Jan 07, 2014 7:48 PM GMT
I care about a guy a lot and the feeling is mutual. We're both very attracted to each other. But in bed, there isn't much of a spark. I'm a total top, he's a total bottom so the foundation is there. But I enjoy making a guy feel good and am very tactile/exploratory. He has a passive take on his bottoming role where he wants me to do what I want to him and wants me to be really aggressive while he just lays there. He doesn't grab me or use his hands much like I'm used to. I know he's still getting used to my size and I'm patient there. But when I bring it up to him in conversation, the whole idea of him putting his arms around me and touching me with his hands seems like a foreign concept to him which makes me lose interest in being anything more than friends. Are we doomed?