Akkarins saidSince we're all gay here, I think it's safe to assume most RJ members know what that feels like to be rejected, marginalized and treated as lesser humans beings for a trait that they were born with.
So my question is: why is that same rejection and marginalization directed towards gays who are of color? We feel rejected, undervalued, dismissed, marginalized, or otherwise flat-out ignored in this gay "community." As one RJ member put it, "Who cares about racial diversity?"
I don't mean to paint all white gays with a broad brush. I know there are whites who empathize and are willing to listen. But it's still true that most RJ members couldn't care less if all gays of color disappeared from gay clubs, dances, PRIDE parades, grindr, TV shows, even RJ - virtually erased into nonexistence.
But why? You would think that gays, of all people, would understand how unfair, how unjust, how dehumanizing it is to be discriminated and marginalized based on an inborn trait. So why isn't there more empathy?
First, if you're basing your assessment from what you see in these forums you need to reevaluate your methodology. The forums will appear to contain a strong racist white coalition because a small group of black members like to turn all discussions of race into a racist rant where they're the victims and every white guy hates them. That's all BS. Even this forum has a posting where the poster makes this assertion but then doesn't even have the balls to have his profile shown.
You ARE painting all white guys with a broad brush, there's no 'trying not', you've done it. It always goes back to how the whites treat the blacks, never how blacks treat each other (that's accepted), never how whites treat other ethnic groups (that's unknown I guess), never how other ethnic groups treat blacks (not sure why that's never an issue with blacks). Sure whites are in the majority and yes, there are certainly white racists out there. I would venture to say however, there is smaller percentage in the gay community than the general population (nope, I have no statistics to prove that so fire away). I think the issue here on RJ is that if you don't agree with the small vocal group then you're considered in denial and one of the racists because you've never 'walked in our shoes'. These's some truth to that, we have never walked in those shoes but always blaming someone else for who you are or what you become is total BS.
I never had handouts, I never got preferential treatment, I never was handed anything I didn't work my ass off for so I resent the idea that I treat others inappropriately because I'm white (therefore superior) and you're 'lesser humans'. That is extremely offensive to me in so many ways! I treat everyone as someone respected until I know otherwise. Am I racist because I don't have any 'buddies' on my buddy list that are black? I say no, I'm offended that no blacks have ever emailed me and conversed with me long enough to feel comfortable including them on my list, does that mean their racists? I have no blacks in my 'inner circle' of friends, does that make me a racist? I say no and my asian bf, asian, and latino friends would probably say I'm not racist either. Am I required to have a certain percentage of black in my personal inner circle to qualify as a non-racist?
So why would you paint me with your wide brush as being racist? Because I won't join the self pitty party of a vocal group of black when NONE of them has ever attempted to even get to know me (presumably because I'm white? Maybe because I'm old or perhaps just because I'm not 'fit' enough to meet their standards. (I guess that makes them racist, agist and fitist! (yeah I made that up…so what!)).