My Health Declines, RealJock Seen As A Problem, My Usage Curtailed

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    Jan 12, 2014 1:34 PM GMT
    A week ago I suffered a TIA (transient ischemic attack, which produces stroke-like symptoms). I quickly recovered, typical of TIA, and declined hospitalization, but began a series of out-patient studies.

    A heart specialist had me monitored in the clinic while simulating some of my routine ADLs (activities of daily living). In my case this included watching TV and using the Internet.

    Very revealing. My blood pressure went dangerously high during newscasts, and checking online news, too, and when RJ blogging. I've had hypertension for all my adult life, so that's not new, but this study identified specific causatives that induced unacceptably high peaks, that wouldn't be caught during ordinary doctor's office visits.

    Right now we're adjusting my meds, changing diet, adding mandatory daily exercise, while I'm cuffing myself at home hourly and charting the blood pressure & pulse results, annotating what my activities had been up to that moment. I initially wore a Holter monitor, but that's gone now, about the 4th time I've had one over the last 20 years.

    For the first few days I was told no Internet news or social sites at all. Then I could try the news, and lastly I've been monitoring RJ in lurk mode. This is my first post in about a week. I haven't joined any ongoing discussion threads yet.

    It's fortunate we have a week-long Key West trip coming up, planned since November, because I can include those BP/pulse results in my out-patient self-study, too. In February we'll look at whether any major changes need to be made to my lifestyle.

    I'm certain more walking & biking will be prescribed, they've helped with my BP in the past, maybe golfing will be approved, too. But I'm worried the Internet will be a problem. And that I'll be given BP meds that will take away my energy, as has happened before, nor do I want anything to dull my usual hyper New York City personality (not that age hasn't already slowed me down a lot), nor cloud my thinking. We'll see...
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    Jan 12, 2014 1:40 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear about that. It definitely sounds like you would benefit from mixing up your lifestyle a bit.

    I have noticed that some people get a lot more worked up about politics than others, and you might be one of those people. For me I find it easy to keep things in perspective because I recognise the futility of attempting to change one person's view at a time. Also, I like lots of people with different political views to me, and I dislike some people with the same views as me.

    That is just what works for me. Glad to hear that you recovered quickly.
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    Jan 12, 2014 1:47 PM GMT
    lol
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    Jan 12, 2014 1:54 PM GMT
    Ohno saidSorry to hear about that. It definitely sounds like you would benefit from mixing up your lifestyle a bit.

    I have noticed that some people get a lot more worked up about politics than others, and you might be one of those people. For me I find it easy to keep things in perspective because I recognise the futility of attempting to change one person's view at a time. Also, I like lots of people with different political views to me, and I dislike some people with the same views as me.

    That is just what works for me. Glad to hear that you recovered quickly.

    Thanks. My husband had a genuine double stroke, not a TIA, in 2012. But even he completely recovered very quickly, in days, because of quick detection & treatment. Some experts consider a TIA to BE a form of stroke, just mild. But neither of us lets illness get the better of us for very long.

    I'm definitely a person who gets "worked up" about politics, as you put it. But then I was raised on it.

    Both my parents held elective office in the 1950s, and on general & primary election nights our home phone would be jumping off the hook as the results came in. If my parents were down at party headquarters I was expected to take the calls and record the messages (no answering machines back then), and relay them as needed. And of course during the campaign I had stuffed thousands of mailouts, and even hand-delivered them on foot to homeowners, when laws didn't prevent kids from doing that.

    Some nights I would go to bed crying when my parents themselves or their candidates lost the election, or stay up late when the victory celebration came to our house, serving the adults their food & drinks, overhearing all the political chatter. So yeah, I still get "worked up". icon_redface.gif
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    Jan 12, 2014 4:22 PM GMT
    somersault saidlol

    Why do you even bother posting on this thread? People can already tell what sort of a human being you are.
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    Jan 12, 2014 4:23 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear about your health. It sounds like you're headed in the right direction tho, so that's good.

    Wishing you the best and don't stay away from RJ for too long now, ya hear?
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    Jan 12, 2014 4:27 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear this, ART_DECO. You were missed. I wondered what was up. Glad to hear you're still around and (relatively) ok.

