Shower room-Stiffy-Etiquette?

  • mrpandora

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    Dec 10, 2008 11:34 AM GMT
    Oke guys i need your help.
    I was wondering if there is such a thing as shower-stiffy-etiquette.
    At my gym we have a large shower area without separations so everyone has a clear view of everyone soaping up.

    Yesterday I was showering with a guy who kept peeking at my crotch and starting to get a hard on. He tried to conceal it with his hand, but that really didn't work well. I for one am always flattered and not bothered at all, but at this occasion I was like:

    erection-comic.jpg

    So my question is... What is the right thing to do?
    - Get the hell out wavering your hard on in the locker room,
    - think of your dead dog and hoping things will calm down, or
    - flaunt what your mamma gave you and say "It's always nice to meet a fan"?

    Do you have experience with it and what did you do? And how do you feel as innocent bystander when something like that happens?

    Let me know ;)
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    Dec 10, 2008 1:21 PM GMT
    When I was in HS 40 years ago, a shower stiffie was a really bad thing. The boy would usually run out all embarrassed trying to hide it, the other teens laughing and yelling "homo" at him.

    Nowadays when I see men get hard in the locker room & shower it's no big deal. The man doesn't seem much concerned, and the other guys ignore it. I don't know if values have changed over the years, or it's the difference in how adult men handle the situation compared to teenagers.

    I do understand that cartoon, however, and part of your dilemma. Seeing another guy get wood can be contagious, at least for this gay guy. Not sure if that's a universal male response, and totally innocent like how a yawn spreads, or if it's a sexual excitement reaction.

    In any case, I'd ignore another guy having one, not make any comment, and look away so you don't go stiff yourself. If you're the one popping a boner, stay calm, distract your mind with other thoughts, turn the shower water to ice, and don't draw attention to it.
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    Dec 10, 2008 4:49 PM GMT
    LOL GREAT RESPONSE VESPA. I say meet him outside the locker room and get to know him and see if he dose have a thing for you. Confront him in a way really, don't bring up the shower boner! But Vespa is always a good option as well if you don't find him attractive then ignore it and turn your water to ice.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 10, 2008 4:58 PM GMT
    Vespa gave the best advice.

    When I shower at the YMCA, I never look at anyone...in fact I stare at the floor or the walls and or just into space.

    Yeah, I'm flattered by other guys checking me out and getting boners no matter what they look like. But learned to blank it out because I don't want to sprout a stifie myself. I'm shy in a public area like that.
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    Dec 10, 2008 5:22 PM GMT
    Me too. I get really shy in the shower, but ironically, I have been known to have a wandering eye too.... Best if I just focus on the nearest tile.
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    Dec 10, 2008 5:23 PM GMT
    I can honestly say I've never had the problem of sporting wood in a public shower/locker room, and I can't say I've noticed anyone sporting one. I'm not sure what the difficulty is in keeping your penis under control. Surely we've all seen naked men before. It's simply a matter of keeping your instincts under control, and of course, not giving into temptation. If looking at guys in the locker room will make you hard, I suggest you avoid looking as much as possible.
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    Dec 10, 2008 5:27 PM GMT
    I would ignore him and "it" as long as:

    > His behavior didnt force me to pay attention...

    > He wasnt so attractive that I wanted to pay attention
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    Dec 10, 2008 5:36 PM GMT
    In the showers at the Castro Golds here in SF, the only thing guys worry about is if they can't get an erection.
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    Dec 10, 2008 5:45 PM GMT
    iguanaSF saidIn the showers at the Castro Golds here in SF, the only thing guys worry about is if they can't get an erection.



    HA! hahahahahahahaha
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    Dec 10, 2008 5:48 PM GMT
    I, for one, am far too exhausted from my workout to get an erection. But, I did, once, get an erection while running on the treadmill.
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    Dec 10, 2008 5:48 PM GMT
    Bally's in Toronto used to get a large gay clientele. Some guys got hard in the showers, if I ever thought I was going in that direction I would turn the tap from hot to cold. Always worked. icon_eek.gif
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    Dec 10, 2008 6:17 PM GMT
    Reason alone why I do not shower at the gym and thank god I live three blocks from gym so Ii sat shower at home!
  • JayneCobb

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    Dec 10, 2008 6:19 PM GMT
    Only had to worry about that once and I just made sure my back was towards "Attractive Man A" so he didn't see anything. After I got done showering I grabbed my towel real fast and covered myself up.
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    Dec 10, 2008 6:25 PM GMT
    wow
  • JayneCobb

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    Dec 10, 2008 6:27 PM GMT
    Thats classy Jockbod.

    Almost like picking up bar skanks...
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    Dec 10, 2008 6:32 PM GMT
    If it's just the two of you in there and you are interested I'd prob smile and try to give him some compliment on the way out of the showers like nice meat or something that makes it clear that you noticed him. If there was no interest in him I'd prob just wrap up the shower say later dude and casually walk out. No need to make him feel awkward but you don't want to lead him on either. I personally think it's a bad idea to meet guys at the gym. It's the don't shit where you eat thing...
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    Dec 10, 2008 6:33 PM GMT
    must be a gay republican thang... i'll ask larry craig his thoughts.

  • Koaa2

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    Dec 10, 2008 6:49 PM GMT
    I think it is just a normal human reaction, and doing what with it depends upon the social norms of where you are at.

    At the Golds in the Castro, I would go with it, and maybe have a little harmless circle jerk.

    At the Y, with all the family Dads, I would go with it, and maybe have a little harmless circle jerk!

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    Dec 10, 2008 7:14 PM GMT
    I live in New York and my gym shower area is probably the easiest place in the world to get a blowjob if you want one. The steamroom is always filled with guys looking for sex--guys of all kinds: Ugly, gorgeous, fat, buff, young, old, gay, "straight," etc. I know a lot of people think it's disgusting, which it is. Until you want a blowjob after your workout.
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    Dec 10, 2008 9:55 PM GMT
    Run a flag up and see who starts singing the National Anthem.
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    Dec 13, 2008 3:01 PM GMT
    Turn up the cold water...
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    Dec 13, 2008 3:13 PM GMT
    I'd probably ignore it until you both left the shower and then offer some great advice from Pfizer:

    "If that last for more than four hours.........here's my address!"

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    Dec 13, 2008 3:49 PM GMT
    RowBuddy saidSadly the only men I have ever seen naked in the shower were the old dudes who spend more time in the shower and changing then actually working out. You know. The ones that have camera phones and always seem to be "texting" while you are squatting while conveniently situated directly behind you?


    This has become such a problem, evidently, that a few years ago I began seeing signs on the men's locker room door, prohibiting the use of camera phones. In fact, one sign said all cell phone use had to be taken outside the locker room, to prevent "faking" legitimate device usage in order to actually snap a pic. SHEESH!
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    Nov 02, 2009 1:43 PM GMT
    I get chubbed up in the shower if I notice a guy checkin me out... Never a full blown boner ... cant help it! hehe
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    Nov 02, 2009 1:55 PM GMT
    This reminds me of an experience I had while in boot camp for the Air Force. While taking a shower with like 14 other guys my Dorm Chief and an Element Leader started clowning around and jacking off in front of all of us. Of course, they were being silly and making funny noises and goofy faces but both were hot as fuck! They were two Bostonian fratboy-type guys and always pulling practical jokes. Iniitally, I was scared that I might get hard myself but I think the fear of being caught having a boner kept it at bay. Needless to say, I got the hell out of the shower pronto....no I'm lying, I did watch them for a minute and played it off by talking shit to them haha!