How to deal with physical stupidity.

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    Dec 28, 2013 4:10 AM GMT
    Don't know how to really explain the problem, but I think I am physically stupid. What I mean is, I can't seem to get my body in the proper form for most physical activities. Even on actions that are supposed to come natural to the average person, I seem to struggle. Plus, I have issue with "muscle memory" after someone shows me the proper form.

    For example, when trying to bench press, I can't get the proper form and isolate the proper muscles. When trying to squat without weights, I can't get my body in the proper position (i.e. proper stance to get a deep enough squat). I have used personal trainers in the past, but struggle working out without their guidance.

    When snow skiing, no matter how much instruction I get, I cannot get into the proper form. I get told that the body is supposed to "naturally" get into the proper position as I ski, but I can't get to that point.

    Though I've run several marathons, as of late, I cannot get into the proper running form. This results in my back hurting and my calf muscles getting really tight.

    These are just some of the examples. When I play actual sports like soccer, softball, tennis, etc, I struggle even more.

    Anyone else deal with this issue or have any advice? I know I may be over thinking things, but I feel like there is an underlying issue that, if fixed, will help me excel in future activities. I am not trying to dominate in every thing, but I would like to participate in activities without risking injury and eventually enjoy myself more.
  • metta

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    Dec 28, 2013 4:15 AM GMT
    I have never heard of this before but it sounds like you need to have a GOOD personal trainer on a regular basis, or at least a workout partner who will keep you in check. As for your other activities, have someone go with you that can keep an eye on you to make sure that you are doing it right. I would think that after practicing enough the correct way, you will eventually get it.

    Slow down, lessen the weights and focus on form.


    This guy right here....try watching his videos and see if you can copy his form. He really does emphasize form more than many other trainers:

    http://www.youtube.com/user/vicsnatural/videos
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    Dec 28, 2013 2:17 PM GMT
    Well it is not just working out. Even still, I've used a personal trainer for several months and still struggle with my form unless he tells to move a body part.

    What really frustrates me is the inability to find something physical that I excel at. For example, I have a friend that is relatively over-weight, does not play any physically enduring sports, and never exercises. When he plays volleyball or softball, he really stinks. However, he can ski extremely well and is an awesome golf player. I also have another friend that is a freak of nature who excels at every sport he tries.
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    Dec 28, 2013 3:12 PM GMT
    People's bodies are different. My body looks perfectly normal but I quite frequently cannot do the proper form because my body doesn't function that way.
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    Dec 28, 2013 3:15 PM GMT
    bigDrunner saidI also have another friend that is a freak of nature who excels at every sport he tries.

    I once had a friend who liked to brag, "I'm good at everything I do. I knew him well and told him, "That's because you only do what you're good at."
    In high school, I was just surprised to find there was one sport that I was better at than anybody else... Crab ball. Go figure
  • jo2hotbod

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    Dec 28, 2013 3:28 PM GMT
    Give up
  • MikeW

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    Dec 28, 2013 3:44 PM GMT
    I'm not sure but you may be asking about "Kinesthetic Intelligence":
    Kinesthetic intelligence was originally coupled with tactile abilities, and was defined and discussed in Howard Gardner's Frames Of Mind: The Theory of Multiple Intelligences. In his book, Gardner describes activities (such as dancing and performing surgery) as requiring great kinesthetic intelligence: using the body to create (or do) something.

    Wiki

    I'm wondering what kind of "learner" you are. Do you prefer to learn from books, words? Are you mostly 'up in your head', an intellectual type? Or are you more of an emotional or physical type person (in terms of your life focus and reactions to things)?

    I'm also wondering if you've tried anything like meditation, Yoga, Pilates or Feldenkriase work to develop your mind-body connection? Feldenkriase specifically focuses on developing the sensation of where the body (limbs, etc.) is in space.
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    Dec 28, 2013 3:51 PM GMT
    If that pic is really you, you are already a VERY good looking guy.

    I agree with most, you need a trainer. At one point, I would have described myself the same way as you. I hired a trainer and it made all the difference.

    If you cannot afford one on a permanent basis, hire one for a few sessions to give you some pointers and basic workouts that you can do on your own, then every couple of months ask for another appointment.

    All the best to you.
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    Dec 28, 2013 5:44 PM GMT
    I am the same way when it comes to lifting , but for snow-skiing or water-skiing or jogging / running ,it comes naturally . But i am horrible when it comes to catch any balls coming my way ..lol..
    I am remember 35 years ago while taking tennis lessons , the instructor telling me that i should stop wasting my money ..lol...
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    Dec 28, 2013 9:49 PM GMT
    You're probably working your arms, legs and back more than the smaller body parts you're supposed to be targeting. You need to try to take those bigger body parts out of the equation so you lift far less but work/squeeze the intended body part far more.

    To test your ability to isolate, reduce your usual poundages by 75% and lead with the body part you're working, i.e.:

    Lat Pulldowns:
    DON'T pull in this order: hands-elbows-lats (you're leading with your hands)
    DO pull in THIS order: lats-elbows-hands (you're leading with your lats)
    Or even more simply, pull down with your elbows, not with your hands, just keep your hands hooked lightly over the pulldown bar as placeholders.

    Bench presses:
    DON'T push in this order: hands-elbows (you're leading with your arms)
    DO push in THIS order: pecs-elbows-hands (you're leading with your pecs)

    Leg extensions:
    DON'T lift with your ankles/feet
    DO make your legs dead weight from your knees to your feet

    If you then don't feel a difference in your pecs, lats and quads then yes, you may be physically stupid.

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    Dec 31, 2013 3:49 PM GMT
    You're welcome!