Older Men and Fitness

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    Jan 04, 2014 8:53 PM GMT
    Being 67 and now returning to a gym, I'm wondering if it is true that most gay men over 40 just don't get into fitness, especially if they haven't gone to a gym previously..?
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    Jan 04, 2014 8:56 PM GMT
    Are they getting into fitness to get a hot body or to be healthy? A co-worker friend of mine is in his 70s and goes to the gym every day and runs; he does it for fitness.
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    Jan 04, 2014 9:24 PM GMT
    I'd imagine it's not only true but true of most straight men over 40.

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  • Lincsbear

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    Jan 04, 2014 9:44 PM GMT
    I took up serious, consistent exercise at forty six and had never been to a gym in my life!
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    Jan 05, 2014 1:31 AM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidAre they getting into fitness to get a hot body or to be healthy? A co-worker friend of mine is in his 70s and goes to the gym every day and runs; he does it for fitness.
    This. It is no different for gay or straight. If you're just trying to look good, you will probably fail to stick with it.

    One other thing, have found in my 50s that working out is a LOT harder than in previous decades, even when I am in good condition. It is easier to overtrain, to get exhausted, to have next-day workout hangover, etc. So take it slow and build yourself up step by step.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 05, 2014 1:35 AM GMT
    I have no idea what your point is but I'd guess that more gay men than straight men over 40 take up gym/fitness. Men continue to be interested in sex whereas most women post menopaus (in my experience) lose interest. I started the gym routine when I was no longer naturally fit and I 'd guess that's why most late comers to the gym start-- they just didn't need it to look good when younger.
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    Jan 05, 2014 1:37 AM GMT
    Hey, guys.

    I find just the opposite. I work out several days combining weight trainig with kettle bells.

    What a trip!

    Tommy
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    Jan 05, 2014 1:37 AM GMT
    Just do it.
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    Jan 05, 2014 1:39 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidJust do it.


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  • starboard5

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    Jan 05, 2014 1:41 AM GMT
    Don't think it has much to do with gay or straight. People who take care of themselves over the age of 40 are probably people who established the habit when they were younger.

    I don't mean to hijack your thread but this is a subject that gets under my collar; people who talk about changing their health habits and working out, and then give up. From what I've seen, it comes from these reasons, mainly:

    -- people look at exercise as if it were one more item on a list of chores to be checked off when, to be successful, you have to look at it like eating, pooping, bathing, brushing your teeth, etc. It's just part of your daily life. You do those other things without much deliberation and you approach your workouts and/or exercise the same way.
    -- people have unrealistic expectations or an unrealistic timeline. It depends on many variables (age, prior conditioning, present health, etc.) but, from my experience, I'd say it takes about four months for real, lasting changes to begin. You can reap benefits almost immediately, but things like improved balance and coordination, muscle memory, a stronger mind/body connection...things that will serve you in every part of your life...these take time, and most people get bored or discouraged and give up before they experience them.
    -- sorry, but most people are LAZY; they never learn one of the most important lessons that fitness can teach: you can't always trust your inclinations. You shut the alarm off in the morning and you do not feel like getting out of bed. You count how many times you got up to pee in the night, the crazy dream that woke you up; you just know you need more sleep because you feel so tired. But you know what? If you get your ass out of bed, nine times out of ten that feeling goes away! Yep, believe it or not. So, here's another lesson working out can teach: discipline is not a trait you're born with, it's a skill you develop through practice, just like any other.


    My two cents. Most of us are creatures of habit. The main thing holding back people over 40 from getting in shape is all the time wasted developing bad habits that they will need to change. All you young guys out there: start now. It will be much easier when you get to be my age.





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    Jan 05, 2014 2:20 AM GMT
    I started going to the gym when I was 40, and the very first day I very nearly fell off of the treadmill. I knew it would be funny someday, and it is.

    Just go. You will be so glad you did.
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    Jan 05, 2014 3:22 AM GMT
    Perhaps, but studies have shown that people of any age can benefit from starting a fitness program.
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    Jan 05, 2014 3:31 AM GMT
    Buckeyecrow saidBeing 67 and now returning to a gym, I'm wondering if it is true that most gay men over 40 just don't get into fitness, especially if they haven't gone to a gym previously..?

    A comedian remarked once "I live in West Hollywood. I'm gay. I go the gym. There's a law written somewhere."

    I.E. You have to flash wealth or be equally fit for a gay guy to talk to you over here on the left coast.

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    Jan 05, 2014 3:40 AM GMT
    I ride a bike because it's fun. The added benefit is a more fit and better looking body and extra money in my pocket. icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 05, 2014 4:00 AM GMT
    In the end, we can't afford to be couch fixtures.