    All of us 'old timers' should go for long walks, eat healthy and stay away from 'irritating' situations.
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    Jan 12, 2014 4:29 PM GMT
    Glad you had speedy recovery!
    Take care...
    Try calming exercise like Taichi, meditation, yoga etc...
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    Jan 12, 2014 4:31 PM GMT
    Glad you are doing better. You were missed. Habib was really worried about you. I hope that doesn't make your BP go thru the roof. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 12, 2014 4:39 PM GMT
    southbeach1500 saidI do find it ironic that a "gay men's health and fitness" website could be a factor in your recent ill health!

    Alright, Mr. Passive/ Aggressive... you can stop your stalking on that note.

    Art, I hope you are feeling better soon and you can find ways to manage your stress.

    BTW.. Since it's 2014 I am starting a new campaign where anytime I see Southbeach in Art's threads, I am going to write,
    Bury the Hatchet.
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    Jan 12, 2014 4:44 PM GMT
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    southbeach1500 saidI do find it ironic that a "gay men's health and fitness" website could be a factor in your recent ill health!

    Alright, Mr. Passive/ Aggressive... you can stop your stalking on that note.

    Art, I hope you are feeling better soon and you can find ways to manage your stress.

    BTW.. Since it's 2014 I am starting a new campaign where anytime I see Southbeach in Art's threads, I am going to write,
    Bury the Hatchet.


    And I'll write in blue: That's a two way street
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    Jan 12, 2014 4:58 PM GMT
    Glad to hear you've been recuperating!

    So much of our most accessible media revolves around interpersonal conflict. Athletic contests where there can only be one winner, radio "talk shows" that each are basically one dude railing for hours on end against people they don't like, convoluted spats among trivial "celebrities" packaged as daily "reality," split-screen back-and-forth political arguments, trollwrestling on Internet forums often over inconsequential matters.

    In my sports forums, "who won/who lost" is almost a secondary matter now. "Who should win" is tertiary. These days, the front-and-center topics are "Who is at fault? Who should be benched? Who should be traded? Who should be fired from their job?" Celebration of the contest or the nature of the competition is literally ignored.

    Virtually EVERYTHING is Rollerball now. There's so much out there with the deliberate intention of "getting your gander up."

    TV once included cooking shows where a culinary artist shares recipes he/she enjoys with viewers, offering tips and ideas the viewers could appreciate and share with friends and family. These days we're overrun with cooking shows where it's more important for the chefs to please a table of "judges" than the viewers, chefs on the verge of mutual cannibalization to win some overhyped "grand prize". "Which chef will come out victorious?" becomes more relevant than "How can I make a great souffle for my husband?" Then you, the viewer, can go online and argue with others over who deserves to win, adding all the more to the tension.

    I'd suggest that when you're looking for things of interest through electronic means, to keep your antenna up for this "Who Will Win the Political Argument/Final Rose/Drag Queen Crown/Championship" style of content and, for the sake of your health, try to weed it out.

    Make a concerted effort to watch "Dial Down" shows... nature? travel? real estate? NASA? Think of the type of things you and your hubbie could have on while you're trying to sleep, and watch them during your waking hours instead. Find shows where nobody has a microphone or a virtual soapbox.

    Same thing with radio. Do NPR non-news programs like "A Prairie Home Companion," "The Splendid Table," or "Car Talk" help sometimes? Find a special music genre you've always been intrigued by, and dedicate some time to listen to it more.

    Of course, on RJ, and I'm sure elsewhere, you know the types of topics that rile you up. Simply dismiss them out-of-hand. There is not going to be "that one time" where you finally get your long-proven point through to the thick skulls of posters who routinely get under your skin. Know that a few of these posters are probably getting paid a pittance to get your heart rate up in frustration, and move on from them altogether.

    Instead, create and participate in topics that might offer more collaboration with other posters than the "Everybody must agree with MEEEEEE, or else!" style of threads that predominates most internet forum communication.

    As always, it helps to have entire days where you unplug altogether. Find some good fiction novels to help carry you through the day.
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    Jan 12, 2014 5:19 PM GMT
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    southbeach1500 saidI do find it ironic that a "gay men's health and fitness" website could be a factor in your recent ill health!

    Alright, Mr. Passive/ Aggressive... you can stop your stalking on that note.

    Art, I hope you are feeling better soon and you can find ways to manage your stress.

    BTW.. Since it's 2014 I am starting a new campaign where anytime I see Southbeach in Art's threads, I am going to write,
    Bury the Hatchet.


    Stop trying to ascribe motives to me. And stop trying to stir up trouble. Thanks in advance.

