Am I a pervert for liking young guys?

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    Sep 19, 2007 10:28 PM GMT
    I was chatting with a friend of mine the other day and I was said something about being around a lot of young guys and he called me a cradle robber. I like guys around my age as well but like young guys in their early twenties. Does this make me a pervert.
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    Sep 20, 2007 5:10 AM GMT
    No, it doesn't make you a pervert?

    If you were explointing them in some way, by say paying them for sex or buying them gifts in return for sex then yes I would say you were a perfect.

    Or if you are unable to see them as adults with opinions and a character rather than just sexual beings in possession of youth - that thing you lost many years ago then, yes, I would say you were a pervert.


    I have friends of all ages but I can't imagine having a relationship with someone in their early 20s because we would be at different stages in our lives.

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    Sep 20, 2007 5:25 PM GMT
    Nope. Not a pervert. Just curious though. Do you like younger guys only for hook up sex or do you also prefer younger guys when it comes to long term relationships.

    Of course you don't have to answer but I was just curious. :-)
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    Sep 20, 2007 7:10 PM GMT
    QUOTE:If you were explointing them in some way, by say paying them for sex or buying them gifts in return for sex then yes I would say you were a perfect.


    Interesting views there :)
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    Sep 21, 2007 10:45 AM GMT
    No, you're not a pervert. As long as you're not exploiting them and they're of legal age, I see nothing wrong with liking younger guys.
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    Sep 21, 2007 4:32 PM GMT
    JOREL1, Yes on both counts. Sex and relationship. But as I get older I want a relationship more than sex. So i do not know what a relationship with a young guy would be like. Maybe just as a older brother kind of thing.
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    Sep 23, 2007 1:25 PM GMT
    Could it some type of pleasure in being dominant? You're 41 -- lived longer, know more, well established in your career, more sexually experienced, etc. Could it be that you prefer to be with someone who doesn't have that experience (so that you can teach him)?
  • GQjock

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    Sep 23, 2007 5:51 PM GMT
    I used to think the way you do
    ...but some experience (and age) has showed me that
    there ain't that much in common btw guys over 40 and guys say under 25
    sex is sex but I think a relationship is difficult at best

    Like my Mom always used to say...
    "Young guys are like potato chips - they taste good but they're not very good for you"

    Thanx Mom
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    Sep 23, 2007 10:16 PM GMT
    No, Not at all unless he is a minor. My boyfriend is 14 years younger and before that I dated a guy that was 22 years younger.

    But I am seeing that the older the more mature the better.
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    Sep 24, 2007 1:11 AM GMT
    Actually, I think it depends on the two individuals involved. I've had relationships with guys older than me that turned out to be more immature, and guys younger than me that turned out to be mature beyond their years. I've also had the exact opposite experiences, too. So I definitely believe it depends on the people involved.

    Besides, you can't really help who you're attracted to, or who you fall in love with. If its there, its there, regardless of age or anything else.
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    Sep 24, 2007 2:09 AM GMT
    Wow. GQ your Mom told you that.

    Yeah maybe it is the father thing showing in me. maybe I should get married and have kids. But I am no good with women and I do not need any babies too take care of. My last BF was more of a baby than any child I know. Maybe I just want to help someone not make the mistake I made. Okay sorry for the ranting.

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    Sep 24, 2007 10:29 AM GMT
    I like young guys to look at and admire (18-25) but not to touch, since I am in a great relationship and would not want to put that at risk. Besides what would we talk about after the sex?
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    Sep 24, 2007 6:03 PM GMT
    I get flack all the time for liking older men. Generally because they are in their 40's. Just seems natural. I've tried meeting guys my age and have ended up disppointed. Thats not to say older guys are any better. On either end of the spectrum guys can be a wreck. What you like is who you are. If you are a pervert for being yourself, so is every other person.
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    Sep 27, 2007 3:05 PM GMT
    Why be so hard on yourself Chris. I sometimes feel the same way after sex. I think why did I just do that. But I get over it. I think you are a hot guy and anyone should feel proud to have you around.
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    Sep 27, 2007 3:49 PM GMT
    To Gregg and the other young guys out there, good for you, you are not limiting yourself in trying to find a compatible mate. I played softball with a couple this summer in which the age difference was 29 years (70 and 41). They seem perfectly happy. If you want to be happy in life keep an open mind you never know what package "Mr. Right" is going to show up in!
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    Sep 28, 2007 9:39 PM GMT
    How young? Under 18 your a perv. over 18 nope. I would date some one older if he's smart nice great since of humor, and espically if he looked like you. My folks might be a little angry cause your their age. Other than that keep the young guys legal
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    Sep 28, 2007 11:05 PM GMT
    there is nothing perverted about fun between two consenting adults.

