What would you do?...

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    Dec 20, 2013 9:49 PM GMT
    What would you do if you were talking to a guy for a several weeks and have not met yet, talking on the phone for several hours a night, are interested in possibly dating this guy if all goes well upon meeting, and then he tells you (while drunk) that he tried to kill himself a few weeks ago...

    I have already begun to care about this guy, so I don't want to just throw in the towel because of this, but at the same time this is obviously not a good sign (and we haven't even met yet). What would you do?
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    Dec 20, 2013 10:14 PM GMT
    How did he try to kill himself?
    Some people say that for dramatic effect.
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    Dec 20, 2013 10:15 PM GMT
    It would depend a lot on how well he seems now, and whether or not you felt that he risked sinking so low that the would consider suicide again. There are so many factors to consider: what were the circumstances surrounding it, what did he do, was he committed, is he in therapy, etc. If you care about him and want to meet him, this revelation shouldn't stop you.
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    Dec 20, 2013 10:19 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidIt would depend a lot on how well he seems now, and whether or not you felt that he risked sinking so low that the would consider suicide again. There are so many factors to consider: what were the circumstances surrounding it, what did he do, was he committed, is he in therapy, etc. If you care about him and want to meet him, this revelation shouldn't stop you.


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    Dec 21, 2013 2:19 AM GMT
    Bunjamon saidIt would depend a lot on how well he seems now, and whether or not you felt that he risked sinking so low that the would consider suicide again. There are so many factors to consider: what were the circumstances surrounding it, what did he do, was he committed, is he in therapy, etc. If you care about him and want to meet him, this revelation shouldn't stop you.


    Agreed. Like Johnspoter siad, he could have said it just for dramatic effect. Anyway, you haven't even met him yet, let alone gotten to know him. As you get to inow him, you will get a better sense if he has a serious problem.

    I don't do well with drunks, so the drunken phonecall might have ended it for me. Maybe over time you will discover he has a drinking problem; and maybe not. But alcoholism, depression, and suicidal thoughts all go together. Not the sort of problems I would want to get involved in.
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    Dec 21, 2013 3:17 AM GMT
    I don't know whether you have done more than talk on the phone, like skyped or something? Since you haven't actually met the guy I wouldn't rule out, that he's taking you for a ride...