How to enjoy bottoming?

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    Jan 04, 2014 11:00 PM GMT
    I want to be able to bottom but I have found it kind of unpleasant. My first experience was when I was super wasted and I went too hard; now I am kind of apprehensive. I have tried to bottom recently but when we barely started it felt extremely painful! I couldn't fully take his...member icon_redface.gif Does anyone have any helpful tips?
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    Jan 04, 2014 11:08 PM GMT
    Buy a buttplug and stick it up your arse for a couple of days ?

    Don't know if that will help..
  • Timbales

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    Jan 04, 2014 11:26 PM GMT
    For me, I think it's mental prep and making sure the guy who is fucking you is patient and cares about you.
  • Rubio2013

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    Jan 04, 2014 11:27 PM GMT
    Can you recommend a product for douching?
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    Jan 04, 2014 11:34 PM GMT
    Rubio2013 saidCan you recommend a product for douching?

    Just search for anal douche or enema, or get a shower attachment as the guy above said..

    Or even better buy all of them and see what works best for you.
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    Jan 04, 2014 11:48 PM GMT
    QUOTE AUTHOR GOES HEREUnfortunately, if you have that water in you during the deed, his pounding can easily cause it to come shooting out of you, lol.

    Lol, that sounds pretty horribleicon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 05, 2014 6:47 AM GMT
    YourName2000 saidThe buttplug is a good idea, imo. I'd also suggest investing in a shower attachment anal douche --if you're fretting about something coming "out", you might be clenching as he's going in. Perhaps if you feel really confident that you're "good to go" (after a douche), you'll feel more comfortable gaping yourself open so he can slide on in. And hopefully you're doing this with a guy you like a lot, who makes you feel safe and whom you trust...any kind of nerves can make you clamp down a bit too hard in the beginning. Go slow! You've got all the time in the world to explore with the right guy. Use lots of lube. Try different positions (some guys think climbing on top of their guy and lowering themselves on his dick gives them more time/control to adjust.)

    Once he's in, and he's got a few strokes into you, I personally find it easier to open up and stay "flexible", lol. So I suspect you just need help getting the party started. Being really comfortable with your butt and the fun you're about to have can really help, imo. The toys will help (that can part of the foreplay, too....he can work you over a bit with smaller toys until you're ready for the real deal.) And some people do find poppers or smoking a joint helps relax them.

    It sounds to me more like nerves/tension that's making it painful for you at the start, so you're giving up. With some experience, your mind/body will just know: "we've got 90 sec of discomfort until we get used to this glorious dick....then hopefully a good 30 min of pleasure afterwards, heh heh heh." So I go back to "practice, practice, practice". icon_smile.gif

    Wow, pretty much spot on!! I am doing it with my boyfriend of a year so I am comfortable with him, it is just the nerves complicating things. I have only had him try entering while I am on my back, maybe a different position will help ease things for me...very sound advice. Thanks so much! icon_biggrin.gif
  • mformarco

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    Jan 28, 2014 5:25 PM GMT
    Close your eyes, lay back and think of England