If your eyes and penis get excited at the sight of men, I would call that self-acceptance already. lol!
Former Senator Larry "Wide Stance" Craig.
Former Representative Mark "Pageboy" Foley.
Former Representative Ed Schrock.
Evangelical pastor Ted Haggard.
Family Research Council quack George Alan Rekers.
Oh, and about half of the male Catholic clergy.
These are just some of the more notable examples of deep-seated internalized homophobia I could think of off the top of my head. This is what happens to people when they walk the path of self-denial--the heart desiccates...shrivels up until there is nothing left but a miserable shadow of a human being. That doesn't mean such people cease having sexual desires, or do not act upon those desires.
And these cases are only the ones you hear about because of the public role of these people. You would be surprised to know just how many gay men are self-loathing yet go trawling for sex online--including on this site.
My point is that if we are to be truly whole, we must let go of such corrosive, noxious thinking; these psychological scars that our families, friends, community, and society inflict upon us. We must stop the self-flagellation and learn to stand tall; to make no apologies for who we are.
Anyone can lurk around in the shadows and drown their suffering in the seedy darkness of furtive sexual encounters. But it takes a real man to have the courage, confidence, and self-acceptance to be out and be unafraid of love--both the love of oneself and the love for another man.