The forbidden love.... Need a boyfriend,....

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    Jan 05, 2014 10:00 AM GMT
    I know it sounds bit clumsy, bit weird. But I really need someone for life long. You might be thinking I'm just 20, and asking for a bf.... well, it's not that true. I have been waiting for my better half from the last 5 years, from the day when I experienced myself and gay love. And from that day itself I'm saving myself for my future husband.... I'm very straight acting, brave and daring guy.. But sometimes, I just need a shoulder, a chest to bury my head. I really need my sweet heart. I don't care from which part of world he may belong. But yes, I need him, more than my life. Some feelings are very hard to explain, I've no words that how much my bf means to me.. Hope, I'll get him soon....
  • Apparition

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    Jan 07, 2014 6:39 AM GMT
    Saving yourself is kind if like trying to get a job that requires a lot of trainining and experience without any.
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    Jan 07, 2014 12:23 PM GMT
    There are people in this world that are meant to be single.
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    Jan 07, 2014 12:30 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidThere are people in this world that are meant to be single.

    That's not true.


    Also, you might want to post something a little more considerate and not depress the OP even more.
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    Jan 07, 2014 1:35 PM GMT
    Don't worry...when the time is right, you'll find a perfect match! ;)
    Until then just don't stress yourself thinking too much about having a partner.
  • lgg5819

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    Jan 07, 2014 6:16 PM GMT
    Apparition saidSaving yourself is kind if like trying to get a job that requires a lot of trainining and experience without any.


    THIS. So much. If you save yourself, eventually you'll get bored once you do find someone, and you're gonna wonder what all you missed out on and want to stray. Saving yourself is silly.
  • LoveAndPeace

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    Jan 09, 2014 12:22 AM GMT
    olivermann saidI know it sounds bit clumsy, bit weird. But I really need someone for life long. You might be thinking I'm just 20, and asking for a bf.... well, it's not that true. I have been waiting for my better half from the last 5 years, from the day when I experienced myself and gay love. And from that day itself I'm saving myself for my future husband.... I'm very straight acting, brave and daring guy.. But sometimes, I just need a shoulder, a chest to bury my head. I really need my sweet heart. I don't care from which part of world he may belong. But yes, I need him, more than my life. Some feelings are very hard to explain, I've no words that how much my bf means to me.. Hope, I'll get him soon....

    lolwut
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    Jan 09, 2014 2:46 PM GMT
    Not to seem inconsiderate or aloof to your 'problem' but it seems to me that you may be a bit dependent on someone else for your happiness and well-being. You need to fill that void yourself otherwise you will always be wanting or needing someone else to make you happy or love you. You do not know when Mr. Right will show up so why torture yourself until then? Learn to love yourself and cherish what you have right now - it will make it all the better when the love of your life comes riding in because then, at least you would have known what love is because you have given it to yourself.
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    Jan 09, 2014 7:34 PM GMT
    Kuestion saidNot to seem inconsiderate or aloof to your 'problem' but it seems to me that you may be a bit dependent on someone else for your happiness and well-being. You need to fill that void yourself otherwise you will always be wanting or needing someone else to make you happy or love you. You do not know when Mr. Right will show up so why torture yourself until then? Learn to love yourself and cherish what you have right now - it will make it all the better when the love of your life comes riding in because then, at least you would have known what love is because you have given it to yourself.


    This.
    You are the most important person in your life (unless you have a child, but that's a different story.) It is so, so important to love yourself and be the person who you want to be. You don't need another person to complete you; you complete yourself and the right man is just the bonus.
    Be patient. It's harder for us too because we're gay and the dating pool is a bit smaller, so don't feel as pressured to find "the one" right away. Also, don't settle just because you're lonely. That's advice. But if you find happiness in yourself, you can find happiness in other people. That's one of the biggest things to realize in life, if you want my opinion. You have to develop a deep bond with yourself, and that alone will attract other men.
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    Jan 10, 2014 7:01 AM GMT
    Truppensturm said
    Erik101 saidThere are people in this world that are meant to be single.

    That's not true.


    Also, you might want to post something a little more considerate and not depress the OP even more.


    My post wasn't addressing the OP nor anyone. If what I said isn't true, then how do you respond to someone who tells you he/she doesn't want to date and just want to remain single? Do you argue with them by stating they haven't found the right match? Whoever said that there's one special person for everyone was delusional!
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    Jan 19, 2014 6:05 PM GMT
    pellaz saidmore reliable; get a puppy
    even better a hag gf


    ya, you are correct my buddy. Probably you need a puppy when you want to share some happiness in your life rather than with a human......And it's more reliable in ur case....lol
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    Jan 19, 2014 6:10 PM GMT
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    very funny. but you did a little mistake...I'm neither a woman nor black(I mean african).... but you made me laugh.... ha ha
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    Jan 19, 2014 6:13 PM GMT
    Apparition saidSaving yourself is kind if like trying to get a job that requires a lot of trainining and experience without any.


    wow..... I never knew that to get a bf, I've to try as many ppl to get some experience... thanks 4 ur divine knowledge.... getting a bf , is like getting a job... and if I don't have much encounter, I don't have experience... nice concept...
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    Jan 19, 2014 6:16 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidThere are people in this world that are meant to be single.


    you are true, cuz u know how to comment..... bt b4 pointing out 2 try 2 wear the person's shoe in ur leg.... and in ur 2nd comment it was like, not dating and all... how do u know abt my personal life???
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    Jan 19, 2014 6:18 PM GMT
    ikilledcaptainplanet said
    Erik101 saidThere are people in this world that are meant to be single.


    sad enough, you might be right. dating isn't for everybody.

    but op, there's nothing wrong with that.



    ya, correct. dating is only meant for u....lol....
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    Jan 19, 2014 6:33 PM GMT
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    Kuestion saidNot to seem inconsiderate or aloof to your 'problem' but it seems to me that you may be a bit dependent on someone else for your happiness and well-being. You need to fill that void yourself otherwise you will always be wanting or needing someone else to make you happy or love you. You do not know when Mr. Right will show up so why torture yourself until then? Learn to love yourself and cherish what you have right now - it will make it all the better when the love of your life comes riding in because then, at least you would have known what love is because you have given it to yourself.


