What are the most gay friendly city/towns?

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    Dec 16, 2013 6:27 AM GMT
    I always wanted to live in a town or a city where I could be myself and not hide it from everybody else do you know of any places?
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    Dec 16, 2013 7:39 AM GMT
    Germany - berlin, hamburg
    Uk - Manchester, London
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    Dec 16, 2013 7:56 AM GMT
    UK_Fella saidGermany - berlin, hamburg
    Uk - Manchester, London

    London sounds like a nice place.
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    Dec 16, 2013 8:02 AM GMT
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  • secondstartot...

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    Dec 16, 2013 10:36 AM GMT
    Tel Aviv !!
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    Dec 16, 2013 10:53 AM GMT
    Forgot to add...

    Netherlands: Amsterdam
    UK: Brighton, Blackpool
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    Dec 16, 2013 11:09 AM GMT
    http://www.gaycities.com/places/

    Here is the list! From personal experiences, San Francisco, West Hollywood, Long Beach, NYC, London, Paris, Rome, Chicago are friendliest!! I'm sure there are other tons gay friendly towns, I just haven't been to!!
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    Dec 16, 2013 12:25 PM GMT
    Spain: Madrid, Barcelona
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    Dec 16, 2013 1:22 PM GMT
    morphic saidSpain: Madrid, Barcelona


    Apparantly, Cadiz is also a gay friendly place.
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    Dec 16, 2013 1:31 PM GMT
    Katon_user saidI always wanted to live in a town or a city where I could be myself and not hide it from everybody else do you know of any places?

    The 3-town area in South Florida of Fort Lauderdale, Wilton Manors and Oakland Park is very gay friendly. PDAs are common, I can go into any store with my husband and shop openly for each other as a couple, and public gay celebrations & events are frequent.

    Key West is friendly, too, although transitioning, like South Beach did. The gay presence is being pushed out by straight property & business investors, exploiting the revitalization that gays were central to creating.

    The KW natives are still friendly as ever, but when the big cruise ships dock, and thousands of tourists from Ohio & Kansas flood the streets, you can hear the gasps and see the shocked expressions at the gays being "allowed" to hold hands on the sidewalk. Still, it's better than being back in Kansas, or half the US States for that matter.
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    Dec 16, 2013 2:26 PM GMT
    http://www.hrc.org/resources/entry/mei-2013-see-your-citys-score

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    Dec 16, 2013 4:14 PM GMT
    willular saidhttp://www.hrc.org/resources/entry/mei-2013-see-your-citys-score



    Fixed

    And, oh look! San Francisco: 100 our of a possible 100 points. How surprising!
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    Dec 16, 2013 4:34 PM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    ....The KW natives are still friendly as ever, but when the big cruise ships dock, and thousands of tourists from Ohio & Kansas flood the streets, you can hear the gasps and see the shocked expressions at the gays being "allowed" to hold hands on the sidewalk. Still, it's better than being back in Kansas, or half the US States for that matter.




    SOME things never change.

    Shortly after I was born, right after my Father had graduated college and was going thru the job decision process, he had the choice of staying in Kansas City or moving "down south" to New Orleans, a sight unseen "foreign" city for two young Oklahoma/Kansas natives.

    According to "family legend", my Mother, with quite unusual firmness and force for a 1950's young housewife, emphatically told my Father: "I WILL NOT raise a family in this Terrible Town! MOVE ME OR LEAVE ME!!" Dad said that after a few seconds of Stunned Silence, he nodded his assent and made plans to move to what his Baptist Mennonite relatives called "Sin City".

    More than once I thanked them for choosing New Orleans...even before I realized I was gay. Although there are uptight, Republican, homophobic parts of New Orleans; there are several "gay friendly" parts of this town also.

    Even then "A Mother Knows".





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    Dec 16, 2013 5:28 PM GMT
    UK_Fella said
    morphic saidSpain: Madrid, Barcelona


    Apparantly, Cadiz is also a gay friendly place.

    I have never been there but yeah there should be more gay friendly places in Spain. I would say South and East of Spain is more gay friendly than the North or West.
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    Dec 16, 2013 5:28 PM GMT
    I was in Cadiz in May this year and didnt really like the place.
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    Dec 16, 2013 5:30 PM GMT
    UK_Fella saidI was in Cadiz in May this year and didnt really like the place.

    In what sense?
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    Dec 16, 2013 5:32 PM GMT
    Isn't San Francisco considered the gay capital of the world lol. Or at least the U.S.

    I'd love to live in such a place too, somewhere you won't have to worry about hateful people, plus have a higher chance of finding the right guy icon_smile.gif West Hollywood is also well known to be a "gay city" so if you're in California you have at least those 2 lucky options and someone mentioned more in the SoCal area. And here I am stuck in some lame, not so gay-friendly city, between the friendly ones icon_neutral.gif
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    Dec 16, 2013 5:32 PM GMT
    The place as a whole is not special. Id sooner spend time exploring the nudest beaches around the coast instead :-)
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    UK_Fella saidThe place as a whole is not special. Id sooner spend time exploring the nudest beaches around the coast instead :-)

    That could be the reason. Most of these places are small and there isn't much to do except going to beach. My ex is from Almeria, and you have beautiful beaches there.
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    Dec 16, 2013 10:29 PM GMT
    secondstartotheright saidTel Aviv !!


    http://telaviv.gaycities.com/
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    Dec 16, 2013 10:31 PM GMT
    Provincetown
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    Dec 16, 2013 11:33 PM GMT
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    willular saidhttp://www.hrc.org/resources/entry/mei-2013-see-your-citys-score



    Fixed

    And, oh look! San Francisco: 100 our of a possible 100 points. How surprising!


