my buddy hates me in a silly one sided fight

  • dommyinlosang...

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    Jan 13, 2014 6:59 PM GMT
    i wish i could explain it all in detail but it would be long and boring... and sound nuts

    the short version is my friend got mad at me for cancelling a party (a gay horror group i host) i was splitting the night up... my place for movies then a midnight screening out... no one wanted to go to the midnight show... and that's what i was looking forward to. it frustrated me.

    so i cancelled... before that i ranted to him online about it... he misunderstood my exaggerated humor laced rant to be aimed at him and got mad for that and that i cancelled (called me selfish)... i still had guys drop by but was low key (turned out great actually) and invited him and he mistakenly thought i did it at last minute so he couldn't make it (crazy not true) was all in his head. (i did end up going to the midnight with one friend and had such a great time)

    so for months after that i sent numerous messages. he didn't reply. i was shut out. we used to chat every day.

    finally he writes back. he explains his paranoia to me. i think he's finally coming out of this fog. i explain everything to him. tell him it's not true. (i host and treat people all the time to parties and hangouts and don't lie and we never had a problem) he seemed fine. i thought he got over it.

    but he started replying to my messages but just one word answers. now he's ignoring me again like a teenage girl in a spat. i've tried over and over again to be nice and send messages etc. and nothing.

    then last fri he had his own horror night... didn't invite me lol... (i was going to disneyland anyway but i found that funny and sad)

    i don't play games. i don't do passive aggressive. i'm not even mad. tried being honest and nice to him. what do i do? it seems so silly.

    what do you do with someone in a one sided fight? do i give up?

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    Jan 13, 2014 7:29 PM GMT
    Some people will hold on to a grudge and never let go. He's obviously not your friend so you should forget him and move on.
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    Jan 13, 2014 11:00 PM GMT
    Really? You want to be back in a friendship with somebody so butthurt?

    Have fun. I'd drop him, but that's just me.
  • dommyinlosang...

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    Jan 14, 2014 2:19 AM GMT
    Aristoshark saidReally? You want to be back in a friendship with somebody so butthurt?

    Have fun. I'd drop him, but that's just me.


    he's normally very nice... it's such a waste of a friendship but i guess i should just give up
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    Jan 14, 2014 2:22 AM GMT
    Sounds like a lunatic.
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    Jan 14, 2014 2:27 AM GMT
    tl/dr what happened?