Are there guys who don't need poppers for sex?

  • bigguysf

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    Sep 20, 2007 4:34 AM GMT
    Poppers, pot, any of it... Are there other guys out there who are clean, sober, and just want to experience the person you are with "free of mind-altering substances"? I sometimes feel like I'm one of a very small minority.

    Would love to hear from other guys who feel the same way. For guys who like all of that other stuff, that's fine. Please don't hate on this post. There's no judgment here, just frustration that I get made to feel like I'm odd because I want to experience sex with the other guy. Okay, there's lube, condoms, and maybe a cockring too. :)

    So am I the only one? Are there other guys out there who like their sex totally clean and sober? Even better, are there any of you in San Francisco?
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    Sep 20, 2007 5:17 PM GMT
    I had an encounter with a dude recently and he was taking poppers. I don't understand the need either. I never take them or any other substance. Not that I'm a prude. I just prefer it sober.
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    Sep 20, 2007 5:18 PM GMT
    Hey B-Guy,

    I'm sure there are people in relationships that have "enhanced sex" but my partner and I don't use drugs or alcohol to deliberately enhance our sexual experience.

    I tend to think that poppers, pot, alcohol, etc. are used more with recreational sex. I think for some people, it's all part of the hook up experience. I guess it really depends upon what you prefer.

    Some people probably use it to highten their experience while other people prefer to be fully checked in during the experience.

    It may also depend on what kind of sex you're having. People that are into maybe S&M or fisting may require assistance of drugs to make it more pleasureable.
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    Sep 21, 2007 8:36 AM GMT
    Well Big guy,
    I'am not in SF but I like it straight up Brother, there was a time when I like all of the additives but now a day's it is all clean.
    Could be like Jorel1 said it is more recreational side of sex.
    Razak, that what happens when you have an encounter with a "dude". HAHAHA
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    Sep 21, 2007 10:25 AM GMT
    Years ago, I would have argued that sex is better under the influence of various substances. But that was then... now, I prefer to be completely clean and sober, and completely aware of the experience. After all, if you can't remember it the next morning because you were too drunk or too stoned, you've forever lost the experience... and if you're that drunk or that high, you're probably gonna miss out on all the nuances of the man you're with. In my opinion, its those nuances that make the difference between "just sex" and "incredible sex".

    So, the answer is that you're not the only one that feels that way. Unfortunately, I'm no longer in San Francisco...
  • GQjock

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    Sep 21, 2007 10:39 AM GMT
    I'm usually pretty much a whatever floats your boat kinda guy
    but I met this really really cute guy and we went back to his place after meeting at a club
    ...he goes into the bathroom
    AND comes out this gibbering - frenetic nutcase
    to the point where I said, ok - I'm outta here

    isn't sex enough anymore?
    or am I askin too much?
  • maximumrisk

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    Sep 21, 2007 9:13 PM GMT
    Hey GQJock, what did he do to make you go away?

    Actually, I used all the stuff that was described in this thread while sex. But due to a little experience, I stay away from all that. Sex is either good or not. If you have to be stoned to make it good, the odds are high that this will go nowhere.
  • zakariahzol

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    Sep 21, 2007 10:16 PM GMT
    I NEVER EVER used those stuff for sex. I have been with one guy who sniff some bottle and hand it to me to try some. My ex use to take some pill so he will last longer , just because he want to satisfied me longer. I ask him never to do that again.

    Why use all this garbage. Sex is good just the way it is.
  • maximumrisk

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    Sep 21, 2007 10:19 PM GMT
    Maybe they have a little Selfasteem problem and think they need it to satisfy you.
  • GQjock

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    Sep 22, 2007 12:04 AM GMT
    Oh...it was def coke or Tina
    he was bouncin off the walls like some juiced up little monkey
  • teeshyrt

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    Sep 23, 2007 9:39 AM GMT
    no way i just get a splitting headache, i prefer a cockring and LUST
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    Sep 25, 2007 4:11 AM GMT
    I'm a total advocate for the use of creativity and experimentation without the use of (drug) substances to enhance sexual pleasure. All-natural is all I need.
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    Sep 26, 2007 8:42 PM GMT
    Thank you bigguysf for posting this topic. I too have wondered why so many guys have to be buzzed or high to have sex. My partner and I never use drugs, hell we don't even drink that much either. When we see other neighbors and friends all buzzed out we wonder what is going on with these people? Can't they have a little fun without all the mind-altering substances?

