"Responsiveness" data on dating sites

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    Dec 17, 2013 6:27 PM GMT
    I have noticed that okcupid and jackd had this, and now Scruff does too. What do think of this? Do you refer to it before contacting someone? Does it make you think a guy is a douche if he has a low responsiveness rate? Do you think it should be removed?
  • donnygg

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    Dec 18, 2013 4:32 PM GMT
    I do check out the stats out of curiosity but doesn't mean much to me. I've read some profiles on Jack'd who openly condemn profiles with low response rate. I mean, really? Just move on. I used to be butt hurt over it but you can't control people's action and there may be reasons behind the low response rate. So what if someone has a high response rate? Maybe he's fucking then dumping everyone who messages him.

    I have to admit I have a horrible response rate. That's partly because there was a long time when I had an empty profile but people still messaged me. Now that I have a profile, I'm still not particularly active on the app and don't reply to everyone who messages me, especially those who have nothing substantial in their profile and only pictures of random objects.

    I don't really care whether the response rate is shown. I'll leave it up to the app developers to decide.
  • zalcland

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    Dec 18, 2013 4:49 PM GMT
    Im sure I have a horrible response rate on OKcupid. Thats because I dont respond to single word emails like "sup" or "wow looking at your pic got me horny" or something. I get a lot of emails like that which I dont respond to. If I see a cool guy and it says he never responds, I send something anyway. You never know. Dont worry about it and just shoot them a message. If they dont respond, its not your fault.
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    Dec 18, 2013 8:17 PM GMT
    Mine is 10% on scruff icon_eek.gif

    I expect to get grief about it from the first person who realises. It is even lower on Jackd because of the link spammers. On okcupid I am 'very selective' in red font. I think it must put people off, but why respond just to say you are not interested?
  • LoveAndPeace

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    Dec 18, 2013 8:48 PM GMT
    I stay away from people like that.If a person has over 60% ill mssg them if not won't bother
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    Dec 18, 2013 8:58 PM GMT
    And yet another reason why I thank the good lord for sending me LingLang and my luck in never having ventured into the online dating mess.
  • christastic

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    Dec 18, 2013 11:48 PM GMT
    I only respond to guys I'm interested in, so about 25% of the time on Jack'd. I put less effort in conversations with guys with very high response rates, because who knows how many guys he's simultaneously courting....
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    Dec 18, 2013 11:57 PM GMT
    On some of the paid versions you can inspect how often they responded to profiles sorted into various groups including (incoming drama alert) race...
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    Dec 20, 2013 7:28 AM GMT
    <<< I've been guilty of not responding on here RJ and OK cupid. It depends on the context and the guy. If I like someone or his profile/photo caught my attention, I will email and try to break the ice! Everyone faces rejection one time or another. I don't want to feel the **What if moments just because my ego is too high!!
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    Dec 20, 2013 7:54 AM GMT
    I'd rather meet someone who's a bit more discriminate, than someone who is online 24/7 and is exchanging messages all day long.

    When I was on Jack'd, I had I think a 15% response rate because 85% of the people messaging me I just wasn't into. Most of the guys I met from jack'd, were guys I had to message first because I didn't like the responses I was getting.

    Those apps are kinda dumb anyway. I get laid more from craiglist and bar-hopping.
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    Dec 20, 2013 10:39 AM GMT
    I think that responsiveness rate is a total privacy issue...

    If the guy did not reply, he's not interested and you can just move on... Or sometimes ppl get tooo busy. But if he's interested he will reply somehow... So the response is just about chemistry test. But if there's some responsiveness rate, guys with low rate will likely be very much judged that's not cool at all....
  • donnygg

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    Dec 20, 2013 3:22 PM GMT
    It's interesting that different people react differently to the response rate. Some prefer low rates, some prefer high rate. I think I prefer those with lower rates now. They are more selective and when you get a response, it's more likely to be genuine interest. I've had responses from guys with over 80% rate who seem so interested to meet, then flake at the last hour, literally, and never got to see them. I would say messaging a guy with low rate might get you butt hurt now but messaging a guy with high rate would get you butt hurt later (not in a good way, haha). Messaging a guy with high rate might get you butt hurt now, in the good way, if you want to meet immediately for a quickie.
  • BlackZR1

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    Dec 21, 2013 3:32 AM GMT
    I just dislike when you send a message and they don't even bother to check you out. Very annoying.