Y do guys that I'm talking to feel the need to pick on me

  • rogerfederer

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    Jan 03, 2014 8:07 PM GMT
    They say something really is no big deal but then they say 10000 jokes about it. Some dude said how big (like muscle) I am is no big deal but he calls me shrimp and says how skinny I am. Dick size either and they still crack jokes. Or that I'm a total bottom. If it doesn't matter why do they still make fun?
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    Jan 03, 2014 8:23 PM GMT
    I'm not understanding your post but why would you want people in your life who constantly put you down? Remove toxic things and people from your life and you will be so much more happier.
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    Jan 03, 2014 8:30 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidI'm not understanding your post but why would you want people in your life who constantly put you down? Remove toxic things and people from your life and you will be so much more happier.


    +1

    I completely agree with Josh. Life is too short to be dealing with petty stuff like that. Live life with people who care about you, and regret nothing. icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 03, 2014 8:31 PM GMT
    You need to be more specific with your post. Who's this dude you're referring to? Is it a friend, an ex, someone on this site, etc?
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    Jan 03, 2014 8:32 PM GMT
    ITS CALLED BANTER


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    Jan 03, 2014 8:33 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidYou need to be more specific with your post. Who's this dude you're referring to? Is it a friend, an ex, someone on this site, etc?



    Guys I'm dating. Srry should have said that
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    Jan 03, 2014 8:38 PM GMT
    fable saidITS CALLED BANTER


    DERR HERR DERRR
    Yup.
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    Jan 03, 2014 8:42 PM GMT
    Many gay people are nasty.
    That's all there is to it.
    I'm sorry a nice guy (and great catch) like you has to put up with such garbage.
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    Jan 03, 2014 8:44 PM GMT
    rogerfederer said
    Erik101 saidYou need to be more specific with your post. Who's this dude you're referring to? Is it a friend, an ex, someone on this site, etc?



    Guys I'm dating. Srry should have said that


    Hmm...let me understand this correctly. You've been dating guys who constantly make fun of you and you want to know why. I think the question would be is why do you choose to date and stay with him/them. Sounds like you tend to meet a bunch of guys who covet your physical attributes.

    Ain't nobody got time for that!!
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    Jan 03, 2014 9:04 PM GMT
    Some people are being assholes, some just kidding around, some figuring out a way to become comfortable with a situation. Some dealing with their own shit and projecting that on you. Could be any number of reasons or a combination. You gotta go case by case on that. There's no one rule.

    If someone's nonstop beating you up, you tell them to stop or fuck off. But I reject the toxic argument because that doesn't mean that you get rid of everyone in your life who has issues. Life affords us the opportunity both to practice our compassion for others and to learn--if it doesn't come naturally--to empathize with others. You miss that if you isolate yourself from it. You won't develop that skill set and you'll close yourself off.

    So you have to balance: how to remain vulnerable so that you are open to love without getting too badly beat up.

    If what the OP describes happens repeatedly and consistently with different people independent of each other, then you might want to look inside. Could be something you're projecting which initiates the reaction. But if just random then more likely it's them, not you. If it happens a lot, but randomly, then you might want to look at who you are attracted to and why.

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    Jan 03, 2014 9:22 PM GMT
    YourName2000 saidJeepers, Roger, surprised you're still here. You're looking good man. Still bitching about stuff, I see, though.

    Look, you're fuckin' hot. I remember some of your last posts about feeling "inadequate". And I'm glad to see you've embraced your bottom status --I bet you're a fuckin' awesome cock-hungry, load-swallowing, grind-your-ass-into-his-pubes bottom that any real man would cream his jeans thinking about tapping. Go find *THAT GUY*...the guy that will love you for who you are and how you make him feel. And if he doesn't make you feel the same way --like a million bucks that only he gets to roll around on the bed with--then dump the motherfucker and get someone who treats you like gold. And treat that guy like gold back, because good guys are rare.


    why you have to degrade me so much? I just asked a simple question. i know you were trying to be nice but u just make me feel like shit
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    Jan 03, 2014 9:26 PM GMT
    fable saidITS CALLED BANTER

    DERR HERR DERRR

    And this is from the guy whose Happy Birthday thread had the fewest number of responses I've ever seen. Hmm, I wonder why?
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    Jan 03, 2014 10:38 PM GMT
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    YourName2000 saidJeepers, Roger, surprised you're still here. You're looking good man. Still bitching about stuff, I see, though.

