Looking for career advice!

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    Dec 30, 2013 2:24 PM GMT
    I'm working for a Hospital(new job, starts from Jan 1st, this is also my 1st full-time job)...They asked me to work as an observer in causality department for two weeks to get acquaint first before fully engaging into my job as an inpatient officer.

    The two week period ends on Dec 31st, after that I'll be posted to monitor Inpatients. The problem here is one of the colleagues in Casualty department is quitting his job on 31st Dec and the Hospital administration is expecting me to take that post which I'm not fully prepared of. The two weeks I worked there gave me body pains and headaches. I physically cannot manage that post(sometimes mentally as well due to poor work ethics of some of my colleagues), I even stopped posting in RJ during last two weeks due to this exhausting work. I return home feeling haggard and stick to bed until the next morning preparing myself to get exhausted again. Compared to Casualty, inpatient demands less work and can have more free time.

    BTW, the pay is also mediocre when compared to other hospitals with same post. The only reasons I chose to work here is because it's near(20 mins of walkable distance from where I live) and is in less polluted area.

    Anyhow, it looks like the Hosp administration will not accept my request and I'm planning/preparing myself to quit the job tomorrow before I even get it. But this job is important, my BF is poor and he needs money for exams and other stuff...He's not welcoming my decision to quit. He's thinking I'm lazy and a Slacker. He could not think otherwise because of his condition... he's poor, has exams and can't find a job until he cleared his exams and totally dependent(financially) on the income of my job. I don't mind his comments because I know that it's not him but his desperate condition forces him to think that way.

    Financially I'm stable(at least until I can find another job), My parents have more than enough money and they will send me some IF I really need it. But my BF don't like the idea of us depending on my parents. My parents and I(not always) personally don't mind, because they know I don't squander and use it within limitations.

    Anyways, if I quit...I should start looking for a job again which is time consuming etc. etc. But should I? I know I should listen to my gut and my gut is telling me to 'quit' but it is also telling me to 'think' before taking decisions which is putting me in DILEMMA.

    Any piece of advice you can share or give from your experience or wisdom or whatever it is?
    Plz post your thoughts either here or PM me
    It'll be very helpful...

    Thank you

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    Dec 30, 2013 4:13 PM GMT
    Sounds like your boyfriend needs to get a job rather than demanding that you go into the snake pit and sacrificing your health.

    Wake up! He's a moocher and a lazy slacker.

    Who's to say he won't leave you once he clears his exams?

    The parasite will be onto his next host.

    Oh, and if you don't believe me, ask your parents what they think of the situation. Maybe if you hear it from them, you can triangulate my comments.
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    Dec 30, 2013 4:21 PM GMT
    My goodness, doesn't you bf have a family? Why don't they help him with his exams... grrrr. When it comes to my career choice, I would think about myself there. Sometimes being selfish is important.
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    Dec 30, 2013 4:23 PM GMT
    sorry to hear about your dilemma. i'm going through a related dilemma myself. i'm having to choose between two jobs. i know, not the biggest dilemma to have, but one of the positions are just attractive because of pay (the work isn't that exciting), while one is attractive because of the work (but about 35% lower pay). unfortunately, i have to also think about family members who are starting to depend on me financially. so, i can either take the best paying job or the job which i will enjoy the most.

    in my case, i'll probably go with the highest paying job because i have to think about the financial needs of family members. in your case, i would go with what makes you happy. however, money can be a huge issue in relationships. even though the job may seem like it is more difficult now, the decision to stay with this position while looking for another more appropriate position may actually be the easier choice in the end.

    good luck with whatever you decide and the relationship!
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    Dec 30, 2013 5:52 PM GMT
    Please don't think bad about my BF, it's my fault to portray him in quite negative way...icon_sad.gif
    I may have been lazy indeed... That's what lazy people do, right? Will not admit that they are lazy.

    Actually he's amazing guy... Everyone who meets or gets acquainted with him will not wish to avoid him.

    And, thanks for responding... I really appreciate it.
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    Dec 30, 2013 6:01 PM GMT
    woodsmen saidI think you should stay on the job until you secure another one. You should leave right away if your health is affected. But you will have to explain to the next employer why you left and it cannot come across as you didn't like the job.

    I think you are right.
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    Dec 30, 2013 6:30 PM GMT
    You're apparently in India - and most of the guys replying are not - and probably have no idea of what the job market is like where you live. You said you would really like to quit, and get another job. If you have good prospects of getting another job that would be better for you, than do so. In the USA, it is always better to find another job (if in your same field) before you quit a job - and people do it all the time, because there are fewer problems in getting a new job if one is still working. I have no idea what this is like in India, or what the job situation is. If work that you want is not hard to obtain, then quit.

    Are you living with your BF, and your and his parents know of your relationship? (I understand that is not common in India.) Does he have other possible sources of help besides you? Can you just economize for a while while you look for another job? Live on some other savings? How deep and long lasting is the partnership between you, that he would expect you to be his total source of income during hard times? We don't know any of this.