    This.
    You are the most important person in your life (unless you have a child, but that's a different story.) It is so, so important to love yourself and be the person who you want to be. You don't need another person to complete you; you complete yourself and the right man is just the bonus.
    Be patient. It's harder for us too because we're gay and the dating pool is a bit smaller, so don't feel as pressured to find "the one" right away. Also, don't settle just because you're lonely. That's advice. But if you find happiness in yourself, you can find happiness in other people. That's one of the biggest thinks to realize in life, if you want my opinion. You have to develop a deep bond with yourself, and that alone will attract other men.


    my hearty thanks to you my friend. I don't have any words to express my gratitude for your beautiful comments. my post seems to be quite desperate, but it's not like that.... I'm happy with myself. I'm loving myself. I enjoy smiling and giving smile to others. In free times I hangout wid frndz, play football, cook or watch some fantastic movies.... Being a mechanical engg student, I'm an undergraduate technical engineer in our university for manufacturing and racing formula cars at National level. And when I get free times I like to study astronomy and astrophysics.... but sometimes I feel alone. A feeling of emptiness. on a rainy night when I used to sit beside the window of my dorm or in late night in terrace.... Sometimes , I just feel to share my happiness , my work with someone. Just need a little push up, or courage from that dear one, that even if I fail I'll have no fear that someone is besides me. Someone is holding my hand. That's why it's difficult to express in words. But yes, throughout the years I learnt how to treat myself well.. I used to go Cafe coffee day on sunday evening to have a good and excellent coffee.. used to ice-cream parlour when I feel excited.. Used to have a special dinner for myself... go movie when I used to free....and watch sunset on the sea beach.... I'm happy with my solitude....
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    Jan 19, 2014 6:35 PM GMT
    LoveAndPeace said
    olivermann saidI know it sounds bit clumsy, bit weird. But I really need someone for life long. You might be thinking I'm just 20, and asking for a bf.... well, it's not that true. I have been waiting for my better half from the last 5 years, from the day when I experienced myself and gay love. And from that day itself I'm saving myself for my future husband.... I'm very straight acting, brave and daring guy.. But sometimes, I just need a shoulder, a chest to bury my head. I really need my sweet heart. I don't care from which part of world he may belong. But yes, I need him, more than my life. Some feelings are very hard to explain, I've no words that how much my bf means to me.. Hope, I'll get him soon....

    lolwut


    bcuz ppl like u think that being a gay, one has to really act like gay or girly in society.... I'm comfortable with being normal in society and I love to be straight acting.....
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    Jan 19, 2014 6:39 PM GMT
    Kuestion saidNot to seem inconsiderate or aloof to your 'problem' but it seems to me that you may be a bit dependent on someone else for your happiness and well-being. You need to fill that void yourself otherwise you will always be wanting or needing someone else to make you happy or love you. You do not know when Mr. Right will show up so why torture yourself until then? Learn to love yourself and cherish what you have right now - it will make it all the better when the love of your life comes riding in because then, at least you would have known what love is because you have given it to yourself.



    I can't say I'm depending. I'm happy as hell...And I know how to treat myself. But it's sure that I'll be more happy with someone whom I can call my own....
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    Jan 19, 2014 8:25 PM GMT
    Truppensturm said
    Erik101 saidThere are people in this world that are meant to be single.

    That's not true.


    Also, you might want to post something a little more considerate and not depress the OP even more.
    Yes it is true, sorry to say. Not everyone is meant for a relationship. For some people, being single for life works out very well for them.
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    Jan 19, 2014 8:41 PM GMT
    roadbikeRob said
    Truppensturm said
    Erik101 saidThere are people in this world that are meant to be single.

    That's not true.


    Also, you might want to post something a little more considerate and not depress the OP even more.
    Yes it is true, sorry to say. Not everyone is meant for a relationship. For some people, being single for life works out very well for them.


    y u r single???
  • jnick91776

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    Jan 20, 2014 11:42 PM GMT
    olivermann--- RGW94 has the best advice.
    It has taken me so long to try to live my life like that and I know it is difficult but you got to try....
    Besides relationships can be hard under the best of circumstances. Good luck.
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    Jan 20, 2014 11:58 PM GMT


    THIS. So much. If you save yourself, eventually you'll get bored once you do find someone, and you're gonna wonder what all you missed out on and want to stray. Saving yourself is silly.

    igg5819 Why r u single?
  • roadbikeRob

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    Jan 25, 2014 4:16 PM GMT
    olivermann said
    roadbikeRob said
    Truppensturm said
    Erik101 saidThere are people in this world that are meant to be single.

    That's not true.


    Also, you might want to post something a little more considerate and not depress the OP even more.
    Yes it is true, sorry to say. Not everyone is meant for a relationship. For some people, being single for life works out very well for them.


    y u r single???
    Yes I am single and I am perfectly happy with it. Because I can come and go as I damned well please and don't have to answer to anyone about it.
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    Jan 28, 2014 5:33 PM GMT
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