I'm coming out of the closet.

  • johnnyqhomo7

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    Dec 16, 2013 4:20 AM GMT
    hi everyone. This is sorta my coming out letter to my mom. She already knows, but i just have to make sure. Im 34, black, male, and I am coming out of the closet. I like men. I always have and I always will. Mom and dad, I know this isn't what you want for me, but I love you so much. At night I used to cry myself to sleep over this because I coudln't be like the other guys. I mean, who would want to be a guy who loves other guys anyway? It was so hard mom. I was so scared when i was a teenager being gay. I am scared even as an adult man who is gay. I know you flipped out when you find out i was into white guys, but please dont be mad. They are human too you know. Treat others the way you would want to be treated Jesus preached. Anyhow. I just have to say that I love you very much and I dont want this to get between us. I just find this so hard to talk about, i was so pained to write even the liktttle bit above. Ny'way. It is nice ot meet you all, I'm Paden. Peace.-Jqh
  • jo2hotbod

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    Dec 16, 2013 4:26 AM GMT
    Good luck and congratulations
  • Eli20

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    Dec 16, 2013 5:30 AM GMT
    Get outa that closet and come on out, we're out here waiting on you!
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    Dec 16, 2013 5:37 AM GMT
    Save the letter.. Just do this..

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  • onefortified

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    Dec 16, 2013 5:40 AM GMT
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    Dec 16, 2013 5:46 AM GMT
    Congrats and good luck man! Awesome move.
  • Thirdbeach

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    Dec 16, 2013 6:06 AM GMT
    Good for you.
    Your parents will understand, in time.
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    Dec 16, 2013 6:12 AM GMT
    Good luck and congratulations!
  • waccamatt

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    Dec 16, 2013 6:17 AM GMT
    Congratulations; coming out is the best thing you can do for yourself.
  • Shark100

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    Dec 16, 2013 10:26 AM GMT
    Yeah, it is hard to face your parents and give them the news...however I think my mom knows since I was a kid, she just don't tell haha. Anyway, good on you mate, that is a burden you are taking away and hopefully she wil understand.
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    Dec 16, 2013 10:27 AM GMT
    Good luck. I wish you well. x
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    Dec 16, 2013 4:22 PM GMT
    From my own experience, coming out as a gay man, openly gay in all aspects of my life, has been some of the most freeing series of decisions I have made in my life.

    I am who and what I am.
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    Dec 16, 2013 4:34 PM GMT
    Awww, god job! *hugs*

    It's always tough to deal with but once it's said and done, you feel like a huge ugly weight has been taken off your shoulder icon_smile.gif
  • Trajen1

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    Dec 16, 2013 5:50 PM GMT
    That was the hardest time of my life, but everything worth doing comes with some discomfort. Trust me when I say it's worth it! I feel so free now that I often forget how powerless I felt in those days. It will be ok!
  • Apparition

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    Dec 16, 2013 5:57 PM GMT
    i would be ready with reference material though...

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    books (try "is it a choice" its 5 bucks on amazon)
    and links to similar.


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    Dec 16, 2013 6:10 PM GMT
    Good Luck!
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    Dec 17, 2013 2:37 AM GMT
    Your letter seemed a bit too much on the apologetic side...like you were ashamed of it. embrace your gayness.
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    Dec 17, 2013 2:43 AM GMT
    This is just me, but I really don't get the whole concept of coming out. Like, when you come out your parents will know you're gay, you'll feel free, but then what? You would start whoring yourself and bring men home? You will start going shopping for dresses with mom? The way you behave would pretty much just stay the same as you have always been.

    In an ideal world, coming out wouldn't even be a concept at all.
  • johnnyqhomo7

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    Dec 25, 2013 6:34 PM GMT
    thank you all for your encouragement icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 25, 2013 7:09 PM GMT
    Good luck! Hope all will be well!