Do Opposites REALLY Attract???

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    Jan 06, 2014 3:21 AM GMT
    Think, ... if you met a Man that was most completely your opposite.... Would that turn you on? Would you make it work?
    Not in a joking sense that you're not a killer so their for he is but like the two of you find each others activities boring

    I'm asking because I am in a similar situation
  • Adozark

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    Jan 06, 2014 3:46 AM GMT
    With me it hasn't ever worked that way, I'm thinking in terms of opposite mind sets about life/priorities.

    For instance I have met people who didn't have drive in life, they where smart but cared more about just doing enough to have the bare minimum bills paid and they would stop there. I can't stand that, especially when they have the intelligence to go so much further, but just "don't care".

    If you're talking about body type or social circle I think things change quite a bit in your favor, though a person's social circle often is a direct link to his/her priorities/mind set.
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    Jan 06, 2014 4:06 AM GMT
    The answer is yes/no/depends.
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    Jan 06, 2014 4:24 AM GMT
    Yes but I am learning... Most people don't like to change for anything.. even if they say they will

    The current guy I am talking to is my opposite in these facts:

    A) He is older, I'm young
    B) He is a foreigner and some of our views don't match up because of this
    C) He doesn't have a sense of humor, well he does but mine is Fucking AWESOME! Seriously! Yet my jokes just over his head. He tried joking with me once and by the jokes end I was only upset..
    D) He Is All about Sex.. I'm not!
    E) Yet somehow has No Fetishes.. WTF, is that even possible!?!?! Apparently it is
    F) Not into any of my music or movies, I haven't even given him names of them yet but he says he is only interested in the "Best"
    G) Claims he is basically in love with me though we have barely spent any quality time together.. WTF, the feeling is Not mutual

    Probably more, but again.. haven't had much time with him yet


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    Jan 06, 2014 5:40 AM GMT
    ^ ^ ^
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    This guy..??
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    Jan 06, 2014 5:42 AM GMT
    An inanimate Object?

    Lets just say... with the way He acts... I check for a Pulse from time to time

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  • bischero

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    Jan 06, 2014 5:43 AM GMT
    ^

    Ew.


    (In reference to the mannequin.)
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    Jan 06, 2014 5:43 AM GMT
    xrichx saidThe answer is yes/no/depends.


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    Jan 06, 2014 5:44 AM GMT
    bischero said^

    Ew.


    (In reference to the mannequin.)


    Oh, Ah..
    lol
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    Jan 06, 2014 5:44 AM GMT
    ReeBad19 said
    bischero said^

    Ew.


    (In reference to the mannequin.)


    Ahhh..
    lol


    Yeah, we posted at the same time and I was like, "Oh shit!"


    No, not you lol. That nasty mannequin.
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    Jan 06, 2014 6:18 AM GMT
    unfounded7 said
    xrichx saidThe answer is yes/no/depends.


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    True, too.
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    Jan 06, 2014 6:45 AM GMT
    ReeBad19 saidYes but I am learning... Most people don't like to change for anything.. even if they say they will


    I believe that the word change is too hard. I'd rather say adapt.
    And you don't adapt yourself to someone else's needs until you fall in love, trust me.

    It's understanding that, when different, you'll give each other what the other one doesn't have.

    It's, like Joey said, about giving and receiving and sharing.

    My boyfriend and I are complete opposites but we agree on something: make it work because it's worth it.

    I'm young and not a relationship's expert but that's what I think.
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    Jan 06, 2014 6:47 AM GMT


    Bill's atheist and I'm christian, is that opposites?

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    Jan 06, 2014 6:49 AM GMT
    meninlove said

    Bill's atheist and I'm christian, is that opposites?

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    Hahahaha.

    C'mon you guys give the best advices. What do you think?
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    Jan 06, 2014 7:13 AM GMT
    I like similar interests but opposite personalities.

    I always fall for the introvert types.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Jan 06, 2014 8:35 AM GMT
    Opposite of me would not be a good thing in certain aspects

    I consider myself to be somewhat shy, introverted and not really super outgoing. I can be when I am comfortable with a situation but I can't walk into any situation and be open, loud, talkative, and be a social butterfly. Thinking about it now, since that would be my opposite, I wouldn't really want to date someone like that. I think I'd want someone to BE ABLE to be like that but who can also be with me and be more low key rather than have to be out all the time.