    Look, you're fuckin' hot. I remember some of your last posts about feeling "inadequate". And I'm glad to see you've embraced your bottom status --I bet you're a fuckin' awesome cock-hungry, load-swallowing, grind-your-ass-into-his-pubes bottom that any real man would cream his jeans thinking about tapping. Go find *THAT GUY*...the guy that will love you for who you are and how you make him feel. And if he doesn't make you feel the same way --like a million bucks that only he gets to roll around on the bed with--then dump the motherfucker and get someone who treats you like gold. And treat that guy like gold back, because good guys are rare.


    why you have to degrade me so much? I just asked a simple question. i know you were trying to be nice but u just make me feel like shit

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  • rogerfederer

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    Jan 03, 2014 11:04 PM GMT
    YourName2000 said
    rogerfederer said
    YourName2000 saidJeepers, Roger, surprised you're still here. You're looking good man. Still bitching about stuff, I see, though.

    Look, you're fuckin' hot. I remember some of your last posts about feeling "inadequate". And I'm glad to see you've embraced your bottom status --I bet you're a fuckin' awesome cock-hungry, load-swallowing, grind-your-ass-into-his-pubes bottom that any real man would cream his jeans thinking about tapping. Go find *THAT GUY*...the guy that will love you for who you are and how you make him feel. And if he doesn't make you feel the same way --like a million bucks that only he gets to roll around on the bed with--then dump the motherfucker and get someone who treats you like gold. And treat that guy like gold back, because good guys are rare.


    why you have to degrade me so much? I just asked a simple question. i know you were trying to be nice but u just make me feel like shit

    Lol. "Cool story, bro".

    Seriously, if my post made you feel like shit, then you're a mental case, lol.


    u flatter me (which thank u) but u also treat me like I'm a whore. Who wants to b honestly called a cock hungry whore? U devalue me
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    Jan 03, 2014 11:09 PM GMT
    fable saidITS CALLED BANTER


    DERR HERR DERRR



    Yeah, except the OP isn't a 15 year old anymore. Adults don't constantly put you down.
  • rogerfederer

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    Jan 04, 2014 12:00 AM GMT
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    rogerfederer saidu flatter me (which thank u) but u also treat me like I'm a whore. Who wants to b honestly called a cock hungry whore? U devalue me

    I'm missing something: do you like sex or not?

    Because I'm a bottom, and when I'm in a relationship with a guy, I'm a cock-hungry whore for his dick....and proud of it. And he's an ass-hungry whore for my butt. It's an arrangement that works pretty well. I know plenty of 'receivers' of both genders who are proud whores for their man's dick. They (like me) don't take their love of their man (and his dick) as any slight against themselves. No, like me, they feel their lives are enriched by their man's magnificent love stick and the buttons it pushes inside of them when he uses it, as only he can.

    I'm not calling you a loose slut who will let anyone stick a dick in him for cab fare. I'm saying that, in a relationship, one where each partner is primarily a top or a bottom, both are equal...the man wielding the hard dick actually isn't "more a man" than the man taking it. There are no tops without bottoms. Be proud of yourself whoever you are and whatever you are. Be the best damn __________ you can be.

    If your current partner doesn't make you feel loved and worth your weight in gold, maybe you deserve a partner who does.


    Hahaha I don't think his dick is that important but yea I can see what u saying. Tops typically have this self-entitled righteous attitude that they are better than me and that's how he makes me feel about it. Like I need him to fuck me but that he doesn't need me to get fucked by him. That he has all the power
  • Fable

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    Jan 04, 2014 5:32 AM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal said
    fable saidITS CALLED BANTER

    DERR HERR DERRR

    And this is from the guy whose Happy Birthday thread had the fewest number of responses I've ever seen. Hmm, I wonder why?




    Please link me to my birthday thread which never was you creeper. No one even knows my birthday on here and if they do they have enough contact info to realise that I would not be striving for a fail thread in here.



    And this is coming from an elderly gentleman who 90% of the time posts explicit pictures cos he was too ugly to bag a guy as a ltr when he was younger.



    NEXT
  • Fable

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    Jan 04, 2014 5:34 AM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    fable saidITS CALLED BANTER


    DERR HERR DERRR



    Yeah, except the OP isn't a 15 year old anymore. Adults don't constantly put you down.




    You're telling me you don't banter? Go on say that you've never engaged in playful banter after the age of 15. I DARE YOU TO LIE.
  • Fable

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    Jan 04, 2014 5:34 AM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    fable saidITS CALLED BANTER


    DERR HERR DERRR



    Yeah, except the OP isn't a 15 year old anymore. Adults don't constantly put you down.




    You're telling me you don't banter? Go on say that you've never engaged in playful banter after the age of 15. I DARE YOU TO LIE.
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    Jan 04, 2014 5:42 AM GMT
    Just an observation but...May be you're choosing guys who are inherently not right for you...
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    Jan 04, 2014 6:50 AM GMT
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    YourName2000 saidJeepers, Roger, surprised you're still here. You're looking good man. Still bitching about stuff, I see, though.

