Internet Dating SUCKS!!!!

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    Dec 12, 2008 5:32 AM GMT
    Hey guys! I've been chatting with a guy for 4 months... to realize he's not using his pictures... icon_cry.gif... and I kinda fell in love with him...icon_redface.gif

    Seriously..I'm so tired of all this shit...

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    Dec 12, 2008 5:40 AM GMT
    oh hunny, you weren't in love with him, you where just crushing after him.. probably big time, but it wasn't really love.

    And yes its internet dating, its suppose to suck.
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    Dec 12, 2008 1:45 PM GMT
    Damn. Another casualty. icon_sad.gif

    If you're really looking to date online, at least make sure that he cams or is verified readily enough. Actually, camming is the probably the best way (although there are ways to record cam loops and fakers use them too). Establishing that you both are genuine is the first thing you should do when it's starting to become romantic.
  • Arcangel7769

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    Dec 12, 2008 2:33 PM GMT
    One thing that makes meeting people online difficult is that all the subtle non-verbal cues that we either consciously or subconsciously rely on are not there. Little things like voice inflection, pauses before answering a question, facial expressions, that sorta thing just aren't there. Being only human, our mind "fills in the blanks" for us. And since we WANT to believe that this guy we're interested in is exactly what we are wishing for, it fills in the blanks favorably. That's why many times when we finally meet this person in person, we're disappointed that he's somehow just not what we had expected.


    That's assuming of course that he had indeed been up front about everything in the first place. Them not being honest from the beginning just makes it virtually impossible to have anything beyond online chat.

    So why do guys lie about themselves? Hell, it seems kinda stupid to me too. I mean, eventually you're gonna get caught. I suppose some guys just like the sense of control they have over someones emotions. To me it's just manipulative and unnecessarily cruel.

    Sorry you got burned. Don't lose hope though. There ARE a lot of nice guys out there too, not just liars and fakes. Hang in there.
  • EricLA

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    Dec 12, 2008 6:14 PM GMT
    Hey guy. Sorry, but this is part of the process. Modern technology isn't always a good thing. But, gay and straight people go through this. And sorry, this probably won't be the first time, but you can't allow yourself to get a crush on someone you've never even seen. Even a picture shouldn't make your heart go aflutter. That's your mind making some imaginary person for you to fall in love with, it's not real. Even if you find someone to chat with on cam, you're still only interacting with them in a very limited way, you don't know what they're like the rest of the time.
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    Dec 12, 2008 6:25 PM GMT
    Take the punch and roll on baby boy!!!! It happens, and it'll happen, you're not solo on this experience!
  • coolarmydude

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    Dec 12, 2008 6:31 PM GMT
    All may be lost with this one individual, but not all may be lost altogether. At the least, you've learned the things that you want in a relationship should you find a real person in real time.
  • joggerva

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    Dec 12, 2008 6:34 PM GMT
    Arcangel7769 said And since we WANT to believe that this guy we're interested in is exactly what we are wishing for, it fills in the blanks favorably.


    Great point Arcangel! The guys I meet are never as awesome as my brain assumes they are. icon_smile.gif

    Anyway, sorry you got burned wizer - hopefully, you've come out of the situation a bit wiser.
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    Dec 12, 2008 7:05 PM GMT
    Yep, I chatted with a guy on here for hours. Everytime I mentioned meeting up he would get funny and make excuses. The funny thing is when you bring the flake issue up they just stretch it out more . These guy come across as ok but the reality is that they only have a cyber life and they are skilled at stringing you out. If you want to avoid it don't make an emotional investment in guys outside your area and ask to meet up after the first few minutes of chat. If they get fuzzy on this point you have a fake on the line.
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    Dec 12, 2008 7:07 PM GMT
    LOL, I work in this industry and I think have to say its great! You have to make the best out of it and dont go for pics. Common Seriously!
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    Dec 12, 2008 7:50 PM GMT
    I sooo agree....

    A guy just lured me in to cyber-sex, he got off and I realized how bad he sucked at it. icon_neutral.gif


    Actually, I have to say, I've learned how to weed out the fakes.
    But, the "dating on-line" is more farse than truth. most guys truly just want a quick fuck even though their profile states "not looking" and here for "relationship" or my favorite "NO HOOK UPS" --> they're the ones that hit ya up to hook up right from the start.

    dirty-bastards men are. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 12, 2008 8:04 PM GMT
    sorry to hear that icon_sad.gif
    you should use RJ, can't go wrong with verified people...am I naive or am I?
    maybe I am gonna go back to where I belong for a minute... lol

  • GQjock

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    Dec 14, 2008 3:29 PM GMT
    HaHa icon_wink.gif

    Internet Dating

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    Dec 14, 2008 7:39 PM GMT
    Internet dating can be beneficial - - - you just have to treat it like - say - searching for a great buy on an old Benz or whatever antique car you like. By that I mean - you'll have to check out a number of opportunities before you decide on a great one. They're out there - but the best guys (or antique cars for that matter) are not on every corner - you have to diligently search!
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    Dec 15, 2008 9:50 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidInternet dating can be beneficial - - - you just have to treat it like - say - searching for a great buy on an old Benz or whatever antique car you like. By that I mean - you'll have to check out a number of opportunities before you decide on a great one. They're out there - but the best guys (or antique cars for that matter) are not on every corner - you have to diligently search!


    Exactly
    that's why so many guys "take you for a ride" icon_wink.gif
  • MikemikeMike

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    Dec 15, 2008 11:50 PM GMT
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  • MattyC0709

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    Dec 15, 2008 11:54 PM GMT
    Yeah internet dating sucks! That's why I'm now sticking to my friend so that she introduces me to good guys my age.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Dec 17, 2008 8:41 AM GMT
    how the term fag hag started--see above
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    Dec 17, 2008 5:01 PM GMT
    Once in a blue moon, I've had a hookup with a hot guy I met online. But I've long since given it up because you end of spending so much friggin time going back and forth, it's not worth it.

    Ive never fallen "in love" with someone online. To me, that sounds impossible.

    So now I meet guys the old fashioned way....in person. It's the best way.
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    Dec 17, 2008 5:16 PM GMT
    I had a hookup with a hot guy that I met on line and it turned out great. He looked just like his pic's. I've had 2 dates with him and have another on for tonight. I hope to get him in the sack tonight too.icon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 17, 2008 6:45 PM GMT
    Internet dating is what it is. You'll learn the rules quickly enough, and find that if you haven't met a person (or at least scheduled to meet a person) within a week of talking to them, it's unlikely to happen.
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    Dec 17, 2008 6:50 PM GMT
    all dating sucks, thats why "dating" is hard. the same way u will find jerks on the net ull find jerks in real life. just keep ur head high and wen u find that right one u will know.

    good luck bud
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    Dec 17, 2008 6:52 PM GMT
    Internet dating all-too-rarely sucks - and that blows.
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    Dec 21, 2008 5:46 AM GMT
    wizer1989 saidHey guys! I've been chatting with a guy for 4 months... to realize he's not using his pictures... icon_cry.gif... and I kinda fell in love with him...icon_redface.gif

    Seriously..I'm so tired of all this shit...


    You got a free mouse pad out of it though, right?

    *pat pat* Tomorrow's a new day.


    GQjock saidHaHa icon_wink.gif

    Internet Dating

    mdate1.jpg


    Dude I remember playing that game with my cousin! haha, I remember the guy with the tux and and black moustache.. I think I liked the blonde dude better though.. he had a stronger chin.
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    Dec 21, 2008 5:55 AM GMT
    lol, falling in love with someone you haven't met... such a parody!