Is it ok to date someone who doesn't make a lot of money?

  • Chainers

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    Jan 14, 2014 3:13 AM GMT
    So question, lets say you are on a date, and the dude is handsome, hot with a nice body, and a friendly nice guy with a good personality. You get along fine and can potentially see something with this guy working out, but there is one problem...his income. It isn't luxury high. Like he is just making ends meet. Would you still date him?
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    Jan 14, 2014 3:17 AM GMT
    No.

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    Jan 14, 2014 3:17 AM GMT
    Yes. This thread seems superficial, don't you think?
  • Chainers

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    Jan 14, 2014 3:18 AM GMT
    Do you two care to elaborate?
  • RGW94

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    Jan 14, 2014 3:21 AM GMT
    Do you make enough money for yourself?

    Does he make enough money for himself?

    Then what does it matter? Money and jobs can vanish, as long as he's got his shit together, who cares how much money he makes?
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    Jan 14, 2014 3:28 AM GMT
    Sure, I would date him. Income varies, depending on the industry and where each person is at in their career. I've had my own ups and downs in income. So I can relate.

    As long as the guy has aspirations/goals in life, I don't think shutting him down right away is fair. After a few dates, one should be able to get a better idea of where he's at and where he wants to go in life. Then you can decide whether to continue or part ways.
  • Chainers

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    Jan 14, 2014 3:28 AM GMT
    I guess my question is this.

    You have a super hot nice sweet family guy who makes ends meet but doesnt have disposable income. Do you hold out and hope to find someone who is the complete package or settle for the super hottie without a lot of money?

    Also, lets focus less on income and more on jobs. Lets say he is working as a server at a restaurant (a nice restaurant at that) and doesn't really know what he wants to do yet.
  • Chainers

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    Jan 14, 2014 3:30 AM GMT
    YourName2000 saidI don't think so, I mean, income is one of those things that never changes --it's totally fixed (that's why they call it "fixed income"). So whatever he earned last year will be exactly what he earns next year and the year after.

    It's like if you like guys with blue eyes, don't go out with a brown eyed guy....it's just not fair to either of you.










    /sarc


    Your trollish comment is not helping my situation.
  • Chainers

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    Jan 14, 2014 3:35 AM GMT
    you guys arent helping me :-(
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    Jan 14, 2014 3:40 AM GMT
    Chainers saidyou guys arent helping me :-(


    Wait, is it sorta reality show where we are to decide how you will live your life and whom to date? kool
  • Chainers

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    Jan 14, 2014 3:44 AM GMT
    Okajuurou said
    Chainers saidyou guys arent helping me :-(


    Wait, is it sorta reality show where we are to decide how you will live your life and whom to date? kool


    No but I am in a very sticky situation and I do not know where else to turn. RealJock is supposed to be a place to come for help, yet all you superficial people won't tell me if I am right in my gut to not want to date this guy because he doesn't make money.

    I mean, my family comes from riches, I can't just date a poor person like they are people right?
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    Jan 14, 2014 3:51 AM GMT
    Chainers saidyou guys arent helping me :-(


    You already know how you feel about it.
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    Jan 14, 2014 3:54 AM GMT
    Matiz said
    Chainers saidyou guys arent helping me :-(


    You already know how you feel about it.
    Yup.
  • Chainers

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    Jan 14, 2014 3:55 AM GMT
    26mileman saidNo, don't do it. You would just end up with someone like me.

    Fine dining would mean the Ikea Cafeteria, hot rod would be a Geo metro,nice house would be 800sq ft in a sketchy neighbourhood, great career would be a dog groomer and nice clothing would mean shopping at a thrift store.

