI've only uttered "Ick" once when looking at a profile. The guy went through some effort to detail how important it was for his potential partner to serve him dinner within an hour of him coming home after work. He didn't like to cook, so his partner would have to feed him "within an hour or so".

    Guys that think traditional gender roles should be transplanted into gay relationships make me go "Ick".


    That's from my profile and it's satire. Sorry you didn't get it.

    Profile snapshots that include women. (I love women - I just don't want to see them when i'm looking at men and trying to feel amorous.) Half a dozen self portraits from the neck down, shitty grammar from native speakers of English, a willful or dispassionate lack of humor or curiosity, an overabundance of hubris... A protracted "ick:" when a fellow repeatedly views my profile over the course of several weeks or months. You finally send him a "hello" as a way of acknowledgment, maybe encouraging him to write something if he's shy. And then, nada.

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    Dec 09, 2008 3:02 PM GMT
    ^ LMAO! What was I saying about guys with no humor? icon_razz.gif (Though in this case, it seems to be on the profile viewer's side)

    Loved the last line in your profile btw, eyland:
    "My one fear of having a lover/partner/spouse for life doing all my cooking would be if we got into an argument and then I couldn't eat. True."

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    Dec 09, 2008 3:20 PM GMT
    I am attracted to RJ profiles that give me a strong impression of who the person really is. We are individuals and so it is a bit of a turn off when I feel the RJ member is trying to parrot what he thinks other people want to hear.

    Any time I read "I am laid back but like to party" or "I like chilling with friends" my eyes start to glaze other.

    Here are a few RJ profiles that impressed me from the moment I looked at them

    "MunchingZombie" - the RJ name alone is worth the price of admission;

    "Looknrnd" - a young guy that has been through a lot already in life, and has lost a jaw-dropping amount of weight;

    "Surfsdown" - well-written, humourous and chatty profile;

    "Sedative" - highly original.
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    Dec 09, 2008 3:26 PM GMT
    I'm glad to see it was in jest. icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 09, 2008 3:27 PM GMT
    Timberoo saidpeople who pose with their dogs icon_twisted.gif


    And those who pose laid out on the kitchen counter and in the flower bed with no clothes on.


    Ha Ha. Only joking
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    Dec 09, 2008 3:28 PM GMT
    "normal"

    "straight acting"

    Gangsta talk from people who have never been in a gang and wouldn't know how to handle one if approached.

    Claims about dick size.
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    Dec 09, 2008 3:53 PM GMT
    XRuggerATX said"normal"

    "straight acting"

    Gangsta talk from people who have never been in a gang and wouldn't know how to handle one if approached.

    Claims about dick size.


    Claims about dick size really? I seem to have missed those. I have to look at more profiles. Wishful or magical thinking is always entertaining. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 09, 2008 4:00 PM GMT
    a laundry list of "qualifications" like...

    * 24 and 3 months to 25 and 1 month....no old guys please
    * .00001% body fat
    ---favorite workout song begins aing loudly
    * masculine, straight acting (but will go see musical theatre on a date ... for the culture, dude)
    * thick, hot weiner
    ----check out the pic of me giving the camera the finger .... I'm so edgy!

    ... then qualified by the obligatory "no offense to you who don't meet all of my criteria, it's just what I'm into..."
  • MusicMan87

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    Dec 09, 2008 4:02 PM GMT
    anything to do w/ dom/sub stuff.. no thanks

    yea and the daddy/son thing.... weird

    I definitely like to see someones face if I'm going to talk to them. I don't necessarily see the point of hiding your face and only showing your body if you're out and everything.
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    Dec 09, 2008 4:05 PM GMT
    profiles that are too good to be true. traveling to europe a lot, learning extinct languages on the side sort of thing.

    hmm. maybe should use that in my profile.
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    Dec 09, 2008 4:06 PM GMT
    Ick profiles are ones that:

    Say nothing. Usually, there is nothing written, or it's filled with cliches like:

    I don't know what to write here.
    It's hard for me to talk about myself.
    Looking for Mr. Right but for now looking for Mr. Right Now.
    I'm laid back and easy going.etc.
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    Dec 09, 2008 4:56 PM GMT
    People who take up most of there profile listing qualities in people they hate.. and glamour shots... If you're not a model step away from the photo shoot your friend who works at Loreal scored you. It makes you look like a douche.

    And thats pretty much it.icon_biggrin.gif
  • MuslDrew

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    Dec 09, 2008 5:12 PM GMT
    little to no information about themselves
    references to being straight acting or masculine
    guys only interested in way younger than themselves
    negativity or critical remarks regarding what they do not want in other guys.
    looking to cam
    close up pics of their cock
    open relationship or committed but play together
  • silverfox

    Posts: 3178

    Dec 09, 2008 5:47 PM GMT
    I like profiles that give some indication of why the person would be on a site like RealJock.
    I don't like profiles that treat this site like it is one for sex... there are more efficient sites out there to get laid.
  • Laurence

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    Dec 09, 2008 5:56 PM GMT
    I hate profiles on RJ where guys go on and on about their spirituality. Like I give a f**k. I want to know what movies/theatre/TV/music you like, not if you're looking for your inner-self (news for you you 're not going to find it on the internet).

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