    Look, you're fuckin' hot. I remember some of your last posts about feeling "inadequate". And I'm glad to see you've embraced your bottom status --I bet you're a fuckin' awesome cock-hungry, load-swallowing, grind-your-ass-into-his-pubes bottom that any real man would cream his jeans thinking about tapping. Go find *THAT GUY*...the guy that will love you for who you are and how you make him feel. And if he doesn't make you feel the same way --like a million bucks that only he gets to roll around on the bed with--then dump the motherfucker and get someone who treats you like gold. And treat that guy like gold back, because good guys are rare.


    why you have to degrade me so much? I just asked a simple question. i know you were trying to be nice but u just make me feel like shit


    Bless your sweet little heart, Roger. It's not that anybody is deliberately trying to degrading you. And please, puddin, don't take this the wrong way. But, it's just that you've kind of proven by your own words to be, well, not the sharpest tool in the shed.

    For example sweetie, in my post on How to get your ass ready to be fucked, I quote your post on "do i just suck at bottoming...should i give up if i do?". You really didn't make your case very well that you're a suitable partner for anybody except a scat queen who's willing to put up with a whiney bottom. Granted, you've got the natual physical beauty to really be a top notch bottom, but you just don't have the right attitude (or personal hygene) to pull off the act.

    For your own sake, and for the sake of all the really great tops who would just love to go to pound town on that plump rump of yours, I really do hope you take a good look in the mirror and get some professional help. Really. Consider going to a professional dominant and submitting yourself for proper BDSM training and discipline. I think that you will find that this is what you really need to polish yourself into the very best submissive bottom which you can be. You've got the raw potential to be an absolutely brilliant little ass-play pig boy, but you will only realize this potential for nirvana with professional help.

    I suggest making it a point to go to the International Mr. Leather event in Chicago this year and turning yourself over to "THe Hellfire Club" for proper training. I think you will find that you will emerge from the experience a much better equipped young man ready to attract the man of his dreams.

    And, at that point, at the very least you would make a great rentboy.

    What are your thoughts? Does any of this help bring clarity and hope to your situation?

    Aloha and Be Well!
    Alan

    P.S. Seriously consider the anal health suggestions in my "How to get your ass ready to be fucked" thread. You will thank me for it someday.
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    Jan 04, 2014 6:51 AM GMT
    rogerfederer saidThey say something really is no big deal but then they say 10000 jokes about it. Some dude said how big (like muscle) I am is no big deal but he calls me shrimp and says how skinny I am. Dick size either and they still crack jokes. Or that I'm a total bottom. If it doesn't matter why do they still make fun?

    QFT
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    Jan 04, 2014 6:52 AM GMT
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    fable saidITS CALLED BANTER

    DERR HERR DERRR

    And this is from the guy whose Happy Birthday thread had the fewest number of responses I've ever seen. Hmm, I wonder why?

    Please link me to my birthday thread which never was you creeper. No one even knows my birthday on here and if they do they have enough contact info to realise that I would not be striving for a fail thread in here.

    And this is coming from an elderly gentleman who 90% of the time posts explicit pictures cos he was too ugly to bag a guy as a ltr when he was younger.
    NEXT

    Touched a nerve with my "banter" it would seem.
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    Jan 04, 2014 7:11 AM GMT
    I tend to get picked on a lot because I'm incredibly passive. I just laugh it off with them. I only get annoyed when someone gets upset when I have something to say back.
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    Jan 04, 2014 7:35 AM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidTouched a nerve with my "banter" it would seem.


    Not to feed that fire but that was super funny.

    You must have been rechecking this thread all day for that opening.

    phenom40205 saidI tend to get picked on a lot because I'm incredibly passive. I just laugh it off with them. I only get annoyed when someone gets upset when I have something to say back.


    Some guys leave themselves open for it. I knew this one guy a while back, real nice guy, smart, fun, an er nurse, this guy definitely saved patients from doctor fuck ups, a real good person. But boy did he leave himself open.

    Within his field he was brilliant. But at the dinner table he was a ditz. Ya couldn't help but hit it. He knew I liked him. I don't think I was ever offensive. But I'd never met anyone before who left themselves so open. In my family, you'd never get away with that. Miss-think or say something and they'll catch ya.

    If someone is getting annoyed back as you say, it could be something fucked up with them or you might want to look at your delivery. If there's a third person at the time, ask what they just observed.

    There are a lot of fucked up people. I love especially the guys who try to treat others like shit and then get angry when you don't let them treat you like shit, which might be what you've described. It looks like this...

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    serious head cases.