real gay friends?

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    Jan 08, 2014 8:32 AM GMT
    how do u get them? i always end up hooking up with them or dating them, but i want someone i can talk to about gay stuff (strt guys don't really like getting to deep into that kinda stuff with me, and if they do they end up trying to use me as an experiment). Its not just me i asked my ex bf who had a lot of gay frds, he said he pretty much hooked up or at least jerked off with all his gay frds. so how do u guys keep gay frds...real ones that are completely platonic and stuff?
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    Jan 08, 2014 8:34 AM GMT
    Make sure they are not into you and vice versa. The rest should be just the same as normal friendships.
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    Jan 08, 2014 8:46 AM GMT
    lifesanadventure saidhow do u get them? i always end up hooking up with them or dating them, but i want someone i can talk to about gay stuff (strt guys don't really like getting to deep into that kinda stuff with me, and if they do they end up trying to use me as an experiment). Its not just me i asked my ex bf who had a lot of gay frds, he said he pretty much hooked up or at least jerked off with all his gay frds. so how do u guys keep gay frds...real ones that are completely platonic and stuff?


    i have tons... im usually not their type and vice versa... now and then there is some sort of attraction but it dissipates... usually...

    i find friends through common hobbies... working out, my horror movie group, poker group
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    Jan 08, 2014 8:51 AM GMT
    lol so what im hearing is

    1.don't let you ego get in the way (if someones not attracted to you don't take it as a insult or personal challenge)

    2. self control- if you develope an attraction let it disapate don't get naked
  • killercliche

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    Jan 08, 2014 9:27 AM GMT
    find guys that aren't single
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    Jan 08, 2014 10:46 AM GMT
    lifesanadventure saidlol so what im hearing is

    1.don't let you ego get in the way (if someones not attracted to you don't take it as a insult or personal challenge)

    2. self control- if you develope an attraction let it disapate don't get naked

    Pretty much this. From what I have heard, gay couples make as good friend. Although, I haven't had any luck in having friendship with them.
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    Jan 08, 2014 10:50 AM GMT
    Truppensturm saidMake sure they are not into you and vice versa. The rest should be just the same as normal friendships.
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    Jan 08, 2014 2:27 PM GMT
    you establish boundaries, and if they want to sleep with you all you have to say is..no. I know, ground breaking isn't it? icon_lol.gif
  • Adozark

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    Jan 08, 2014 6:40 PM GMT
    killercliche saidfind guys that aren't single


    Exactly, that's how I at least know as best I can that they're truly just looking to be friends.

    For some reason guys find me more attractive than women do (or maybe guys just have lower standards since they're only looking to hook up) and so it can be hard to find guys who are ok with just being friends.
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    Jan 08, 2014 10:03 PM GMT
    killercliche saidfind guys that aren't single

    And are monogamous.
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    Jan 08, 2014 11:39 PM GMT
    I don't think it's very hard. Just be yourself! if a dude is coming on to you and you don't want that, then tell them so. if they're good guys then they'll be your friends.
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    Jan 09, 2014 12:15 AM GMT
    I have had trouble with this too! But I learned some wisdom over the years! You just have to be yourself, don't act like someone else you're not! I have had friendships with guys whom were into me but I wasn't feeling the same! Granted, those friendships sorta evaporated quickly but you know friendship is a 2 way street! You can't just take or give all the time! Be able to embrace new friendship if your old friendship died! I mean, people do change, drift apart! Sometimes if you're have really good friends, they'll remember you and find their way back!!
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    Jan 09, 2014 2:40 AM GMT
    I know they are few and far between these days but they're out there. My partner and I have made quite a few friends ( single and other couples) We do a lot of group stuff, hiking, dinner, movies, Barbecues, etc. We do a lot of stuff that involves everyone and most of the time its outdoors and doesn't involve a lot of alcohol. This is how you keep things from going outta control, lol.
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    Jan 09, 2014 8:04 PM GMT
    I have the same problem..you gotta find someone your not attracted to.. that's how I met my best friend
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    Jan 09, 2014 8:12 PM GMT
    Varus saidyou establish boundaries, and if they want to sleep with you all you have to say is..no. I know, ground breaking isn't it? icon_lol.gif




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  • Jan 10, 2014 3:09 AM GMT
    i need gay friends. I have 0 icon_sad.gif.. but thats maybe because I'm not out yet…lol
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    Jan 10, 2014 4:30 AM GMT
    Meet guys you find downright unattractive.