Loosing his BF after 1 year and 3 months of relationship as a teenager. Hard, isn't it ?

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    Jan 05, 2014 8:39 AM GMT
    Hey guys,

    I've been with my boyfriend since september, 26th 2013.
    He is two years old less than me.
    He is really cute too.
    He cheated on me twice.
    He told me the truth, I forgive him.
    But the thing is everything is less magical than it use to be.
    He was my first love. I didn't make anything before this guy.
    I travalled a lot with him too. It was a really good relationship.

    I broke up with him yesterday.
    But when I told him, his face crying hurted me a lot.
    He asked me a lot of question like: "Do you really want this to be over ?" or "Do you still love me ?" or "Do you stay with me because you don't wanna hurt me ?".
    At the end, he told me even if he doesn't want to, I seem to not love him anymore. He told me he felt it. Even if it brokes his heart, he said we should broke up. He said it will be better for me and my happiness. It was such a nice speech. icon_cry.gif
    He ask me to keep texting him in order to not make this too brutal because he still loves me.

    I am a little bit sad.
    Anything to bring smile ?


    Thank you
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    Jan 05, 2014 9:12 AM GMT
    He cheated on you twice.... You forgave him after he tells you about his cheating...hmm... and then you break up because you don't feel magical after that?

    I think you can get your smile back if you both workout and discuss on trust issues and strengthen your relation.

    Relationships aren't always magical... You have to workout together and bring the spark again when the flame dies out.

    If you still don't Want to get back together all you can do for now, to feel better, is distract yourself from anything that reminds him.
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    Jan 05, 2014 9:14 AM GMT
    cheated on you..twice? once should have been the waking call. I personally don't have any sympathy for someone who cheated and is the one crying. Like man up.
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    Jan 05, 2014 9:56 AM GMT
    We are still teenager.
    We are little kids inside trying to play man I guess.

    He cheated on me twitce but told me all in once.
    That's why I feel like it is only once.
    And he came by himself so it is proof of honnesty ?
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    Jan 05, 2014 1:09 PM GMT
    First and foremost.. I'm very sorry to hear that your love did things to dishonor your relationship.

    ..He confessed but he should understand there are still consequences.

    .. He might have thought that you didn't love him anymore but should have understood you were deeply hurt.

    .. Cheer you up..??

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    ^ It's Hump Day.
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    Jan 05, 2014 5:20 PM GMT
    Ldes saidWe are still teenager.
    We are little kids inside trying to play man I guess.

    He cheated on me twitce but told me all in once.
    That's why I feel like it is only once.
    And he came by himself so it is proof of honnesty ?


    Honesty? I guess so...
    generally people are honest to those they not only love but also respect.
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    Jan 05, 2014 6:19 PM GMT
    Harry7785 said


    Honesty? I guess so...
    generally people are honest to those they not only love but also respect.


    Well ..I think he was consumed by guilt..

    The ultimate level of honesty .. Not Cheating In The First Place icon_exclaim.gif
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    Jan 05, 2014 6:25 PM GMT
    It is entirely normal to experience those emotions, but you did nothing wrong as you had valid reasons for breaking up.

    You're young, eventually you will find the right guy.
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    Jan 05, 2014 7:20 PM GMT
    First of all, I am studying in CA.
    We are both french under French government law.
    When his parents agreed on the relationship then you have nothing to be in trouble with.

    Thank you Anocxu. Your post was funny ^^.

    He apologized so many time.
    He said that if I want to go in order to be more happy then I should do it.
    He doesn't want to be someone who bring my happiness down.
    Well that's all he said.
    But between he told me he cheated on me and right now 3 months elapsed.
    I was in the USA when he told me the truth via a phone call.
    But I was back to Paris for the Christmas holiday.
    I felt like thing has changed.
    Somewhere inside of me, I am still in love with him.
    He grew up a lot. He seems to be much more mature.
    He was just looking for a path to be nice with himself.
    I don't know...

    Arrrrrh why love is so hard.
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    Jan 05, 2014 7:30 PM GMT
    Sorry for you that things did not go well with this guy. But remember, you are 19, and he is 17. Breaking up is hard to do. One cannot expect that relationships that form so early in life will go on forever. They simply don't. You will not be the same person at 25 as you are today, and will be different yet again at 30, as you grow from new experiences in your life. If this is the end of this relationship, there will be others in your futures. This won't cheer you up now, but if you look back on this period 10 years from now, you will know it is right.
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    Jan 05, 2014 7:50 PM GMT
    ikilledcaptainplanet said
    Anocxu said

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    LMAO!!! wtf.

    but speaking of which, i got a little curious since i saw that the op is 19 and the guy that he was with is 2 years younger than him so i decided to look up california's statutory rape laws.

    http://www.sexlaws.org/california_statutory_rape#Q1

    you know you fucked up right? the age of consent in california is 18.

    and these threads are sad. what's with these dudes that love someone else so much that they're willing to get shitted on from a level that is just embarrassing. seriously? you let someone treat you like that? you guys show a bit too much empathy and sympathy to the wrong guys. it makes me wonder if you guys enjoy being hurt.


    If you read the rest of it, you'll see that it's legal for a 19 year old to have intercourse with a 17 year old, it's only if they are 3 years difference in age.

    http://www.sexlaws.org/california_statutory_rape_laws

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    Jan 05, 2014 11:21 PM GMT
    Anocxu said

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    ^ It's Hump Day.


    LOL. This definitely brought a smile to my face even though I have no idea what's happening.
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    Jan 06, 2014 11:32 AM GMT
    So just wait and see how I feel in few days ?