    Now if you had been this guy on here once who said that he was crushing after a confused 15 year old then I would tell you differently

    But yeah, I see no harm in it at all. Especially if you're attractive and treat them with respect. An honest genuine guy is just that no matter what age you are.

    Just don't make the mistake that alot of guys do and use your stability as a way to hold onto to people. Its the biggest turn off for me when dealing with older guys. I know I'm broke, I only have 5 outfits to my name and I don't drive, but I don't need someone to swoop down and save me.

    Anyone expecting you to do that is a user and doesn't deserve to be in your arms. So in the beginning, I say offer the little bastards nothing. Then when they prove their loyalty give them the world.

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    Sep 30, 2007 5:37 AM GMT
    There is nothing wrong with relationships/hookups between men of very different ages, as long as they are both of legal age.

    Some older guys are still quite youthful-looking and energetic, so why should they limit themselves to just their peers when they can appeal to younger men?? Same goes for young (but mature) guys. I say, if that's their thing... more power to them!icon_smile.gif

    However, also keep in mind the Anna Nicole rule of thumb- if your partner/boyfriend is so old they are about to die, that may be pushing it!!icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 01, 2007 2:40 PM GMT
    sirkyous, sex between two consenting adults can be very perverted : )

    i get hit on by young guys all the time. maybe i've moved into the 'daddy' zone, i don't know. sex maybe one thing but i couldn't have a relationship with a twenty-something. my last bf was 40 going on 18. that was enough for me.


    when i was young i used to get hit on by older men. i went out with one for a while but i had to stop seeing him as i felt like a rent boy.
  • Just_Corey

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    Oct 01, 2007 6:58 PM GMT
    As long as you're not standing outside a school with candy in your hand or drooling at high school polo/wrestling matches, then no you're not a perv.

    I personally tend to date older men...last one was 23 years my senior. And contrary to what some people believe, I am not looking for a "daddy". It's just nice to date someone who can talk about things beyond how hot Britney Spears new single is...not worried about brand name clothing and doesn't start off his work week wondering what he's going to wear to the club on Friday. icon_confused.gif

    Also, older men tend to have had their fill of sexcapades and are actually able to commit.

    Let me use a cliche: Some men are like fine wine...they just get better with age.
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    Oct 04, 2007 10:31 PM GMT
    Trust me dakuk I knowicon_wink.gif

    I know I naturally seem to appeal to older guys because of my mentality. In fact a lot of them fall for me very quick so its gotten to the point that many of them I avoid for their own sake because I hate hurting peoples feelings.

    I've dated quite a few older guys, in fact the first guy I dated was 36 and the youngest guy I've ever been with was 26, I won't even tell you the oldest.

    even though lately I've been craving someone my own age.

    But like I said before, I see nothing wrong at all.
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    Oct 05, 2007 11:01 PM GMT
    no man its coolicon_cool.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 09, 2007 3:14 AM GMT
    I find younger guys that come after me and hit on me kind of intriguing (some have no fear or inhibitions, even after I tell them I have a bf), mainly because they are that age and so bold. I'm not really interested in them sexually, however.

    I don't think its an issue so long as you know the maturity level of most of them.....AND know that age.
    I don't want to hear or see you on MBNBC's "To Catch A Preditor"...
    (just kidding), but I have seen that program and its really sad......icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 09, 2007 1:36 PM GMT
    1. Having feelings, even for children, doesn't make you a pervert. In general, "pervert" is defined as morally corrupt, and as deviant in behavior. It is acting on the feelings that would make you a pervert.

    2. Everyone has temptations, whether to cheat, steal, lie, whatever. It is how you deal with them that defines your character, not what they are.
  • andydude

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    Oct 12, 2007 4:50 AM GMT
    Hey, I'm in the same boat. I like sexy guys, and some of them are much younger than me. I never really considered myself attracted to guys in their early 20s until I started using these social networking sites and I was surprised that most of the guys who IM me are much younger, like 18-25. So I opened up to the idea, and yeah, now I am attracted to younger guys too.

    One drawback though is that there are still plenty of younger guys that are only interested in other young guys and I find myself leary of reaching out to young guys in general, despite my online experience, because I don't want to come across as some older perv dude.

    And in terms of your friend, unless they are very obviously jokes, casual put-downs are just negative and reflect more on the insecurities of the other guy than on reality.