25 and never dated.....

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    Dec 24, 2013 12:22 AM GMT
    Is there something wrong with that? With me? With guys?

    And please don't tell me I'm still young.... I've been gay ALL MY LIFE and never once has a guy moved past the "friends" stage with me.

    It's always been "Oh I'm not ready, I'm still trying to establish myself," or "Oh I'm not ready I just got out of a relationship..."

    (Where the hell is my vodka!?)

    Encouragement and positive comments are needed.

    Thanks,
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    Dec 24, 2013 12:24 AM GMT
    Lots of guys are still closeted at that age, or they think nobody finds them attractive.
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    Dec 24, 2013 12:37 AM GMT
    If you'd show your face, you'd get a date here in no time.
  • MikeW

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    Dec 24, 2013 2:26 AM GMT
    Ok, so if they weren't dates, what was the context in which you heard these quotes?

    youngRJ1 saidIt's always been "Oh I'm not ready, I'm still trying to establish myself," or "Oh I'm not ready I just got out of a relationship..."


    Maybe things are different nowadays but to me a date is just going out to have dinner or see a movie or do something fun; it is time spent getting to know someone. No commitment, thus no need for the "I'm not ready…" apology.

    In any case, too little information here to say whether there is something "wrong" with "that," "you," or "guys," other than obviously you're not happy with your situation. As has been said repeatedly in these forums *most* (not all) guys in their 20s seem to just be looking to have fun, sew their wild oats, etc. Capital "R" relationships are not where their heads are. After 30, maybe.

    Where are you casting your net?