Is this common for gay/Bi men? I need sincere advice please.

  • UglyCasanova

    Posts: 2

    Dec 17, 2013 8:30 PM GMT
    First off, I'll start by saying that I have just recently accepted the realization that I am a bisexual. This is, quite honestly, the first time I have ever openly discussed this with anyone - I have never, in face-to-face or on the internet shown any signs of interest in men.

    I am sexually attracted to men, but I do hope to one day have a wife, a big house, picket fence, with biological children and the rest of all that crap. I understand that it is probably a subconscious way of sticking to the "accepted" social stigma - but regardless of the reason, it is still what I hope to one day be involved in.

    You can share or discuss anything that you would like to say about the above excerpt but here is where it gets juicy:

    There is a guy at work who I have started to really like. He is cute, needy, sexy, and he is my perfect type - short, husky, confident, pocket bear - just like me. I'm very picky with guys, they basically have to be like I've just described or it is absolutely a no-go. Up until recently, he and I have shared the typical man-to-man conversations about girls and such, and when that happens I even get a little jealous, but I certainly do not let it show. Anyway, despite me knowing he has a girlfriend and is attracted to ladies, he has always done things that make me question his sexuality. He makes subtle remarks, seeming jokingly, but he gets really close to my face, looks right into my eyes, eyes dilated, big grins and everything; and has even grabbed my belly and tickled my sides very gently, A LOT, knowing I will have a reaction, and this was well before we would be what I consider friends, we even at often times argued about stupid shit at work. Keep in mind, this whole time he and the other guys, as far as I know, had no suspicion about me being a bisexual, they thought I was 100% hetero. About a week ago, we got on a topic about sex somehow, and after talking about it and joking around a bit, he asked a question about men. Somewhere in the middle of it he says "I don't like guys, why do you?" Then I just say something like "whatever man, you gotta have the best of both world's" and put my arms out to the side we laugh and stuff but when I was saying it, I was, obviously, entirely serious about it, and I tried to make it very noticeable, and he acknowledged the look on my face and my attitude about it.
    After that point he started acting more flirty and always tries to talk about sex in anyway he can. The next day, he asks me if I want to go to the casino with him only, he did not mention his girlfriend at all - I ended up telling him that I'd like and I would let him know "tomorrow", but I completely forgot, stupidly. he said he ended up not going the next time I spoke with him at work. We were going over the work schedule together, pointing out the days we were working, and his hand hit mine, he just kept it there and neither of us pulled away - we ended up moving our hands and his fingertips again hit my hand and stayed there for a good 10-15 seconds.

    I want him so bad it's literally all I can think about.

    From what I've told you guys, do you think he likes me or wants me too? My intuition tells me yes, but I just can't decide. What should I do to let him know that I like him too? Should I start doing the same "flirting" type things or should I ask him if he wants to go to the casino or something? And if he reacts strangely to my moves, should I just laugh and shrug it off as a joke? Why must I fall for a straight guy who SEEMS to be a closeted bisexual, just like me?! It is the most frustrating thing I've ever been through.


    Please keep in mind that I am entirely new to all of this. Also, this is at work so I have to be cautious. And be patient and understanding with me please, you guys are the first people I've ever told about my true sexuality. I'm just very hopeful, anxious, horny, curious, and eager to see what all of this bottled up emotion leads to.

    Again, just had to let all of this "junk" out of my system, be patient with me and again, keep this private.

    I sincerely thank you.
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    Dec 17, 2013 8:32 PM GMT
    My, oh, my, how familiar this writing style is.
    I'd like to be the first to call FAKEY.
  • UglyCasanova

    Posts: 2

    Dec 17, 2013 8:36 PM GMT
    JohnSpotter saidMy, oh, my, how familiar this writing style is.
    I'd like to be the first to call FAKEY.


    What on Earth are you talking about?

    I assure you, I'm real - and this story of mine is equally as real.