    And I STILL find it ironic that a "gay men's health and fitness" site is a factor in Mr. Deco's ailments.


    I find it ironic that you posted at all considering the email you sent me yesterday. Tsk tsk tsk.
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    Jan 12, 2014 5:20 PM GMT


    Godspeed in your recovery Art! Just told Mom who got pretty upset as you and your guy are pretty special to her. She sends her best wishes.

    -Doug
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    Jan 12, 2014 5:21 PM GMT
    So sorry to hear about the problem, but very happy to hear you're making a quick recovery!

    Avoid the news for now. . . especially politics. . . and don't take anything you see on RJ too seriously. Just keep getting better! icon_biggrin.gif

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    Jan 12, 2014 7:12 PM GMT
    Why are you refusing hospitalization???? icon_confused.gif
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    Jan 12, 2014 7:18 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear about this Art.

    Praying for you

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    Jan 12, 2014 7:21 PM GMT
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    Jan 12, 2014 7:22 PM GMT
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    Godspeed in your recovery Art! Just told Mom who got pretty upset as you and your guy are pretty special to her. She sends her best wishes.

    -Doug

    Please tell your dear Mother I'm doing just fine, and convey our thoughts for her own health. And I hate to think of myself as "recovering", it was just a passing TIA. A red flag, but manageable.
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    Jan 12, 2014 7:32 PM GMT
    BlackCat90 saidWhy are you refusing hospitalization???? icon_confused.gif

    I hate hospitals. And my husband needs me more at home. I'd be frantic thinking of him home alone.

    The decision was made after I was evaluated for a stroke and showed negative on the MRI and direct exam, plus my symptoms had abated. I told them if I had the option I was declining an overnight stay. US hospitals are reluctant to admit nowadays, and I scheduled to return for more studies the next day, which I did. That's when they performed this stress profile on me.
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    Jan 12, 2014 7:55 PM GMT
    ART_DECO said...
    Very revealing. My blood pressure went dangerously high during newscasts, and checking online news, too, and when RJ blogging. ...


    This is why "Block Him" and "Ignore His Posts" are healthy for you. You don't have to get your blood pressure up reading bullshit from the usual suspects.
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    Jan 12, 2014 8:18 PM GMT
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    southbeach1500 saidI do find it ironic that a "gay men's health and fitness" website could be a factor in your recent ill health!

    Alright, Mr. Passive/ Aggressive... you can stop your stalking on that note.

    Art, I hope you are feeling better soon and you can find ways to manage your stress.

    BTW.. Since it's 2014 I am starting a new campaign where anytime I see Southbeach in Art's threads, I am going to write,
    Bury the Hatchet.


    And I'll write in blue: That's a two way street<

    No worries, If I see Art in an Southbeach thread being an ass, I'll also write Bury the Hatchet.
    Yes, their war is a 2 way street. I'm not here to take sides, but I do point out it's tiresome to the rest of us on RJ.
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    Jan 12, 2014 8:27 PM GMT
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    southbeach1500 saidI do find it ironic that a "gay men's health and fitness" website could be a factor in your recent ill health!

    Alright, Mr. Passive/ Aggressive... you can stop your stalking on that note.

    Art, I hope you are feeling better soon and you can find ways to manage your stress.

    BTW.. Since it's 2014 I am starting a new campaign where anytime I see Southbeach in Art's threads, I am going to write,
    Bury the Hatchet.


    And I'll write in blue: That's a two way street<

    No worries, If I see Art in an Southbeach thread being an ass, I'll also write Bury the Hatchet.
    Yes, their war is a 2 way street. I'm not here to take sides, but I do point out it's tiresome to the rest of us on RJ.


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    Jan 12, 2014 10:26 PM GMT
    Instead of going cold turkey, perhaps you could just cherry pick the "feel good" topics. Your boyfriend could pick them out for you and you wouldn't even have to see any of RJ's typical THE SKY IS FALLNG subject lines.
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    Jan 12, 2014 10:53 PM GMT
    Please get to feeling better soon. You NEED to be here!

    You and I are cut from the same cloth as we do what we do because we CARE. We care about the world we live in, call attention to what is wrong and improper and call call out those that hate us and want to do everything in their limited power (and limited resources of intelligence) to undermine the gay community. That includes our non-athletic and non-gay posters here.

    "Bury The Hatchet" is a good idea, however.....

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