    For some reason, I discovered recently (late 30's) life is easier and more comfortable when you're in shape.

    As a former fat guy, I will no longer have to think about how much people pay the Astra/Zeneca Pharmaceutical corporation for Prilosec/Omeprazole, a ($6/day) drug for daily heartburn.

    It's wintertime now. When I moved to upstate NY...I should have gotten in shape before winter started. Winter sucks. People have been known to overexert themselves...
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    Jan 05, 2014 4:51 AM GMT
    Buckeyecrow saidBeing 67 and now returning to a gym, I'm wondering if it is true that most gay men over 40 just don't get into fitness, especially if they haven't gone to a gym previously..?


    It seems to be the case. I was never able to find a fit guy my age to date and my best friends ( not fit) are already dead .
  • joxguy

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    Jan 05, 2014 4:55 AM GMT
    I am 65 and has been going to the gym since I was 16. As I got older I got away from building up muscle to toning and cardio.

    I recently had a heart problem, but was told that because of my gym life, my heart muscles were stronger and my recovery was much quicker.

    In my 60's I spend more time with cardio, stretching, and toning. I still spend a couple of hours each visit and go three times a week. I feel lousy if I don't get to the gym. I see lots of men my age at the gym, some of them I coached or taught with. I don't think your sexual orientation has anything to do with going to the gym. It is more do you take the time and think keeping healthy is important.
  • Warmnsalty

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    Jan 05, 2014 5:05 AM GMT
    I'm all for older guys at the gym, hell I'm now in that category, but for the love of god... quit blow drying your balls and it shouldn't take longer than a few minutes to towel off and dress
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    Jan 05, 2014 5:29 AM GMT
    I had been working out of and and on after college. Then I started working out again seriously in my 40's. Long story short. I am sort of in the best shape I have been in a millennium. I moved to the Kansas City are in last year about this time. I have lost purposefully 52lbs and have settled in at about 205. Yea the number bothers but I do look pretty good at nearly 51. I do have two recurring injuries that need to be looked at that didn't happen until I turned 50. I haven't been to the doc because of money and insurance issues so I change the workout when they flair up to accommodate. I will continue to workout for fitness and health reason, but I won't deny that I love the way that my clothes fit and the looks I get sometimes.

    Keep at it. Be mindful of nutrition and injuries. The payoff is priceless.
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    Jan 05, 2014 6:27 AM GMT
    I think it is true for straight or gay men after 40. I live in a largely gay community but for the life of me, all the gay guys have stopped going to the gym as far as I see. Or maybe the younger generation is just fitting in with straight guys now. The gym I go to has a large college stud membership. Nice to look at but they are pretty much straight. My neighbors that are gay do not go to the gym. Some are in their 50s and 60s and do not date but do have someone they live with.
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    Jan 05, 2014 6:35 AM GMT
    I love Hot older men who work out, and their hard work shows.
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    Jan 05, 2014 5:27 PM GMT
    Having lived in both gay and str8 communities, there's not a lot of older guys at the gym in the str8 community, in comparison with guys in general. I'd say more in the gay community but that's most likely due to the importance placed on looks in the gay community. If you've been in the str8 community you'll see that most guys are NOT in shape and are overweight.

    It's harder to continue as you age because your value on looks decreases as you prioritize things in life. Your ability to see substantial improvement decreases as you age and this is discouraging and then there's burn out. Also, injury (from working out or not) takes it's toll as healing times are increased. Being out for a while makes it harder to get back 'into' it.

    All in all, I feel good after working out but not fooling myself at all with it. I've gained in the midsection, my workouts are not nearly as intense as they were 5 years ago and I'm always fearful of hurting something and not being able to go at all.

    Aging takes it's toll, but hey what are you going to do? I prefer to look at myself in the str8 suburbs against other guys, that way I look awesome compared to them! Not so in the gay community.
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    Jan 18, 2014 5:14 AM GMT
    To be in reasonably good shape takes back burner when it comes to balance and coordination that I get out of disciplining myself to exercise.

    I am convinced now that I'm not adverse to exercise, just to gym environment that usually caters to the young crowd--piped-in music (that is annoying to me) & rude manners of the many young exercisers who speak loudly on their cell phones while around others.

    Any suggestions on how to deal with these annoyances besides wearing earplugs?
  • riverrunner

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    Jan 18, 2014 5:21 AM GMT
    I go because I want to stay healthy. I have been
    running for over 30 years and love it. Also I enjoy the eye candy.
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    Jan 18, 2014 5:52 AM GMT
    look, i'm going to turn 47 next week. age is a number, a point of reference. our bodies age, it's inevitable. maintaining mind, body and spirit is important.

    i have accomplished many of the physical goals i've had, but i'm not done yet, so i'll keep going. rock on!