Including Holiday Orphans

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    Dec 26, 2013 9:58 AM GMT
    A retread of a subject I mention each year around Thanksgiving - try to include a holiday gay "orphan" or 2 in your party & dinner plans. Orphan in this case meaning someone who's gonna be alone over a holiday, for whatever reason. New Years Eve and Day are a week away, not too late to make arrangements.

    We just had Christmas Day dinner with a friend at his place, who was temporarily a situational orphan himself this year, due to his partner being out of town. He had room for 1 more, so we suggested another of our mutual friends. He'd recently broke up with his partner after 7 years, his first Christmas alone and just relocated into a largely still-unfurnished place, a lonely way to be spending the holidays.

    So do the same yourself, and make an inventory of your friends, see who might be spending New Years alone, whom you might be able to include in your own plans. Often they won't advertise the fact, and it's awkward to angle for an invite themselves, so a reach-out by others is needed. Do consider it.
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    Dec 26, 2013 10:20 AM GMT
    ..I start school in January and plan to use the time in between just for my friends.

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    Dec 26, 2013 1:34 PM GMT
    Anocxu said..I start school in January and plan to use the time in between just for my friends.

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    Thanks. It's a habit I acquired in the US Army, a tradition to take "geographical bachelors" into your home during holidays, aka geographical orphans.

    Quite a lot of them in the military because of frequent reassignments, especially of short duration when your spouse & children may not be authorized to come along with you. What the military terms a "geographical separation". Not only did I take soldiers into my home for a holiday dinner, but I found myself all alone a few times, too, so I know what it's like.
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    Dec 26, 2013 1:39 PM GMT
    Great initiative!
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    Dec 26, 2013 2:06 PM GMT
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    Anocxu said..I start school in January and plan to use the time in between just for my friends.

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    Thanks. It's a habit I acquired in the US Army, a tradition to take "geographical bachelors" into your home during holidays, aka geographical orphans.

    Quite a lot of them in the military because of frequent reassignments, especially of short duration when your spouse & children may not be authorized to come along with you. What the military terms a "geographical separation". Not only did I take soldiers into my home for a holiday dinner, but I found myself all alone a few times, too, so I know what it's like.


    I am so socially awkward..some how I feel the need to reach out..
    I'm not doing such a good job after reading this post.
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    Dec 26, 2013 2:42 PM GMT
    Anocxu said
    I am so socially awkward..some how I feel the need to reach out..
    I'm not doing such a good job after reading this post.

    Well the Army made it easy - organized opportunities to host soldiers might be announced during a periodic CI briefing (command information), or published in community newsletters, or even coordinated through the post chapel. Or you could approach a Company or Battalion Commander to see if their units were participating in such a program, which typically the First Sergeants would conduct.

    So basically it was done for you, you just had to inquire. Obviously the civilian world is different.

    But we keep tabs on what our friends are doing. And since we're not in the military, which automatically affords some safeguards, we don't invite perfect strangers into our home, just people we already know, or those referred by our friends.

  • RainAndSnow

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    Dec 26, 2013 8:47 PM GMT
    Why limit this to just gays? Isn't that being rather insular and discriminating.

    ALL people have feelings and would appreciate such a gesture.