"I'm straight so I just don't want you hitting on me." P.2

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    Jan 08, 2014 9:17 PM GMT
    So all the way last year I mentioned one of my co-workers finding out I was gay and saying bad things about me behind me back. I confronted him 1 on 1 (in a civil matter) and explained the situation, and he had the audacity to say "That's cool, but I just don't want you hitting on me." Not to be rude but he was not attractive at all and his personality even made him more ugly. He has three teeth tops and his mouth is constantly filled with tobacco. On top of that his personality is crap bringing him to an absolute zero on straight or gay people scale I'm sure. icon_mad.gif

    Fast forward to last week another co-worker (shocker) is told I'm gay. I'm completely out and proud so I could care less who knows, but when he said "Josh is awesome I just hope he doesn't hit on me it'll become weird" I went up to him and said he had nothing to worry about (Oh yeah he wasn't attractive at all either...)

    Maybe this has been discussed before, but what in the world is up with straight guys thinking gay men will just hit on them or even want to. It makes absolutely no sense to me and there is no way I can say "I would never hit on you" without sound rude.
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    Jan 08, 2014 9:20 PM GMT
    ikilledcaptainplanet saidbecause they're insecure with themselves.


    I don't know, Pazzy. I think you're right, but sometimes I wonder if it's because of the generalizations of our community being premescious or something. I don't know, something to think about I guess.
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    Jan 08, 2014 9:20 PM GMT
    It is probably because of their low self-esteem. Maybe they know they aren't a catch and feel in some sort of power when telling a gay guy that they aren't 'allowed' to hit on them. It gives them sort of an ego boost. Don't let those imbecilic comments get to you sweetie. icon_biggrin.gif
  • PR_GMR

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    Jan 08, 2014 9:26 PM GMT
    What the comments above stated. They're just being silly, insecure ugly straight men.
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    Jan 08, 2014 9:26 PM GMT
    I always just say "I only hit on guys who are gay."
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    Jan 08, 2014 9:29 PM GMT
    "Sorry, you aren't my type" usually is enough.
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    Jan 08, 2014 9:57 PM GMT
    You should be straightforward with these straight guys.
    You have these options:
    1. You aren't my type
    2. I don't hit on straight guys.
    3. Fuck off.

    You can also use all of the above.


  • Tropicalcium

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    Jan 08, 2014 10:04 PM GMT
    Secure guys are happy with the compliments they get from gay guys, if they get hit on. I know plenty of secure guys who like the attention from gays and they know they are straight. Banter and all. What is the fcuking problem? They are straight and they like girls. We like men and we go after men. Some go after straight men, but that is another subject.
  • Tropicalcium

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    Jan 08, 2014 10:07 PM GMT
    Just say he is not your type and you have better things to do.
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    Jan 08, 2014 10:11 PM GMT
    Just ask if they are regularly besieged by hordes of lusty gay men.
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    Jan 08, 2014 10:17 PM GMT
    There are a lot of guys out there (often "not conventionally attractive ones) who "hit" constantly on every single woman that they encounter. Hoping for a break in the law of averages, I suppose. Sexual harassment is basically their lifestyle, as long as they think they can get away with it. Maybe they think that aggression somehow makes up for lack of attraction. Maybe they think this is how everybody does it. Not surprising that they wouldn't want this turned back on themselves.


    (OK, it's not only hetero's who do this. There are just more of them.)
  • killercliche

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    Jan 08, 2014 11:08 PM GMT
    There's a saying that Homophobia is man's fear of another man viewing/objectifying him the way that he does so to women. I would guess this is more the case than anything else in these scenarios.
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    Jan 08, 2014 11:20 PM GMT
    killercliche saidThere's a saying that Homophobia is man's fear of another man viewing/objectifying him the way that he does so to women. I would guess this is more the case than anything else in these scenarios.

    ^^^Yup.
    The fear isn't that you'll find them attractive.
    The fear is that you won't.
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    Jan 08, 2014 11:31 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    killercliche saidThere's a saying that Homophobia is man's fear of another man viewing/objectifying him the way that he does so to women. I would guess this is more the case than anything else in these scenarios.

    ^^^Yup.
    The fear isn't that you'll find them attractive.
    The fear is that you won't.
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    Well boy do I have news for them... icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 08, 2014 11:42 PM GMT
    Maybe you should say something like "that would be very unprofessional of me" Leaves their tender egos intact and also tells them that you "don't shit where you eat" (if they're on the cruder side, the eat/shit analogy might work as well)
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    Jan 08, 2014 11:53 PM GMT
    Most likely they want you to hit on them.
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    Jan 08, 2014 11:56 PM GMT
    Trust me, the realistic side of me wants to laugh in their face and tell them that they would never stand a chance, but the other side of me understands that I am one (if not the only) gay person that some of these people in town know and will ever know. I want to live as a positive example the best I can, and so I say something like "Not all gay guys hit on straight men, you have nothing to worry about."

    I can't lie, at the end of the day I realize how sad it is that some straight guys would think that I would even look at them twice. But I'll just keep these thoughts in my head for now until I get caught on a bad day icon_twisted.gif
  • MikeW

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    Jan 09, 2014 12:40 AM GMT
    They sound like douches who deserve to be told you're way out of their league.
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    Jan 09, 2014 12:48 AM GMT
    LOL just downplay the incident and say something to your co workers like ** Oh that's okay, I have standards and I only hit on hot gay guys !! And you're not my type ! ** ** Zing!! icon_cool.gif
    An ex co worker sorta said the same thing to me back in 2006! I basically just told him, You're not hot enough or my type! Anyway, we kinda laughed about it and moved on.
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    Jan 09, 2014 1:16 AM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    killercliche saidThere's a saying that Homophobia is man's fear of another man viewing/objectifying him the way that he does so to women. I would guess this is more the case than anything else in these scenarios.

    ^^^Yup.
    The fear isn't that you'll find them attractive.
    The fear is that you won't.
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    +1
  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 09, 2014 1:18 AM GMT
    Avsigkommen saidI always just say "I only hit on guys who are gay."


    me too. 0% desire to hit on straight guys.
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Jan 09, 2014 1:26 AM GMT
    "Sorry, I don't hit on closeted homos."

    Easy. =]
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    Jan 09, 2014 1:40 AM GMT
    UGLIES and Straight UGLIES at that dream of being a sharp dressed guy, creative and with a bright smile. So gay men are an easy hit. They fail to consider that some hot straight men would knock the remaining 3 teeth out! POW!
    lol
    Freaky wannabes
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    Jan 09, 2014 4:19 AM GMT
    This is probably a bad thing to say. But when this situation comes up, I ask the straight guy..

    Me: Do you wanna bone every chick you see? Even the ugly ones?

    Him: No.

    Me: Yup. I feel the same about guys. *wink*

    Him: *silence*

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    Jan 09, 2014 4:26 AM GMT
    By you saying "I wouldn't hit on him cuz he's not hot anyway" makes you just as ignorant as those straight guys you're calling out. In fact, it's worse because their ignorance comes from the fact that they just don't understand the whole gay thing. Rather than being shallow about it, maybe educate them and explain how gay men don't hit on EVERY man out there.