Newbie checking in, after some getting started advice.

  • lostboy101

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    Dec 18, 2013 2:00 PM GMT
    Hi guys,

    I've got some free time now after my temp job has finished and I'm looking to get myself to the gym. My next assignment (if I get it) is literally round the corner from the gym to, so it really is the perfect time. The only "problem" is I'm just mad scared of taking the first step. Yes, yes just man up and do it but I can feel my anxiety building up just thinking about it. I've done some thinking and after my family holiday in February, I wanna go away solo for my birthday in March. I can get on a plane to a totally foreign land where I don't even speak the language but I can't work out in a room full of people. I'm weird like that.

    I do have social anxiety, so if something freaks me out, it amplifies it. And sadly the gym is one of those things. I know it's not supposed to feel like this. The gym and bettering yourself is supposed to be fun and exciting right? And I know I'm in a very fortunate position where I have the time and a gym membership already paid for. I care about what people think ...a lot. Maybe I think to highly of myself to think people would take time out to judge me in a negative way.

    So yeah, not so much what exercises to do etc, I can figure that out easily enough on my own. Just the psychological side of it. How to not feel super self conscious or intimidated at the gym. Any personal experiences would be cool to here.

    Thanks as always ;)
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    Dec 22, 2013 12:34 AM GMT

    First off, it's actually not weird at all to feel scared/nervous/uncomfortable going to the gym. Especially if you are a newbie, I think it is pretty normal. I think a lot of people feel self conscious, especially at first, so stop beating yourself up about feeling that way. The thing is, that will go away once you make the first steps.

    There are a couple things you could do. What are you trying to do? Cardio stuff? Weight lifting?

    My recommendation would be to look into getting a personal trainer. That helped me a lot. It's easier to go when you are meeting someone there, easier to ignore all the people around who you think are staring at you and judging you (they aren't, btw). A trainer can show you around the gym, show you exercises, and help you get comfortable going. They can be expensive but you don't even need to commmit to a long term thing, just invest in a few lessons so you get some basic exercises and get comfortable going.

    If you don't want to do that, another thing is to do some research on basic exercises. There is a TON of information on the internet (too much really), and it would help you a lot to go to the gym knowing what you want to do, rather than wandering around lost.

    I'm a little guy so going to the gym and lifting next to all these ripped dudes was pretty intimidating for me at one point. Personal training and researching helped me a lot. Now I don't even give a shit about the people around me and barely notice them.

    I say get a couple training lessons though. It's worth it.