What's wrong with me?!

  • GraffitiMySou...

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    Jan 08, 2014 2:16 AM GMT
    Hello there,

    I need to know what you guys think of a certain something. Something that's been bothering me a lot for a while.

    I have a boyfriend. We've been together for a little over 9 months and it's been really good so far. I love him, he loves me and honestly, we couldn't be happier. The sex is perfect, we have the same kinks and fetishes, we're extremely open and talk a lot.

    We're also 100% monogamous.

    Last week, we talked a lot about our past, the sex we used to have before we met and so on. It was an awkward conversation for him, but for me it was umm well, kind of exciting. I got turned on by the thought of him having sex with someone else. I imagined watching him do it with a different guy and while it turned me on a lot, it also scared the hell out of me. Here I was, the kind of guy who always wanted to have a serious long term relationship with someone I love, always against open relationships, threesomes and so on. It really made me question myself to be honest. I can actually say I feel a little disappointed in myself. I talked about it with my boyfriend and he was surprised (in a positive way) to say the least. He told me it made him hot to think I could watch him have sex with somebody else. It really is something that I would want to do sometime in the future, but damn, what does that make me? I mean, we love each other and it's just sex. As hard as it may be, I think we could both separate it for the sake of having the experience, but I don't know. Seems like a lot to process. I just don't want this to potentially mess things up.

    What do you guys think?

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    Jan 08, 2014 2:18 AM GMT
    I typed a response YET you deleted the last post to repost the same thing again............ -_-
  • GraffitiMySou...

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    Jan 08, 2014 2:19 AM GMT
    Because I'm an idiot, that's why. I put this post in the wrong forum. It was supposed to be in the 'sex' section. I have no idea how to move it there. Sorry about that.
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    Jan 08, 2014 2:20 AM GMT
    It's another kink. And, people change and relationships are fluid. Whatever you and your BF agree upon, go with that. Previous agreements are always renegotiable. Whatever you do, keep it real.
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    Jan 08, 2014 2:29 AM GMT
    I have tried the open relationship thing with my partner and it was a mess because we didn't communicate about it. My advice to you is to talk about it with your BF first if you guys decide that route.

    Other couples I know have tried it and spiced their relationship up tremendously. Honestly, talking it over with your partner is the best and only advice I can give.
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    Jan 08, 2014 2:31 AM GMT
    You're a man. Get used to it. You have needs.
    Just because you're attached doesn't mean you will never find another man attractive again...

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    Jan 08, 2014 2:40 AM GMT
    Awww, aren't you adorable... There's nothing wrong with that. Different things turn people on in different ways. As long as you are not hurting anyone and you both agree on it, I say go for it. Personally, I couldn't do that and if anything, you'll both learn more about each other in the process. Happy 3some-ing lol