    When we have sex I want to remember everything. I want to be in the moment and be with my partner, not share him with a popper or a joint. I want to be sober and enjoy the mind and body connection with him. I want to feel the sweat and taste him each time. If I am tweaked out or drunk I might miss that. I want my sex to be like the coffee... good to the last drop... icon_wink.gificon_lol.gif
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    Sep 28, 2007 10:56 PM GMT
    Super clean, I guess I am a prude when it comes down to substances. Growing up African American and having been in societies where homes were falling apart because alcohol and weed and other drugs, Its just not for me.

    I am my brain. Sometimes its my biggest strength and at others my biggest flaw, but I am my mind. I thrive on it whether I'm happy, sad or whatever. I desperately need it to be functional.
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    Sep 29, 2007 1:45 AM GMT
    While I do enjoy smoking pot, I dislike most other drugs, even alcohol.

    I always have sex sober. I'll smoke pot with my buddies, but when I'm being intimate I want absolutely nothing inhibiting my mind or my abilities.
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    Sep 30, 2007 3:43 AM GMT
    I agree with Chris11102. I've been with a guy who uses poppers, and it just give me a headache too. I react really badly to a lot of smells, and poppers are one of the worst. I don't see why people use them.
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    Oct 03, 2007 7:37 AM GMT
    Poppers are just a bad turn-off for me. Sorry, but they just smell bad. Don't smoke, so no. May have a drink or two if out before, but don't really want to be drunk when in bed. Usually I want to remember icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 03, 2007 6:34 PM GMT
    I never have or need "help" when I'm getting it on...the phermones in the air tend to be enough for me!
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    Oct 04, 2007 5:38 PM GMT
    Poppers? Pshaw. Amateurs is what I say.
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    Oct 04, 2007 5:43 PM GMT
    I have never used anything to help me enjoy sex, au naturel is the only way to go. If my brain and body are not good enough then there is something seriously wrong!
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    Oct 04, 2007 6:35 PM GMT
    always natural and clean! (what's the popper anyway?)
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    Oct 05, 2007 1:13 AM GMT
    .........PSA......




    Never, ever use poppers if you have taken cialis or viagra!!



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    Oct 08, 2007 2:56 PM GMT
    I used to have a HUGE alcohol and pot problem. I loved to do poppers in my late teens-early 20s a lot too. But by then poppers just weren't fun anymore and haven't done them in nearly 20 years now. But yeah, if there was sex, I also HAD to have had copious amounts of booze and usually mass quantities of pot too. Then I had the sex and the next day I'd barely ever even remember it. Then I had a stroke and came beyond this close to dying. And now when I have sex, I find the entire 'keeping it clean and (nearly) sober' bit to be sooooo much better! A few months back when I topped a guy for the first time since then, it was, for me, one of the most spiritual experiences I ever had. Yep, that's the real way to go.
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    Oct 17, 2007 2:45 AM GMT
    I live in El Lay and get a kick out reading the M4M Craigs List ads. The ads commonly state: No PNP (420 and poppers OK). I get a chuckle out of this. In Los Angeles you can buy pot from stores with a bogus medical card. I am not into either of these. I once dated a guy who had a rutual of going to the fridge to get his poppers every time we had sex. It made me feel like I wasn't enough. Good God, we were barely twenty at the time! What's with that.

    However, as a top only kinda guy, ANYTHING that will gett a hottie to take it is ok by me. I guess.
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    Oct 17, 2007 3:53 AM GMT
    I don't do drugs. Don't need em.