    Life will be a continual struggle with little enjoyment. You will be judged and considered an embarrassment.icon_wink.gif


    Why are you guys attacking me? It is a legitimate question!!
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    Jan 14, 2014 4:02 AM GMT
    Well if you really like the guy money isn't an issue. It may cause problems trying to make ends meet but if you TRULY like someone you deal with life throws at you. If you aren't willing to make sacrifices and fight to make things work then why waste your time?
  • RGW94

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    Jan 14, 2014 4:02 AM GMT
    Does he make you happy? Is he a good person? Is a hard worker...?
    Does how much he makes really matter?
  • onefortified

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    Jan 14, 2014 4:02 AM GMT
    OP already knows the answer to the OP's question.
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    Jan 14, 2014 4:07 AM GMT
    26mileman saidNo, don't do it. You would just end up with someone like me.

    Fine dining would mean the Ikea Cafeteria, hot rod would be a Geo metro,nice house would be 800sq ft in a sketchy neighbourhood, great career would be a dog groomer and nice clothing would mean shopping at a thrift store.

    Life will be a continual struggle with little enjoyment. You will be judged and considered an embarrassment.icon_wink.gif


    I'll see your 800 sq ft place and raise you being homeless and sleeping on the floor. Clearly I win the bad candidate contest!
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    Jan 14, 2014 4:15 AM GMT
    Well, two questions...

    1) Is his income not luxury high, but he is in a career he loves? Does he have the potential to advance through that career over time and make more money?

    2) Is his income not luxury high because his work ethic has placed him permanently in a lower tax bracket?

    Because if you are serious, I think that's the thing you are weighing. You are still young and so is he.

    I am certainly not in a luxury tax bracket, and it's really only been in the last year or so that I have been able to dig myself out of some holes financially, but I am in a career I love and once I complete my doctorate I will be in a position to move forward and make considerably more than I make now. However, I am a teacher. I am likely to always shop at TJ Maxx over higher end stores. I will have student loan debt to pay back the rest of my life, which will always effect my credit score. Not a flashy life, but a content one.

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    Jan 14, 2014 4:15 AM GMT
    Chainers said
    26mileman saidNo, don't do it. You would just end up with someone like me.

    Fine dining would mean the Ikea Cafeteria, hot rod would be a Geo metro,nice house would be 800sq ft in a sketchy neighbourhood, great career would be a dog groomer and nice clothing would mean shopping at a thrift store.

    Life will be a continual struggle with little enjoyment. You will be judged and considered an embarrassment.icon_wink.gif


    Why are you guys attacking me? It is a legitimate question!!


    Not an attack Chainers, just being a realist, nothing more.
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    Jan 14, 2014 4:16 AM GMT
    TheQuest saidWell, two questions...

    1) Is his income not luxury high, but he is in a career he loves? Does he have the potential to advance through that career over time and make more money?

    2) Is his income not luxury high because his work ethic has placed him permanently in a lower tax bracket?

    Because if you are serious, I think that's the thing you are weighing. You are still young and so is he.

    I am certainly not in a luxury tax bracket, and it's really only been in the last year or so that I have been able to dig myself out of some holes financially, but I am in a career I love and once I complete my doctorate I will be in a position to move forward and make considerably more than I make now. However, I am a teacher. I am likely to always shop at TJ Maxx over higher end stores. I will have student loan debt to pay back the rest of my life, which will always effect my credit score. Not a flashy life, but a content one.


    He's trolling. You have to know this.
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    Jan 14, 2014 4:25 AM GMT
    yes
  • Adozark

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    Jan 14, 2014 4:34 AM GMT
    No, and furthermore , he needs to be reported so he can be put down.
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    Jan 14, 2014 4:39 AM GMT
    Chainers saidSo question, lets say you are on a date, and the dude is handsome, hot with a nice body, and a friendly nice guy with a good personality. You get along fine and can potentially see something with this guy working out, but there is one problem...his income. It isn't luxury high. Like he is just making ends meet. Would you still date him?


    I thought you gave up trolling ages ago. icon_confused.gif
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    Jan 14, 2014 4:40 AM GMT
    Where have all the sugar daddies gone?