    I think to a person who is opposite of me, I would be boring LOL Unless of course, they wanted the opposite in dating someone. I guess they wouldn't want the same person as them either. Having similar interests are good but your interests usually have something to do with your personality I think.

    So, I said all that to say that I think 2 people should compliment each other but also be able to compromise and work with each other on different things. Being with an opposite person might be hard if they are stuck in their ways and ideas.

    It's hard to say what should be opposite and what should be the same, since everyone is different.
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    Jan 06, 2014 9:32 AM GMT
    Depends on the guy! Yes and No!
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    Jan 06, 2014 9:56 AM GMT
    ReeBad19 saidThink, ... if you met a Man that was most completely your opposite.... Would that turn you on? Would you make it work?
    Not in a joking sense that you're not a killer so their for he is but like the two of you find each others activities boring

    I'm asking because I am in a similar situation


    Well not entirely, there is always something that has the same omen or shall I say the same frequency of a matter to attract the other. Your word "Attract" no! It does not place rightfully there but Opposites do "Match", yet It does not entirely owns the factor of attract.

    Example : lets say..
    I adore a guy who is more grounded that thinks less inside but fairly happy, jovial and lively on the outside.But has to shares the basic principle of certain things with me that makes me fond of. Say I am a very mischief/naughty and curious kid behind 4 walls and a person that thinks a lot. But on the outside I don't portray such qualities. People perceive me as introvert person. Well thats not entirely of what I'm right? So you see people tend to see thing on the surface and place their rough judgment of things straight away. Thats where it goes all wrong! Not seeing things of a perspective and being less serious of a matter.

    To me Opposite fashion does not necessarily attract and they place no certainty to a matter of partnership.

    What I do believe Qualities attracts more and place certainty to one another than differences of opposite or likes as we speak here on the factor.icon_wink.gif

    To your question :
    Would that turn you on? Depends its a two way thing before anything gets turned on.

    Would you make it work? - Yes I can, if I give into and saw qualities that I do cherish a lot. Not just on surface. It all goes into how deep are you of a person that take things into matter. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 06, 2014 10:03 AM GMT
    Anocxu said^ ^ ^
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    This guy..??


    Oh dear Alvin..where did you find this!? That penis could have been foreskined. ~ just saying.icon_confused.gif
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    Jan 06, 2014 10:17 AM GMT
    I think this is bettaar!

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  • Lovable_Rogue

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    Jan 06, 2014 10:46 AM GMT
    Yes kinda! I get attractd to them
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    Jan 06, 2014 11:29 AM GMT
    It really depends on the individuals.
    I know of two friends who are married now and they very different in every way.

    In fact I asked them one time to say something they both have in common and they both didn't give me an answer, but nonetheless they're happily married.
    The amazing thing with them is that they've chosen to discover what it is they both like to do together and so it's really open doors for them to explore new things.

    Personally I think it's kind of romantic and sweet to try find new commonalities within yourselves that you share with that person and/or develop new interests together.
    Discovering is fun.

    A good thing I see about relationships where people are opposite is that you will be much more well geared for change, just generally in life.

    The key here, as I think is the key to any successful relationship, is how much each person works towards the relationship.
    Often people who feel they don't have much in common with another person may tend to not work as hard into the relationship so I see why having similarities help, but I don't think it's certainly the be all end all.

    How much is each individual willing to compromise for the other?
    If you both work at it, the relationship will grow.
    If you're expecting to go into a relationship thinking the other person will just change to your liking, then I'd say it's fairly doomed from the get go.

    Anyway that's my 2 cents but then again I've been told I'm much too old fashioned so I might just be saying very irrelevant things.
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    Jan 06, 2014 11:34 AM GMT
    No, because I am a narcissist.
  • starboard5

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    Jan 06, 2014 5:33 PM GMT
    In terms of an LTR, I would say, no. In a friendship, differences can be stimulating; in a relationship, I think they would just become annoying.
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    Jan 06, 2014 5:36 PM GMT
    Every guy who's ever asked me out has been very different from me in some opposite way.