    What is pleasantly surprising about that list is seeing areas of this country which respect gay people maybe even more so, over all, than some of the known gay so-called ghettos.

    In Florida, for instance, as I noted in another thread, there's a number of areas which beat out Wilton's 82 score, including areas of northern Florida that even a local might not have suspected, such as Tampa 89 and even Tallahassee at 84.

    I find that much more encouraging than finding safety merely in communities with higher densities of gay people where, certainly, hate crimes still might be targeted.

    A look at hate crime maps might be interesting. Now I don't know if the stats are all collected in the same way across the board, if some areas tend to report more than others, etc. But...just googling quickly....

    Here's 2006 map that makes Calif look more dangerous than the south
    bigotry-map-2-0608-lg.jpg

    Here's the FBI's 2012 hate crime stats http://www.fbi.gov/about-us/cjis/ucr/hate-crime/2012

    Sexual-orientation bias

    In 2012, law enforcement agencies reported 1,318 hate crime offenses based on sexual-orientation bias. Of these offenses:
    ◾54.6 percent were classified as anti-male homosexual bias.
    ◾28.0 percent were reported as anti-homosexual bias.
    ◾12.3 percent were prompted by an anti-female homosexual bias.
    ◾3.1 percent were classified as anti-bisexual bias.
    ◾2.0 percent were the result of an anti-heterosexual bias. (Based on Table 1.)


    Here's hate crimes by state but it doesn't break out antigay
    http://www.fbi.gov/about-us/cjis/ucr/hate-crime/2012/tables-and-data-declarations/11tabledatadecpdf/table_11_offenses_offense_type_by_participating_state_2012.xls

    But even still it shows Florida with 166 and Calif with 1089 incidents. Now, by per capita...

    Florida population 19.32 million @ 166 incidents or 1 per 116,385 people.
    Calif pop 38.4 million @ 1,089 or 1 per 35,261 people.

    I'm surprised to see that but it does reflect that 2006 map. Calif either has or has reported 3.3 times more hate crimes than here.

  • Dec 17, 2013 12:37 AM GMT
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    GAMRican said
    willular saidhttp://www.hrc.org/resources/entry/mei-2013-see-your-citys-score



    Fixed

    And, oh look! San Francisco: 100 our of a possible 100 points. How surprising!


    What is pleasantly surprising about that list is seeing areas of this country which respect gay people maybe even more so, over all, than some of the known gay so-called ghettos.

    In Florida, for instance, as I noted in another thread, there's a number of areas which beat out Wilton's 82 score, including areas of northern Florida that even a local might not have suspected, such as Tampa 89 and even Tallahassee at 84.

    I find that much more encouraging than finding safety merely in communities with higher densities of gay people where, certainly, hate crimes still might be targeted.

    A look at hate crime maps might be interesting. Now I don't know if the stats are all collected in the same way across the board, if some areas tend to report more than others, etc. But...just googling quickly....

    Here's 2006 map that makes Calif look more dangerous than the south
    bigotry-map-2-0608-lg.jpg

    Here's the FBI's 2012 hate crime stats http://www.fbi.gov/about-us/cjis/ucr/hate-crime/2012

    Sexual-orientation bias

    In 2012, law enforcement agencies reported 1,318 hate crime offenses based on sexual-orientation bias. Of these offenses:
    ◾54.6 percent were classified as anti-male homosexual bias.
    ◾28.0 percent were reported as anti-homosexual bias.
    ◾12.3 percent were prompted by an anti-female homosexual bias.
    ◾3.1 percent were classified as anti-bisexual bias.
    ◾2.0 percent were the result of an anti-heterosexual bias. (Based on Table 1.)


    Here's hate crimes by state but it doesn't break out antigay
    http://www.fbi.gov/about-us/cjis/ucr/hate-crime/2012/tables-and-data-declarations/11tabledatadecpdf/table_11_offenses_offense_type_by_participating_state_2012.xls

    But even still it shows Florida with 166 and Calif with 1089 incidents. Now, by per capita...

    Florida population 19.32 million @ 166 incidents or 1 per 116,385 people.
    Calif pop 38.4 million @ 1,089 or 1 per 35,261 people.

    I'm surprised to see that but it does reflect that 2006 map. Calif either has or has reported 3.3 times more hate crimes than here.


    Good research. I used to live in the South and it is funny how so many people who live in the usual places (New York, Chicago, Washington DC and state, San Francisco, Los Angeles) think that the townspeople will chase you out of town if you are gay and live in the South. People need to get out and see more of the country and not be so frightened.
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    Dec 17, 2013 1:18 AM GMT
    JudyGarlandFan said

    Good research. I used to live in the South and it is funny how so many people who live in the usual places (New York, Chicago, Washington DC and state, San Francisco, Los Angeles) think that the townspeople will chase you out of town if you are gay and live in the South. People need to get out and see more of the country and not be so frightened.


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  • blueandgold

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    Dec 17, 2013 9:18 PM GMT
    No shout outs for Boston? While not a super gay feeling city, my homosexuality... both in my personal life and at work ... have been a complete non issue.

    Also, your rights here have been championed longer than just about any other major us city