Anyone else giving up on relationships

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    Dec 27, 2013 6:55 AM GMT
    And just sticking to friends with benefits?

    How does it feel?
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    Dec 27, 2013 7:16 AM GMT
    It's more like relationships have given up on me.
    So has dating.
    Oh well, there's always porn.
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    Dec 27, 2013 7:18 AM GMT
    Yep.

    Case closed.
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    Dec 27, 2013 7:34 AM GMT
    Romero23 saidAnd just sticking to friends with benefits?

    How does it feel?


    It feels great. I've been doing the FWB thing for a few years now. It has its advantages, but I wouldn't mind being in a relationship again, either.

    Perhaps what you need is a relationship with benefits.
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    Dec 27, 2013 7:52 AM GMT
    Romero23 saidAnd just sticking to friends with benefits?

    How does it feel?

    You're 23 . Let's guess you started having sex with guys at 16 - that would make 7 years of possible sexual experience. Given normal health, your life expectancy is about another 56 years. So, even though you have only gone through 1/9 of your likely sexual/romantic existence, you've already given up on the possibility of future relationships. If relationships are what you would like, your decision seems very foolish. They may or might not come your way, but certainly won't come if you have "given up."
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    Dec 27, 2013 7:57 AM GMT
    shortbutsweet said
    Romero23 saidAnd just sticking to friends with benefits?

    How does it feel?


    It feels great. I've been doing the FWB thing for a few years now. It has its advantages, but I wouldn't mind being in a relationship again, either.

    Perhaps what you need is a relationship with benefits.


    I don't think I'd like an open relationship..might aswell just be really good friends who go on occasional dates and fuck lol

    So far having titles has caused nothing but stress and drama for me because I set my expectations too high. But when I don't, everything's good
  • Joeyphx444

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    Dec 27, 2013 7:58 AM GMT
    I don't have sex with my friends

    I think waiting longer for a real relationship that lasts a long time will be worth it icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 27, 2013 7:59 AM GMT
    shortbutsweet said
    Romero23 saidAnd just sticking to friends with benefits?

    How does it feel?


    Perhaps what you need is a relationship with benefits.


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    Dec 27, 2013 8:01 AM GMT
    HikerSkier said
    Romero23 saidAnd just sticking to friends with benefits?

    How does it feel?

    You're 23 . Let's guess you started having sex with guys at 16 - that would make 7 years of possible sexual experience. Given normal health, your life expectancy is about another 56 years. So, even though you have only gone through 1/9 of your likely sexual/romantic existence, you've already given up on the possibility of future relationships. If relationships are what you would like, your decision seems very foolish. They may or might not come your way, but certainly won't come if you have "given up."


    I get your point, but I'm just starting to think maybe I'm better off without one and focusing on myself while having fun. I will keep the possibility open, but don't plan on it.
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    Dec 27, 2013 8:08 AM GMT
    Not even friends with benefits.
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    Dec 27, 2013 8:17 AM GMT
    I feel like relationship is one of those things that you shouldn't strive for when you are in your young 20's. Recently, I realized there are still so many things I want to and can achieve/experience as long as I'm not tied down by anything e.g. a relationship. For example, I think it would be difficult to go on a backpacking trip for 60 days with a close friend/on my own while I am in a serious relationship. I haven't given up on relationships, but I've found other things that I want to obtain first before I can happily settle.

    Often when I hear people expressing their regret about something, it always starts with "I wish I had done *blank* while I was young". To be completely honest, it was a little sad to accept that I am not at all ready to settle down with someone, but it was also refreshing because I felt like I could do so much more now that I've let go of that priority for the time being.



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    Dec 27, 2013 8:28 AM GMT
    stevee90 saidI feel like relationship is one of those things that you shouldn't strive for when you are in your young 20's. Recently, I realized there are still so many things I want to and can achieve/experience as long as I'm not tied down by anything e.g. a relationship. For example, I think it would be difficult to go on a backpacking trip for 60 days with a close friend/on my own while I am in a serious relationship. I haven't given up on relationships, but I've found other things that I want to obtain first before I can happily settle.

    Often when I hear people expressing their regret about something, it always starts with "I wish I had done *blank* while I was young". To be completely honest, it was a little sad to accept that I am not at all ready to settle down with someone, but it was also refreshing because I felt like I could do so much more now that I've let go of that priority for the time being.






    exactly
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    Dec 27, 2013 8:28 AM GMT
    Romero23 saidAnd just sticking to friends with benefits?

    How does it feel?


    Friends with benefits is a type of relationship. It's not a monogamous or even 'romantic' relationship, but it's not platonic either. You're still having some sort of relationship though.

    If you had said acquaintance with benefits, that would have probably made more sense. Think of it this way: a friend is someone you care a fairly decent bit for (maybe even a lot, depending how long you've known him). And then to have benefits is to have a sexual relationship with him. So you then are left with a sexual relationship with someone who you care for (maybe a lot!). Hmmmm, I wonder what that sounds like? It sounds like a lover to me, even though it's not exclusive.
  • secondstartot...

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    Dec 27, 2013 9:14 AM GMT
    yes I realised I am much happier single lonely and stable ...than thinking I am dating and completely insane with my world upside down.....

    I have a dog and a cat they are the best people I know

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  • ATLANTIS7

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    Dec 27, 2013 9:23 AM GMT
    Well I think I am heading that way also? I just have a sunday boy who is in the Army (air service) and he is a sweet guy and that does me for the week!
  • chrisjb626

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    Dec 27, 2013 10:07 AM GMT
    yeah getting pretty close myself.
  • secondstartot...

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    Dec 27, 2013 1:19 PM GMT
    No more, I love you's
    The language is leaving me
    No more, I love you's
    The language is leaving me in silence
    No more, I love you's
    Changes are shifting outside the wo
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    Dec 27, 2013 1:20 PM GMT
    I am.
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    Dec 27, 2013 1:31 PM GMT
    Joeyphx444 saidI don't have sex with my friends

    I think waiting longer for a real relationship that lasts a long time will be worth it icon_smile.gif


    Yup. You're perfect.
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    Dec 27, 2013 1:56 PM GMT
    About to...
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    Dec 27, 2013 2:01 PM GMT
    Yep, all done! Been that way for about a decade.
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    Dec 27, 2013 2:04 PM GMT
    I'm an eternal optimist, always hopeful, and a forever faithful kind of guy...
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    Dec 27, 2013 2:33 PM GMT
    After roughly 40 years of trying and not trying, I understand that we are always in relationship. The question is only, "What kind is it". I am now exploring my definitions of love and how that affects my expectations and behavior.
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    Dec 27, 2013 2:35 PM GMT
    Nope not for me, if its not a relationship with another guy its a relationship with my long time friend Mr hand. icon_cool.gif
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    Dec 27, 2013 3:10 PM GMT
    I would miss so much without relationship.
    And giving up is not for me.