Where do I find workout partners?

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    Dec 11, 2008 12:35 AM GMT
    I'm not big enough to work out with the "big boys" (yet) and I don't want to work out with guys who have no idea what they're doing.

    The trainer I'm going to is great. I see him three times a week. I'd workout with the him five times a week but that is really pricey.

    Any ideas?


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    Dec 11, 2008 3:25 AM GMT
    Read. Watch. Learn. If you can't afford to pay a trainer, watch the guys who are really good. Let osmosis do its thing.

    In all seriousness, here's the gotcha' of a free trainer. Say that I trained with you. I have 33 years of lifting. I recover faster, I'm stronger, I lift more, I can do more volume / work in my workout, etc. It's a real pain to train with a neophyte. Seem things goes for about any game...say, hockey...playing hockey with guys who can't skate or pass is a major drag. I.e., working out with a neophyte makes my workout a drag.

    Best you get a qualified trainer (not the skinny one, nor the fat one, but one a bit older that looks the part and has studied the science, and not just got a cert.).
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    Dec 11, 2008 4:55 PM GMT
    Did you read every other sentence of my original post? I was very clear that I already have a trainer and that my goal is to supplement the training I'm already getting. I am not looking for free training.

    Your closing suggestion would be relevant if I didn't already have a qualified trainer. The part about not getting a "skinny one" but one who "looks the part" is basically crap. I hired a muscle boy (who looked the part) for a trainer. There was no question he knew how to put on muscle but he was completely inept as a trainer. On the other hand my current trainer is lean and would probably be considered by larger guys to be "skinny". He has the academic training, his own workout experience, and on-the-job training to be an excellent trainer even though you would probably think he doesn't look the part. He has helped me gain muscle (without "roids" or HGH), lose fat, and he has helped me enormously with some injuries I have had to work around for years.

    Muscle size and definition is not necessarily an indicator of greater strength or greater overall health. Working out for 33 years doesn't necessarily mean anything.

    RE: "neophytes" being a "drag":

    I know that. That's why I wrote "I'm not big enough to work out with the 'big boys' (yet)..." After reading your response, though, I know that working out with guys who are completely full of themselves is an even bigger drag than dealing with "neophytes." I don't want to get bigger and stronger to justify my need to look down on someone else. I work out to get stronger, be healthier, look better, have fun and maybe get to meet some really good guys.
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    Sep 25, 2009 3:49 PM GMT
    I have trouble getting motivated and sticking with a workout plan. So I've tried to search for workout partners from various personals ads which I haven't received responses for. I think it's because many people look for different things in a workout partner. For example, I'm looking for someone near my height just to meet up with every few weeks or so. But the reality is that there are very few people my height at 5'4" that are actually trying at muscle-building workout plan. So, now I'm going to try to get a "virtual" workout partner by propositioning someone in the realjock chat rooms. I figure that if I can't find someone locally to be a motivational partner, I could find someone to keep in touch with, and encourage each other in following the workout plans. I have a fitness blog that would be fun to communicate through.
    I'm actually beginning to feel discouraged that there are very few people in the local gay community that actually can commit themselves to reach a fitness goal. Even I have trouble with motivation.