New Year's Eve conundrum

  • lgg5819

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    Dec 30, 2013 4:46 AM GMT
    Tonight, after he withheld sex for 6 weeks, my boyfriend broke the news that he's "just not that into me" anymore or whatever. Childish stuff, etc. He has a lot of insecurities to overcome (one of them: being gay) but that's not the point of this post. (No, I'm not bitter... At all... After moving in with him, taking the bar exam here, moving my life here for him, blah blah blah. Yeah, looking back, it was stupid. Ya live and ya learn. See? Not bitter...)

    ANYWAY. We made plans with like 10 other buddies, all straight, to go spend NYE in Atlanta. I'm fully planning on going. But, of course, they will be going to straight bars. I'm highly considering making my way down to the gay bars and finding some hot, random LingLang to bang. Basically just have a good ol' fashion rebound meltdown/hookup.

    What would you do? Too soon?
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    Dec 30, 2013 4:53 AM GMT
    Its your New Years buddy. You don't need to seek any validation from us if you want to go and have a hot night out.
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    Dec 30, 2013 5:04 AM GMT
    Fivealive saidIts your New Years buddy. You don't need to seek any validation from us if you want to go and have a hot night out.

    Agree. If he's gonna celebrate his gay freedom, then do something gay, not straight.
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    Dec 30, 2013 6:50 AM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    Fivealive saidIts your New Years buddy. You don't need to seek any validation from us if you want to go and have a hot night out.

    Agree. I he's gonna celebrate his gay freedom, then do something gay, not straight.


    And baby makes three. Go out and have a blast!

    Consider staying at a different hotel or other place in case you get lucky. Less drama, moar fun.

    But then again, you just might want to stay at the same hotel. icon_lol.gif

    JT put it so eloquently. Twice.



  • lgg5819

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    Dec 31, 2013 12:10 PM GMT
    Hahaha thanks gentlemen! I'm seeing tonight going one of two ways. Either I get wasted too quickly in an effort to drink away the pain, or... I sneak off before I'm past the point of no return and find me a hottie. I'll let you all know in the morning!
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    Dec 31, 2013 11:22 PM GMT
    I'd opt for having some fun (safely). I've read everything you've written since October about how hard you've tried to communicate and make your situation work - and now its come to an end, despite all your efforts. I've been there a few times in past years. Sounds like a nice hot time will do you some good. BTW, you sound like a great guy with a whole lot going for you. I think you deserve to find a hot, sensual bottom who will treat you right, and I'm betting you're going to one day find him.
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    Dec 31, 2013 11:43 PM GMT
    Well, after reading this, "I'm highly considering making my way down to the gay bars and finding some hot, random LingLang to bang. Basically just have a good ol' fashion rebound meltdown/hookup," all I can say is, it's not THAT easy to find a random hot LingLang to bang.
    But if you need one, drop me a line.
  • PR_GMR

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    Jan 01, 2014 2:03 AM GMT
    Fivealive saidIts your New Years buddy. You don't need to seek any validation from us if you want to go and have a hot night out.


    This x 1000. He 'withheld' sex for 6 weeks? Waits this long to tell you he's 'not into you'? Go out and have fun tonight.. and break it off on New Year's. Move the fuck out. Move forward!
  • Nayro

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    Jan 01, 2014 3:37 AM GMT
    lgg5819 saidTonight, after he withheld sex for 6 weeks, my boyfriend broke the news that he's "just not that into me" anymore or whatever. Childish stuff, etc. He has a lot of insecurities to overcome (one of them: being gay) but that's not the point of this post. (No, I'm not bitter... At all... After moving in with him, taking the bar exam here, moving my life here for him, blah blah blah. Yeah, looking back, it was stupid. Ya live and ya learn. See? Not bitter...)

    ANYWAY. We made plans with like 10 other buddies, all straight, to go spend NYE in Atlanta. I'm fully planning on going. But, of course, they will be going to straight bars. I'm highly considering making my way down to the gay bars and finding some hot, random LingLang to bang. Basically just have a good ol' fashion rebound meltdown/hookup.

    What would you do? Too soon?



    How I wish I was in Atlanta now..icon_cool.gif


    I feel sorry for you though icon_sad.gif
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    Jan 02, 2014 7:29 AM GMT
    Hope you had a good time, whatever you decided to do. It can be really hard to have a good time with everyone else feeling festive and you are are feeling down, or trying to keep your unhappy thoughts crammed down. Most of us have had breakups, and it isn't easy. Your next one will be better.
  • lgg5819

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    Jan 02, 2014 12:43 PM GMT
    Thanks everybody for the responses and support. I ended up not hooking up haha, just not quite ready for that yet, but I had an amazing time with some great friends. I did end up making out with and dirrrrrrty dancing with a handful of females haha... But I stayed at the straight bars with a handful of my best friends, which was probably a good thing for my overall sanity.

    My boyfriend, on the other hand, blacked out and dropped $600 from our joint account at a gay strip club. Gotta love trainwrecks!

    Here's to loving ourselves and moving on from immature and insecure people in 2014!
  • kiwi_nomad

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    Jan 02, 2014 1:50 PM GMT
    joint bank account?? how long have you been with this guy??
  • lgg5819

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    Jan 02, 2014 2:58 PM GMT
    I know... About a year. When we decided to join our finances I basically had $100 to my name. Had just finished law school and we were moving in together, so I had nothing to lose and it made sense at the time. I also got the ol' "But don't you trust me?" when I wasn't comfortable with it at first. Learned that lesson. Follow your heart sometimes, but when your brain is telling you what you're doing is completely stupid, it might be a good idea to follow your brain.
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    Jan 02, 2014 5:23 PM GMT
    You come see me. Daddy will make you feel better.. icon_wink.gif
  • PR_GMR

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    Jan 03, 2014 6:07 AM GMT
    lgg5819 saidThanks everybody for the responses and support. I ended up not hooking up haha, just not quite ready for that yet, but I had an amazing time with some great friends. I did end up making out with and dirrrrrrty dancing with a handful of females haha... But I stayed at the straight bars with a handful of my best friends, which was probably a good thing for my overall sanity.

    My boyfriend, on the other hand, blacked out and dropped $600 from our joint account at a gay strip club. Gotta love trainwrecks!

    Here's to loving ourselves and moving on from immature and insecure people in 2014!


    Sincerely hope you decided to drop him like a sack of rotten tomatoes and move on in 2014. Seriously, dude... it's over.